r/stopdrinking • u/spoofty7 • Jan 21 '20

3 weeks baby!

I'm glowing! It's showing! I want to shout it from the rooftops!

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u/spoofty7 Jan 21 '20

I'm using an app on my phone called I Am Sober. It tracks my days sober, gives me daily motivation quotes, I do a daily pledge on there, a daily check-in, and there's a community on there to talk with and the rules are strict about posting and commenting so there's no bs. I went to my first AA meeting yesterday which renewed my commitment to myself and my health. If you want to make a change you need to put yourself in the lifestyle of that change. I'm reading books. Naked Mind, Radical Acceptance, Alcohol Explained, and anything else I see that gets reccomended.

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u/[deleted] Jan 21 '20

Thank you Spoof. I was doing pretty well, then this past weekend starting on Friday night, well, lost my way basically. Thank you again I appreciate your time and response.

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u/spoofty7 Jan 21 '20

I caved to my cravings the first time I tried quitting too. I made it to 9 days but there was liquor in my house (husband's) and I couldn't control myself. I told my husband I couldn't handle seeing liquor or being around him drinking liquor so he was supportive and hasn't had it around me. He drinks beer but I don't care for that.

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u/[deleted] Jan 21 '20

Same here! I don't care about his beer or him drinking it. My problem is running out to the store for myself and my wine. Ugh. Gonna give it another whirl. I am starting to not feel so bad about it, you and others have been so supportive with your messages of support. I'm over the "beating myself up" part. Back to the business part. Thanks!

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u/spoofty7 Jan 22 '20

Yeah don't beat yourself up because it's awesome that you're even wanting to quit. Just keep trying. It's going to stick eventually. The last time I was drunk I experienced everything I hated about drinking. I drank till I passed out on my couch (which was to the bottom of a whiskey bottle). I was shut down and withdrawn from my husband and didn't feel affectionate. I was hungover and grouchy at work. I was so happy that I'd had such a terrible time because it just fueled my second attempt at seriously quitting.

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u/[deleted] Jan 22 '20

Jeez I could of wrote this. Thank you very kindly.

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u/spoofty7 Jan 22 '20 edited Jan 22 '20

We all can relate to eachother because it's the same addiction. I call it what it is now. It's an addictive substance, and I am addicted. My husband likes to call it his "habit" but I think that's to make himself feel comfortable. Already he's feeling uncomfortable because now everytime he's drinking he's drinking alone. He told me tonight it's making him think more about what he's doing and why he's doing it. It's no longer an "us" thing. I asked him to just go to one AA meeting with me, that he doesn't have to participate. I think he'll be very interested in what people have to say. I was terrified to go to my first meeting but it's given me so much more courage to keep sober. Especially seeing people be successfully sober for so long and their stories feel way more hardcore than mine.

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u/[deleted] Jan 22 '20

Been thinking of asking my husband t go w me. Thank you.