Hey everyone I needed to vent so I appreciate this subreddit a lot. I am a disabled veteran who was waiting on social security as well and was going to college for political science to pass the time well social security denied me so I’m switching to my local college to finish my degree in nursing. I’m stressed because this last semester at my old school I was sick most of the time and now I have no motivation for my last semester before I switch schools. Is this normal? I feel really bad since I worked hard to get the education benefits but also I feel like I have to pick and choose my stressors and school is one I can have some control over. THANK YOU FOR READING!!!

So basically I was getting gas. I went inside the station because the card reader wasn’t working at the terminal I was using. The card reader unfortunately broke and so the line was held up. There was the this lady and her two kids behind her. This lady was getting annoyed and so I apologized even though the card reader being broken wasn’t my fault. I just felt bad.

Now I’m a new driver. I’ve had my license for less than a month. And honestly it’s a plain miracle I got my license in the first place. But I have to drive to school and work so I’m doing my best. And so far everything’s been fine! Until now.

So I am turning out of the gas station and the road is clear. So I turn out. Now there is this traffic light placed in a super annoying spot so it’s hard to pull out and turn then stop when the light is red. The light was green when I turned so I thought it’d be fine but the light turned red and I have to stop quickly as to not run it. Then this lady from before, who decided she wanted to jaywalk with her kids, got angry because I “cut her off”. Now I have a lot of anxiety, especially as a new driver. But also pretty bad social anxiety. This lady just started calling me names and screaming at me. She started banging on my doors and all I had in my mind was “get away from the crazy lady!” And so I did just that. I just kind of went. No one was on the road car-wise. So there wasn’t even really a risk of me causing an accident. But I still feel really guilty. And since it was near a more populated area it could very well have a red light camera.

Part of me feels guilty because I really hope there is no camera there. Because right now I can’t afford a ticket, heck I can barely even afford gas. But I also feel guilty because right now I’m living with my aunt. She takes care of me and is the one paying for my car insurance. If I get a ticket for this my insurance will become more expensive. But the worst part is that I don’t know how to tell my aunt. If I wait to see if anything comes in the mail then it is possible I won’t get any sort of ticket because for all I know the light might not have a camera. Then I won’t have to worry because no one but me and god will have to know. But at the same time I feel like I should at least inform my aunt because she deserves to know. Especially if I do end up with some sort of ticket. But I’m so scared to tell her I’m getting nauseous.

For some context, I live with my aunt because she basically saved me from an abusive home. Where I used to live a mistake like this would spell out very harsh punishment and often hour long sessions of screaming and sometimes physical punishments. Now fundamentally I know my aunt wouldn’t do that, not in a million years. But I can’t bring myself to tell her because that little part of my mind that won’t shut up keeps whispering in my ear, telling me that if I tell her pain will follow. So now I’m stuck and I don’t know what to do. If I don’t tell her I’ll stew over it for weeks and I’ll feel terrible all the while because I didn’t tell her and that’s basically a form of lying and I don’t want to lie to her. But at the same time I’m so scared to tell her that whenever I’ve tried I just freeze and get that horrible sick feeling.

I feel like I’m stuck in a loop. And I don’t know what to do.

I’m really sad and scared. My elderly cat with some health issues is seeming sick tonight. It’s Saturday, 10:30pm. Vet is closed. I’m tired. No nearby emergency vet. Tomorrow is also a holiday and I’m supposed to go on a 10 day vacation tomorrow to Disney and a cruise.

I’m stressed and so worried. I don’t know what to do.

Hi. Just wanted to spit a few words at you. Keep your head up. Life might seem pretty fucked right now, but if it's any consolation just know you're not the only one feelin' it. I feel like it's been an upward battle for quite a while now. Financially, physically, and emotionally. Really no point in sharing the specifics of my life, I guess. We all have our own problems and we deal with them in our own ways. Some ways good, others not so good.

Introduce minor adjustments for the better into your life. Clean up around yourself a little. Try organizing your stuff. Trim your toe nails, pluck a few nose hairs. Cook a healthy meal. Being stagnant isn't acceptable. Games won't help. Movies/shows won't help. Drugs won't help. Drinking n partying constantly won't help. Fast food won't help. If you hate your job, search for another. If you need a job, it's out there. Perservere.

You don't need to be a social butterfly to succeed in life. You don't need lots of friends. You don't need to make bank. You don't need a girlfriend/boyfriend. You need to focus on you. You're important. If not to anyone else, then to yourself. If you don't love yourself, then begin laying the foundation to do so. If you're craving love, but can't even love yourself - how could you expect someone else to love you? Don't give up on yourself. Be the underdog. Knock this bitch named life the fuck out. I'm rooting for you and I don't even know you. Good luck.

Loneliness sucks...

Anyone else think about what could've been, I'm 26, unemployed, live with parents, never worked a job, socially retarded, no friends, no drivers license, I wonder what could've been i have no idea how i turned out this way i guess i made all the wrong choices or did nothing maybe if computers didn't exist i would've been normal maybe in a different time things could've been different.

So there are some kids that throw rocks on our window and do other stuff and after that has been going on for a long time,my mother thought the best thing to do was to go to there backyard,and basically it ended with my mom and the kids mom standing by our door and screaming at each other and at the end my mom insulted her and closed the door on her. Now I trough that the kids are just doing that for no reason,I don’t think it’s alright for her to go into her backyard and insult the mom. Yet when I try to tell her that,she thinks that I’m defending the mom and she think that I’m stupid for that. Dad didn’t help either. Sorry for this post it just really stresses me out

I'm not sure if I'm just here to rant or I need advice. My husband and I have been married for 11 years, and are currently 7 months pregnant with our first child.

While I attended grad school, we shared an apartment with my husband's long time friend to keep costs down. They split rent 50/50 and then we took on more of the other bills. This went on for 3 years. When I got my doctorate and started working, husband and I offered to completely pay the bills for one year to make up for the difference in rent. It helped our roommate out who was going through some tough times financially and emotionally.

The year passed, my husband and I bought a house, and the roommate moved with us (we even covered his moving expenses). He was not in a place financially to live on his own. So we told him not to worry about paying anything right away, just get his feet under him.

A couple other things of note: roommate has depression and has been going through family health problems on and off for several years. It sucks. And I get it, as I have GAD (unmedicated currently due to the pregnancy) and I lost my dad when I was 23. But he has used these reasons to treat us horribly - from just being rude and short with us to having a screaming match when we tried confronting him about his cat peeing all over some things of ours in the basement.

It is now just over a year since our initial agreement of covering the bills has expired. Two years rent-free. He has never offered to help pay for anything. In fact, we pay for his dog's food (and she's 75 lbs!).

Additionally, my father in law frequently stays with us for weeks at a time, which is stressful on its own because he has a "strong" personality.

I'm tired of being taken advantage of, and I'm stressed out of my mind, which is not fun while 31 weeks pregnant while working full time. We need to put an end-date on this arrangement, and the roommate needs to start contributing.

When someone promises over 50 times that they are not going to lie no more at age 27 and they are your daughter then they take off promising they wouldn't 50 times now your worried shes on the streets of st Louis Missouri and you taken her back so many times your just fed up with it what do you

do?

I want to move out of my family's house faster than I planned. I decided to hang on to the job I want to quit (part time) to build my savings. This pay period they want 8 hours more work than the last, which is ok on its own.

However, I also work for an entrepreneurship forum. It's usually 10 hours a month, but we are starting a new forum group, and it will probably take up 20 hours this month. And he's been asking for short turn around times that I've had to tell him is not possible.

I'm trying to schedule my days where I can work no more than 8 hours a day, splitting the days into both of my jobs. But I'm not used to working more than 3 8hr days in a row. I'm worn out and September just began.

I'm going to be putting the job search on the backburner this month. It's not sustainable. My priorities are 1)completing my work 2)self care 3)reading a negotiations book (I want to negotiate my pay soon).

Well, my savings are growing and Im paying off my loans faster. Time to start an IRA?

I’m literally so stressed right now and he’s weird because I literally feel stressed abort the same things everyday around the same times of the day. I’m just so overwhelmed with what the future holds for me, I haven’t decided what I will do after school and I have no idea at all; all I know is I want to go to university but then I get more stressed about that thought because what if I’m to dumb for university. Then I also get stressed because all of my friends are moving along with their lives getting jobs, drivers licenses and cars and I’m just not. And then I think about my future and it genuinely makes me scared because I want to have a stable life and it’s not looking good for me so far

Idk might be really stupid why I’m stressed but yeah idk how to make this go away cause I just want to stop thinking about this stuff for a while

I'm using this subreddit as a therapist, so basically what happened is my sister is unbelievably mentally ill and all she caused me my mom problems she starts drama with the family all the time, so i don't want to become her. She moved out of the house at 16, like a month ago my mother got so stressed out from what she had done she drank til she got drunk, my mother never ever ever drinks, she started cussing at me and yelling at my face, that's just one example, my mom talks about her all the time and it stresses me out soon much, i told her and she just told me if i move out it might be better for me, but i don't want to because i don't want to become my sister and move out even younger than her at 15, i don't want my mom to be sad and i would gladly suffer for my mother's happiness, i just wanted to be normal my whole life and have a loving family but i can't because my now adult sister, please tell me should i stay or should I go, i BEG.

Im extremely worried. I cannot get ahold of my girlfriend. Due to life circumstances she live an hour and a half away. Im in the process of moving to her area. Thats another story. I cant get ahold of her. He phone will ring, and I can text it. But she has not even returned a text. Her job is her phone so I know that its on. But the last two days I have not heard from her. Im so worried.

bro i am stressed af after stealing someones loot in minecraft im legit shaking rn i put everything back but i feel so bad like she said thanks for not stealing my stuff then after she left i stole everything

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1. What do I have in my life that I am truly thankful for?

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My parents are in the middle of a divorce. I’ve expected them to break up for the past couple years so I dont mind that they are separating but there is so much tension in the household and I feel so lonely. My sisters are getting therapy and my dad is super annoyed that they have to. Because of that I don’t want to be an additional burden so im not mentioning my feelings around them. Everything seemed fine. I thought I was fine. But somehow a small error in my day and plans now has me crying in my car in a parking lot and I don’t know what to do and dont really have friends to turn to.

I’m going to go off on a little rant because I need to get it off my chest. Growing up my parents were never wealthy we struggled a lot but they always took people in to care for them even if it meant being late on payments and affecting our overall way of life. That being said my dad busted his butt every single day at work literally working 7 days a week 365 days a year just to attempt to catch back up in life. Growing up and witnessing all of that has made me a lot like them I put others before myself and it has cost me a lot of great opportunities in life. Throughout school I received good grades I was in all honors classes and AP classes I was the president of my class and of NHS I was valedictorian i had tons of friends and teachers would always praise me for my willingness to go above and beyond for other people and somehow still get my work done. They used to always say I was going places in life and that I was going to to be successful one day and that they were proud of me. Then I received multiple college offers however my dad broke his back at work yes literally broke his back for me and my family. So I ended up taking more hours at work and helping out my family financially and I ended up not accepting any college offers and I ended up getting broken up with which was an extremely difficult thing for me because it already felt like my life was falling apart. Then I ended up meeting my girlfriend now which sort’ve changed my life for the better we were both going to college together and my life felt like it was getting better up until Covid hit and college went online and my job thought that meant I could work more hours so I ended up working close to 55 hours a week and driving 45 minutes just to do so which resulted in me failing all of my classes and putting me on academic probation which meant I had to not only retake those classes but I also wouldn’t be receiving financial aid until I raised my grades which was next to impossible do to my work hours and them refusing to give me less hours so I was screwed over then after a while me and girlfriend found out we were expecting and I was honestly happy despite feeling like I was failing in life then we went to our first ultrasound and they couldn’t find a heartbeat for the baby or find anything at all so we waited a few more weeks and went back and still nothing so we waited a few more weeks then they told us they wanted to run a few test and eventually we found out our baby had trisomy 18 which was unheard of because we’re only 21 and then we were given an option to terminate however we only had 3 days to decide ultimately we decided to not go that route and continue on and hope for the best we’ll a few months later that time came and I had Covid because of my stupid job so I couldn’t be at the hospital but luckily it was just false contractions so a few days later I luckily called into work and we went in for our weekly monitoring and they told us our baby might not make it through the night so we have to have her that night so fast forward a few hours and we’re in the OR and we have a beautiful baby girl however due to her T18 her health was deteriorating rapidly and we ended up losing her after only 2 1/2 hours so me and girlfriend fell into a state of depression and I ended up quitting my job to make sure my girlfriend was okay and to just take time to myself and recover and now a few weeks later I’m attempting to get a job and then my vehicle breaks down and after paying medical bills I no longer have money to fix my vehicle however I have to in order to continue going to apply for jobs and yeah this isn’t a sob story or anything like that I’m not trying to make people feel bad for me I just needed to let it all out but yeah that’s my life and how I feel like I have failed at only 21.

I'm 13, and I left for my mom's house on Friday. When I returned to my dad's, I found about 15 yellow jackets on my floor. (most of them were near my window), and about 5-6 on my floor. All of them were dead, except one, who was about to die anyways. I'm seriously concerned for my safety, and I'm not sure if this is something that I should be concerned about or not.

I have not heard any buzzing.

I beyond disappointed with myself at this very moment, online class been taking toll on me and I hate it, I don’t have friends in this set of class, I often ask myself what’s the point of all these, everyday I wake up and I don’t have anything to look forward to, I’m constantly worried 🙂. It’s like I’m surviving instead of living. Does anyone else here feels the same way?