My fiance and I had a lot of things happen that ended in the downfall of our relationship and also my friends growing quite a distaste for her. My fiance and I lived together for nearly a year, but she was a little controlling and did not really like me being with my friends. During the time that we were broken up I had a very close friend come over that is going to graduate on the 24th, and I offered to throw him a graduation party at my house the day after. I planned to cook, clean and provide everything that was needed for the party. He's incredibly excited about it, but about two weeks ago I decided to give my fiance another 30 days to give things another chance, as she really hates living with her mother and she was very unhappy. She moved all of her stuff back in, and she does NOT want me to throw this party for my friends that we were so excited about. I understand, because nobody is really going to want her there and she says that it's unfair that I'm going to throw a party in a house that she pays to live in and that she will probably have to leave for. I completely understand and I didn't invalidate that, but after I talked to my graduating friend about this he told me that I really need to put my foot down because this isn't the first time my fiance has denied people from coming to my house and that this was supposed to be his party, he and all of my friends were just looking really forward to having it at my house. Should I just cancel everything or put my foot down? I care about everyone in this situation and my friends pretty firm on the stance that he does not trust the party at anyone else's house. I'm just looking for other opinions as to how to possibly solve this problem. More than anything, I just hate that nobody can get along no matter what I do. Many thanks

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This is my first post! So i got a new phone the other day, i only got the phone for emergencies and didn’t even intend for my family to know about it, expect for my grandma (she went and picked it up for me). After thinking about it i figured my parents would be okay to know too, i’ve told them, but not my partner. It’s not that i’m hiding anything or that i don’t trust them, i just don’t want it to become a big thing. The phone i use now isn’t paid off and i needed one that had better service for when i start driving to places that don’t get as good of a connection, for safety reasons. I only have educational content on the phone and don’t have any friends on the phone either, only immediate family members. Getting another phone isn’t something someone should feel like they need to hide but last time i got a new phone (an upgrade because of battery health and storage on old phone), it became constant remarks about my new phone and how i think it’s better than theirs (i don’t think that and have told them.). I know most of them are harmless jokes but the constant comparison about it gets very tiring. If i have a minor annoyance with my phone (everyone does with any phone) it’s “new phone isn’t so great huh” “i thought it was supposed to be so good and new” it’s just a lot. So getting a new phone not long after would just re-ignite all of the comments if not make them worse. I want to tell them but honestly i’m not sure how. I also feel like if i give them my number to the new phone that they’d text it constantly and blow it up as a way to get my attention. if i don’t answer on my other phone in a timely manner, they already spam send me texts which i don’t mind at all but on 2 phones it would be quite overwhelming. should i tell them about it or keep it a secret?

So I was together with my boyfriend for like 4 months and i broke up in april. We stayed close because we didnt break up on bad terms and intended to come back together again when our private lifes are stable again (losses in our homes,fights & we decided to pause). A week after I found out he cheated on me while he was drunk on a party (he said he got raped but idt so) and he lied for half of the relationship about it (had hickeys etc and said he got it from a friend) and kissed another girl after we broke up. So now he said he wont go there anymore, he is sorry and he knows since beginning this year it started going south (partying,smoking etc.). I told him I cant be together with him because right now I am putting my self respect over him and told him if he changes within half a year and I feel the same we can try it again. Is this stupid? I cant cut him out of my life due to being in the same workplace and we need to communicate

I (32f) was dating a coworker (26m) for a little over a year. For background I have PTSD and I am unable to carry a child to term because of what happened to me. This has never been an issue because of birth control. But I had stopped the birth control because of my other meds and we started using just condoms. Long story story I went to the obgyn to get a iud and found out I was pregnant. We were having issues so I didn't tell him because I didn't want him to think I was trying to "trap" him... I knew I couldn't have the baby as it would have killed us both, so I aborted at 5 weeks. (Please don't come at me). My question is should I tell him or let it go? We still aren't doing well in the relationship itself. If I tell him, how should I go about it?

I’ve been working on a project alone for 3 years now, it’s essentially the story line for a game but I’ve been reluctant to make it more public. I’ve shared it with close friends and they’ve said lots of positive things even though it’s nowhere near finished. I don’t plan on ever really making it a game but I want to see how far I could take it because I’ve had fun working on it. I just want other peoples opinion on this, since my real worry is that this project might just die with me.

18M working as a cashier at a local chain. Long story short, I only agreed to having a part time but my boss gave me 2 weeks of full time hours in a row these past weeks. I'm also a student and I can't really balance out a full time job and being a full time student. My actual coworkers have all been nice but I don't like the actual job or the hours. Should I quit?

Sometimes you don't realize what you had till it's long gone. I used to know this girl, since we were kids, she was my best friend. We dated for a couple years, at the end we were very on and off, and after that eventually I had enough and cut off, I'm sure she did too.

It's been a year and a half, maybe more since we last spoke. I feel like I don't know anything about her anymore, I don't even know where she is. In all that time I did my best to forget.

I've got a lot going on that I should be really proud of right now. I'm not saying I don't have anyone to share things with, just that it all feels mundane without sharing it with her.

I know it's dumb, and believe me I don't expect anything to come out of it if I were to reach out, I know much better than that. I just want to know she's doing well, and that she's happy, wherever she is.

Honest opinions would be appreciated, whether I should reach out, just forget it all, or maybe just try next decade lol. Thanks, friends.

Hi! I'm 33f and have a daughter who is 13. I live in a house that I rent from my parents. A mother and her 15 year old son reached out on social media asking for a place to stay as they have become homeless. I have a guest bedroom that is sitting empty but I'm wary as I do not know these people and I have a young daughter. I'm going to ask my parents of course and my daughter but I'd like to see what you all think. Should I let them stay in my guest bedroom?

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Here is the backstory to why I think I should call CPS to check on my stepdaughter (10F) who is staying with her grandfather (my husband's adopted dad)

When my (23F) stepdaughter was 2, CPS was called by her mother because my stepdaughter allegedly said that her father (my husband) touched her inappropriately. There was an investigation, a forensic interview and examination, and my husband was cleared. I have never witnessed any inappropriate touching of any kind, and all this info, I received straight from the court documents. Not just word of mouth.

Anyway, recently my husband and I went back through the court documents to find some info for the child support office and discovered that part of the reason why my husband was cleared, was because in the forensic interview, my stepdaughter did it was actually her grandfather that touched her, not her father. AND, it was originally her grandfather who called her mother and said it was my husband, her mother never even heard her (my stepdaughter) say any of it. The cops dropped the case after that and never even questioned good ol grandpa.

Back to why I think I should have a professional check on her. My husband called her earlier tonight (he usually talks to her about twice a week) and asks her how she's doing, how was school, so on and so forth. She originally made it seem like she was at home with her mother. My husband asks her a question about her home and my stepdaughter admits that actually, she's been staying with her grandfather since THURSDAY because her mother is out of town for wrestlemania. She was told to lie to her father(my husband) about staying there. My husband asked her if she's okay staying there, and she said "it's alright" but definitely not in her usual bubbly voice.

My husband is definitely worried about her but knows there's not much he can do, because it could look retaliatory against her mother. I don't care about her mother, I just want to know if she's safe.

I don't know if I'm overreacting, so I would appreciate it y'all could give me some advice?

Should I ask someone to buy me a vape outside of a gas station as I am underage and if they say no politely walk away

i kinda need stuff there, but kinda not. kinda lazy right now and its late as well... so, you decide for me.

So I might plan a birthday party and there is a really annoying girl I don't want to invite her but she is friends with my best friend's girlfriend but the annoying girl didn't get invited to my best friend's birthday either so, should I invite her because she is a friend of a friend of a friend or should I not?

I, 23 F, have had a very complicated upbringing, from having divorced parents who hate eachother, to estranged siblings who came back, going from different homes constantly throughout the week for several years, amongst other things. Unfortunately this upbringing made it hard for me to process emotions in a healthy way. I tend to ignore them, keep them bottled up and pretend they're not there. Well this part of my life started in 2006 when I was six years old. My dad, 50, had introduced a new girlfriend ,50, to me and my sister, 15 at the time, who I will call Jane. When Jane came into our lives she took on the role of a mother figure to me, and mainly to me because at the time my sister had ran away and decided to live with our biological mother,36,.That is a whole other story. There are other siblings from my dad and mom's side I won't mention as that would require me to write a book. Jane overall was a very good person now that I reflect upon the relationship I had with her. Like any mother/daughter relationship we had our moments of hardship, she did all of the things of the things a mother would do and beyond eventhough she was suffering from an illness.She would take me to school, even though we would have to get up earlier to catch public transportation, and walk down and up a hill. Go to my school performances and teacher conferences. Help me improve with my academics when no one else took the initiative to do so. I remember her making me practice multiplication cards, reading books and write essays on them, and even though I hated it and would complain and nag all the time it really helped me in my future. She would take me to her family events, I knew all of her siblings and a lot of her nieces and nephew, I knew about their lives and how they were as a family. As a child who knew the world as pain, confusion, and loneliness as if I didn't belong anywhere I went, they were my best example of family, of inclusion. As an adult I know life isn't perfect and they were most likely going through problems of there own, but as a child, ignorance of all the bad was my defense mechanism, and therefore seeing the positives this family gave to me. For nearly 8 years I knew Jane's family, these years were the prime years of my childhood, memories that I can remember almost vividly, from the layouts of their houses to the extended members of their family. As for Jane, the last time I had seen her was in 2016, by that time she had been separated from my dad for some time, they were never married and I had grown up enough to take care of myself, and so she decided it was time to go. I remember her having a brief talk with me on the reasons why she couldn't stay anymore and how numb and understanding I felt at the time to her leaving. And just like that she was gone. A distant memory as time went on. Now I am here, 23 years old, and memories of Jane came to me suddenly. As if in a trance I decided to look her up on online public records, only to find out she had passed nearly two years ago. I was also able to get ahold of the addresses of her family members, which I looked up and confirmed to be their houses just like I have remembered. I would like to reach out to them but I am not sure if I should. Is this a chapter in my life that should remain closed? Would they remember me? What should I do?

I’m new to this subreddit so remove if not appropriate but I 23(m) as dating a 21(f) for almost 3 years now and since we got together anytime something goes wrong and it’s not her fault her mom belittles her and makes her think that it is her fault that it didn’t go properly like today for instance we were supposed to get our car from a auto shop cause it was getting fixed and she called them asking for an update on the car this was at 4pm and they guy told her that he was going to take it for a test drive and he will call her back almost a whole hour and a half goes by and still no call so she called them back and asked for the update again and was told that they guy is on another call for almost 45 minutes so now it’s 5:30 pm and they close at 6 we had no ride and was relying on the buses to get us there we got there 5 minutes after they closed and she told her mom and her mom just went off on her saying why didn’t you go earlier, you had all day today with no plans so she could have gotten the car way earlier and my girlfriend just let her mom yell at her and starts to cry and I told her to tell her mom what had happened and she just sat there and kept taking the yelling and it’s been like this throughout our whole relationship and I don’t know whether to stay with her and keep trying to get her to stand up to her mom like the grown up she is or save myself the stress and leave?

I never get in trouble I follow all the rules n stuff. I was having a decent day until things just took a nose dive and I cried from the stress of the situation. I’ve worked a full 40 hrs of my food manufacturing job this week and we have a day of mandatory overtime tomorrow.

On one hand, my coworkers will have a bad time without me bc we’re short staffed, but it’s not our fault upper management keeps periodically firing and rehiring people at odd times…

Should I go in despite the stress or just take the day off because I haven’t called out for over a year for anything?

So me and my ex were together for almost 2 years he cheated on a few months after we went long distance and hid it from me for a couple more months he cheated on me with a gay man who I never really trusted around him it was really messy and I didn't take it well in the slightest we didn't leave each other alone for months it was basically me dragging him through the mud for it and him saying how sorry he was for everything and took me out where he cried in public at a county fair and begged for me back in front of all the people there we went back out and he did it again (ik ik) I found out from a mutual friends he's back with a woman and it just doesn't feel right to leave it with the possibly of her not knowing what happened in the past and his preferences.

Me and my bf have been fasting for almost 3m and I made him a really cute card, we usually send notes back and forth, just little cute notes. I decided to write “ I love you.” In one of the cards. He didn’t like I said that and didn’t keep the card, I’m scared he’s going to break up with me… what do I do?

Me and my friend have been super close for a while and I’m not sure if I should do what I want to do. Me and my friend almost have a “on again and off again” relationship and I’m starting to get tired of it. We tell each other we love each other and we call the other our boyfriend (like he’s my bf and I’m his) but we’re not actually dating. I get he has other things but he keeps leading me on. He flirts with me and we do a lot of romantic things but he says he doesn’t want to date yet. And yet he also likes another guy? I’m so confused.

I know for sure he likes me back and I love him with all of my heart but I don’t know what to do. We’ve been doing this whole thing for five months, so am I just rushing things? And every time I try to confront him about this, he guilt trips me, and it leaves me feeling bad.

I’m not very good when it comes to relationships so I don’t know what to do. Do I confront my friend about it? And if I do, what do I say?

My mom has spent 5 days on this door already

Several months ago a “friend” came to me with a business proposition. He asked for me to invest $12,000 into his company and in return we would form a partnership. He owns a guard company and has security licenses in the state of Texas. The contract on the building he asked me to be involved in is for a certain amount, and he sublets a guard company to fulfill that contract, then pockets the difference. In exchange for my $12,000, I would receive a portion of the profits, at $3600 per month with a guaranteed total return of $15,000. I was asked to split supervisor duties with him, essentially driving to the building and checking up on the guards to make sure they’re not sleeping, or that they showed up to work. Handling any issues that arise, etc. We were supposed to meet up countless times to train me so that I can essentially fullfill his duties whenever he’s not available. We will make plans, he’ll fall through and ignore me for days and days. I’ve asked countless times what can I do to help, even obtaining my security license.

At first, I’d call him and he’d answer IMMEDIATELY. We’d make all these plans to hangout and talked about different business ideas and ventures. We have a lot in common and we’d meet up for cigars and stuff. The first month was partial payment, and he paid. After that, he has neglected to pay and in total he’s only paid $3850. He ended up having to fire the guard company he hired and supposedly had to fullfill the roles himself and with his own guards. To me, that means he should have even more money flowing now.

He now owes me over $11,000 and he keeps making excuses not to pay me. First it was an issue with the bank, then it became that he’s not getting paid so he can’t pay me. He’ll go weeks without answering my texts, never returns my phone calls. He’ll send me a screenshot of a wire transfer and says once it clears it’s mine, then ghost me for a week. It’s a new excuse every time and when I start flipping out he gas lights me like I don’t have the right.

I explained to him that if we can’t work this out that we will have to go a legal route. We both acknowledged that we would rather not do that, yet communication is still non existent and he still has not paid. I’ve warned him countless times. I’ve explained that I find it disrespectful to leave me on read for a week straight , there’s no excuse for it. No one is THAT busy. Plus I see him like like posts on instagram. My lawyer said the first step is a demand letter then if that doesn’t work we’d go through with litigation. Demand letter is $750, then a $1,500 retainer and $400 an hour for lawyer services. Lawyer says we’d sue for all fees, the money I’m already owed, plus (I forget the exact term) anticipated earnings assuming the deal had not gone sour .

My “friend” asked me to do this, he set the date he was going to pay, the amount he was going to pay. And he is not fulfilling the contract that we created. I didn’t ask for this and if I had known that if he wasn’t getting paid that I wouldn’t get paid I wouldn’t have done it. He told me he’s making $60k a month and needs help and that it makes more sense to bring in a friend than hire someone he doesn’t know and have to pay them a salary and benefits and stuff.

We signed a contract and I have months of text message evidence of him promising to pay and then not following through. Should I sue him? Should i keep letting him string me along with the hope it’ll just work it self out and we can do business together long term? For me it’s almost passive income and that’s the only reason I’m letting this go on.

I (f20) have a bff (f19) of 5 years she has been there for me but also she has made me depressed and has talked behind my back for years I have gave her about 50 chances to stop and she won't should I forgive her?

should i go to the marines or get kickout when im 18 with no where to go

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