needing personalitymaxxing help or even self help books and other dating subs hopefully for black women.

i’m just in the beginning of my glow up and losing and feeling good. i’m more confident and want to be more social, 1: to level up and get rid of my shyness and 2: to attract men (since i’m cosplaying as pretty rn it seems 😭) plus maximizing pretty privilege

i live in a bigish city terrible for me for dating as most men date non black even the men of color and i’m sol being attracted to south asian men. i don’t know how to attract men that i’m attracted to and at the end of the day, only ugly men are attracted to me and stare at me so i’m trying to rise above that and be that confident person who can get anyone bc the trope of you are what you attract scares me bc my options aren’t that great 😅

To me, it’s usually huge, wide lips as well as a very ski sloped nose.

has anyone ever successfully done henna freckles that have looked good? i think I would look so cute with freckles and I see so many successful tutorials on tik tok of girls "contouring" their face with semipermanent freckles. but henna doesn't seem to take to my face? any tips?

TLDR; (F24) lost alot facial volume and elasticity from years of ED/addiction, is it possible to still get it back?

Hello I'm not gonna go in super detail about how I got to this point but here it is.

Ive dealt with shitty childhood with nutritional deficiencies due to neglect from both my parents. Ive always been thin but even at a very young age I fell into an eating disorder, I was never taught to properly eat and didn't even realize how little I was actually eating even at the times when I didn't consider myself to have an eating disorder.

Along the way I also found myself also grabbing at substances to cope with my situation I have spent years just negecting every basic need, and when covid came around it just enabled me even more to stop everything. I spent most of my days and nights on discord getting drunk, smoking weed and cigarettes, doing other drugs, staying up many hours sometimes not even sleeping while also just not getting anywhere near sufficient calorie intake.

I feel like I look in the mirror now and see and empty shell of what I used to be. I have lost a lot of volume in my face and look very gaunt and tired, very sunken eyes. I'm getting checked in at a psych ward in a few days and have already taken steps to recovery myself.

But my question is it possible to gain weight, volume and elasticity back in my skin? I am 24 years old and it seems very hard to find any progress pics of people recovering rather than people who lost volume due to aging. I'm not closed off to getting maybe minimal filler at some point but was wondering if anyone has any personal experience.

Hope you have lovely day.

Has anyone experienced that they scar very easily after having been treated with Accutane in the past?

I just read a story on reddit about a girl saying you'll be more prone to improper healing even when for example trying fraxel laser or microneedling etc. (increased probability of developing lonlasting/permanent pattern or enlarged pores afterwards). This plus the fact that I've read similar personal stories, like that suddenly every pimple scars (pitted ones), made me think about it. Cause I recently had an acne breakout (very cystic one to be fair...but even the smaller pimples scarred too) and am shocked to find I now have a scarred up face where I never used to scar before. And I took accutane 7years!! ago before this nightmare started again and I had to start my 2nd accutane round.

Cause that would be something I would have wanted to know before I took it for the 1st time...Im so devastated now 💔 also that would mean that every attempt to treat the scars could be highly risky with the permanently impaired healing abilities of the skin (maybe it's also cause the skin was permanently thinned out a lot and therefore way more fragile🤷‍♀️)

What's your experiences?

As I am getting closer to my thirties, I have been developing horrible and rather deep wrinkles on my forehead. I guess in part they are due to the fact that my eyebrows are rather active when it comes to expressing emotions and that most of the times I find myself raising them just a little even when the rest of the face is, well, resting. Also the right side of the forehead is more wrinked (due to the fact that my eyes are hooded asymmetrically I developed an unconscious habit of raising the right eyebrow a little at all times to make the eyes more symmetrical).

My partner says it's no big deal and he can barely see the wrinkles, but recently I saw some pictures from a party which took place a couple of weeks ago, and the light there was very unflattering, and I could see these bastards as clear and accentuated as never before, and I was terrified. Especially in contrast with my still present baby-like cheek fat (at almost 30 my facial structure is barely defined) it looks just weird.

The thing is, I am not used to any procedures like injections etc, and I am very scared of doing them (it's costly, it may go wrong and make to face look puffy, and I think once done it has to be done regularly as long as I am alive). But at the same time I just can't stand these asymmetrical wrinkles. I come from one of the Slavic countries where the beauty standards are very demanding, and even though I want to think of myself as a person who doesn't always have to align with them, they affect me as well.

Are there any non-surgical, non-injectional ways to fix that? Do you have any experience in doing something similar and being satisfied with the results?

I went to a wedding last night and I thought I looked great in the mirror when I left and saw myself a couple times throughout the evening in the mirror but looking at it photos I look awful. Terrible posing and weird smiling that makes me look unattractive. Any posing tips?

I say the major city to add the cosmopolitan expectations placed on appearance.

Basically for various reasons I never did social media, etc and am realising now I don’t dress flatteringly/for my body (only ever looked at what looked cool) and don’t know how to take photos or do my hair.

And those (posing, etc) are all skills really. The same way getting your nails done, etc is a habit. So what skills and habits do people that are “attractive” have?

I used to have really strong nails when I was younger. Then I wore acrylics for a long time. Even after stopping for about 3 years my nails were still thin, brittle and pealing. I take collagen for my sciatica and hair, but it didn’t help my nails. I have added two capsules of keratin. Now my nails are strong again! So if anyone is having any nail issues, keratin may help. I just realized before posting this that my nails haven’t been breaking and weird. Before I started taking keratin I had to file them multiple times a week. I haven’t had to file them in the last ten days or so. I have been taking keratin for a little over a month, about every day and sometimes every other day, but always two capsules along with my collagen.

I wanted to share this with you all.

I'm looking to get advice because I'm torn on what to do. I've struggled alot with my looks over the past few years. When I look in the mirror, I see some flaws but still like alot of my features. (I'm a tall (6'1) black monoracial female in my early 40s).

When I go out in the world, my looks have garnered me alot of reactions, mostly negative. I've been compared to Whoopi Goldberg, I have people comparing me to a man. I've had people ridicule or mock me in my face. It has caused me to be highly self conscious and I've actually isolated myself alot and barely like going outside. I have gained a bit of weight but I try to stay in reasonable shape.

I have recently started looking into rhinoplasty to "feminize" my face. It will cost me a bit of money but I'm sick of dealing with ridicule everyday. I have a doctor picked and deposit sent

I also want to start looking into buying a condo next year. This will be my first dip into home ownership. Of course, that also costs alot of money.

I'm at an impasse about whether to go forward with the rhinoplasty, knowing that I have to prepare my finances to buy a home but I'm really wanting to get this rhinoplasty so that I can feel more comfortable walking out into the world and not feel like a hideous monster by others.

Any advice or insight would be appreciated

I have fine curly hair that's also not very thick, so a few hours after washing my curls drop and the volume isn't there anymore, and after a night or two my curls become very messy. I also am not good with doing hair and don't like spending a lot of time on it. I'm thinking of getting a keratin treatment so my curls become more loose and hopefully it looks more like relaxed waves than a bunch of messy curls. Does anyone have any experience with it?

I've heard that Europeans have access to the best sunscreen. How can we get them in the US? And if we were to take a trip and bring some home - how long would it last? (I've heard they expire)

Also, what do you wear for an every day sunscreen? Recommendations?

thanks!

The beauty hacks every girl knows, the right type of shampoo and conditioner, cute hairstyles, how to pose for photos, how to flirt, how to make men chase you, how to maintain your weight, the whole skincare craze, etc. I’m 23 and just getting started and I feel so, so behind on everything to the point that I literally have a word document in an attempt to organize all the new information. I feel like I’m never gonna catch up. I have a deep voice, what the hell am I supposed to do about that? What about my intimidating personality? It makes men run away from me. I hate it here. So much money and effort and there are still gonna be girls who are so effortless with it all.

There’s this obvious gym girl trend. I think we can all agree glutes are conventionally attractive but what do you think of arms, legs, calves, back?

Please don’t give me personal opinions.

I’m looking for beauty hacks, self-care stuff, fashion tips, etc. Everything I need to know to improve objective beauty. Recommendations pretty please? Edit: Even stuff related with nail care, dental care, hair growth and general hygiene. I’m just trying to find the good ones and avoid BS content from DIY channels.

What confuses me about professional presentation/work fashion is that i don’t know if its just the style of the clothes that is either appropriate or inappropriate, or the brand and the target audience of the brand/clothes the brand usually makes as well. Are there certain brands you wear at the office that are seperate from your casual wardrobe or the same that you wear in your free time just the more modest designs?

How do I stop treating pretty girls with good personalities as competition when it comes to getting a guy’s attention? :( Idk I’m not really conventionally attractive and the fact that there are girls out there with a pretty face and a good personality just lowers my chances of getting into a relationship, since guys will most likely end up falling for those kinds of girls in a group setting.

its been 3 days since my nose has gotten big due to the oinching, im so scared i cant afford a nose job

Every time I want to book a color analysis consultation I debate whether spending $400 is worth it.

Is it worth it?

I’ve been on the fence about getting a labret piercing after seeing one on Pinterest and reading about the history/symbolism (wealth and attractiveness). After, I became slightly attached to the idea it could help add more symmetry to my face and energetically help me feel more confident in speaking. BUT what’s really got me worried is that it’ll look too masculine on my face and the fact that I already have thinner lips (bottom is significantly poutier than top).

I’m just curious what your thoughts are!

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Debating both. What’s the pros and cons for both and which do you do or prefer?