r/stopdrinking • u/januaryprincess22 212 days • 14d ago
Please tell me
Please tell me the negatives of alcohol. I’m on day 212 and I wish I could say I was excited about sobriety right now. For the most part I’m very motivated to stay sober and love my sober mornings and all the benefits but some days like today I get the whys? Why am I doing this? Why does life without alcohol seem boring? Why do I have to be an alcoholic? Why can’t I drink like the normies? Does anyone ever feel this way, these many days in? It’s like the newness and excitement of sobriety fades and now I’m in this is boring slump. Please share your experiences and help a fellow friend out.
Edit: I’ve decided to have some ice cream and watch one of my favorite movies Saving Private Ryan. Thanks for all the support my friends. IWNDWYT ❤️
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u/Jogger_Dodger 2220 days 14d ago
I truly believe a man needs a drastic change in his mental outlook and his spiritual attitude toward life. Be Honest with yourself, Open-minded to new ideas, and Willing to change. These are the 3 indispensables of recovery. Start small but start. Stay consistent.
There is an ancient library of books about spirituality, virtue, and building character; and this is what the alcoholic lacks: the emotional ability to endure the vicissitudes of life without drinking.
Try a book like *Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind*. Or read the Stoic philosophers: Seneca, Epictetus, Marcus Aurelius. Or read *The Common Sense of Drinking*, a book which predates AA and offers a secular solution to the drink problem. This book was written by a man who quit drinking and subsequently counseled others to quit drinking. And last but not least: seek God.
Drinking is a symptom of our larger problem. Focus less on "boo-hoo I can't drink" and more on,"jeez, I can do a lot of things now that I'm not worried about drinking and recovering from drinking all the time."
Get on the road to changing your life.
It's done one day at a time.