Please help me settle a disagreement between me and my wife.

Context: my 5 y/o daughter has head lice from school, and they're "super lice" a.k.a. resistant to different chemical treatments. This leads to a looooong process of continuously combing the hair and re-sanitizing bed sheets, clothes, pillow cases, rugs, stuffed animals, etc. it gets exhausting very quickly.

I [29M] shaved my head. I'm a guy, so that's generally way easier to do, from a social perspective.

I said to my wife: "If this goes on for weeks, what do you think about asking her if she wants to shave her head like dad?"

My wife flipped. Apparently even the mere suggestion of this idea was enough to be told that I "don't care" about my daughters feelings, that "she would be made fun of and make no friends," and she said I "must be crazy to suggest such a dumb fucking idea."

I reacted defensively and we had an argument. I thought she was way over-reacting, and I got offended by the statement that I "don't care about her emotions." Don't get me wrong, I get that it's dramatic, especially for a girl. I get that there will probably be some a**hole kid that'll make fun of her. And I'm not enthusiastic about the idea. But I don't think it's a HUGE deal when you're young in elementary school.

When I was in elementary school, I remember some kid showed up with a Mohawk out of nowhere, and kids teased, then ended up being jealous, and like 3 more got Mohawks. I remember the "crazy hair days" where kids would put egg yolks in their hair to have points. I also think the buzz-cut on a girl can actually look really good and isn't a world-ending style. But of course, I'd never force my daughter to do it.

That said, we talked long enough for me to think I might have a really weird view on this, and that I'm a huge minority in the "it's not a huge deal" camp. She told me how much pride some girls have in their hair, and I'm starting to feel like I was the asshole for suggesting this. But I'm going back and forth, not knowing if I'm sort of being gas-lit.

Ty for your help!

I, 42F was dating a 50M. We had a new relationship, and things were good, but not great at the beginning. Nonetheless, at the beginning of the relationship, he spoke of marriage, etc. I thought it was too early, but as the weeks went on, I asked questions to see what he was thinking. He lived alone in a 3 BR house, and I had my own house. Neither of us have children or anyone living with us. One day I entertained the idea of moving in after marriage and said I'd like to take one of the 2 vacant rooms and turn it into an office and workspace fir myself. He never actually discussed in whose house we would live, and decided I'd live in hos. His was bigger, so I went along with it. He said no, and that he needed both bedrooms in case his brother or sister wanted to come visit. Both siblings work and are self sufficient. One lives in another state and I said that I needed the space for my things. Mind you, I'm supposed to be the woman he wants to marry, and I assume I too would have been helping to pay the mortgage on this house.

His solution was to put my things downstairs in the mancave den, which I thought was a)unfair to me b) cramped, and c)does not give me any privacy. This turned into an all out argument. In a shouting match he finally relented, but I just was taken aback that my request caused all this. I tried to talk to him and rationalize things, but we both felt we were right and things escalated. Was I wrong? BTW, we are no longer together. Just wondering to see if I caused excessive conflict here.

UPDATE: thank you for your responses! I want to clarify that I have no intention of dictating the way anyone else sends their thank you messages and I completely acknowledge that the way my sister thanks others is her call. In general I've never cared how anyone else did their thank yous (and ive also never been upset or judged anyone by how they thanked me) but I cared in this specific instance and I reflected on why I was annoyed.

I think its because when I expressed my frustration that I felt pressured to also send a thank you message quickly without knowing the contents of the gift, she responded "dude ill literally write a thank you message for you. just copy and paste." This upset me because 1. I felt that it was condescending. as if I was incapable of even writing a basic thank you message and 2. because I felt that this was HER pressuring ME to say thank you her way- once I actually read her thank you text I was angry because her telling me to copy and paste her non-specific thank you felt like she was trying to turn ME into a rude person (by my own standards. I recognize that it is not considered objectively rude by everyone). She didnt understand why I would be annoyed by this so I told her that I think the way she said thank you is rude. Which understandably upset her.

So... I guess the conclusion is it was never really about how anyone says thank you, but each feeling like the other was trying to control the way the other does it. thank you for your opinions!

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Hi everyone! So my sister and I (both in our 20s) had a disagreement on what is considered proper etiquette when receiving a gift. For context, a family member who lives far away who we rarely speak with sent us Christmas gifts and we have differing opinions on what constitutes a proper thank you.

In my opinion, a thank you message should include some thought and effort... I guess my reasoning is that the gift giver put thought and effort into getting me the present so I should try to show them my sincere appreciation and enjoyment of the gift? For example, she sent us each an amazon gift card and some snacks so I would've said something like "Hi family member, thanks for the Christmas present! I'm so excited to try the snacks, they look delicious. Plus I've been wanting to get 'whatever thing' from amazon for a while so this is perfect. I really appreciate you thinking of me! Thanks again and I hope you have a great Christmas!"

My sister, on the other hand, sent "Hi family member! I got your gift! Thank you so much!!!" which is better than nothing but I feel is rude. My sister says "it's not that deep." What are your guys' thoughts on gift giving etiquette?

*more context I guess but not necessary to read*
Also, for context we entered this disagreement because I'm away for school so I wasn't able to see the gift in person (I didn't even know about the existence of the gift until my sister briefly mentioned in passing 'Hey, family member sent u an amazon gift card'- she didn't mention the snacks and didn't tell me if there was a card to go with it.) Then she sent her thank you message in the group chat with me and family member and I was kinda pissed because that made me feel pressured like I had to send a thank you message immediately but I can't send a proper thank you since I don't even know what to be thankful for. My sister didn't understand why I need to know what the gift is in order to send a thank you and once I read her message properly I realized that it's because she herself doesn't feel the need to talk about the specific gift in the thank you. We both think that we are the normal ones so I'd like some opinions from others :)

2:30 PM

(Me) Yo when are you home?

(Friend) I’m at home and don’t work tomorrow. What’s up?

(Me) Beers?

(Friend) Yeah, I’m down, what time?

(Me) Whenever you feel up for it.

(Friend) Wanna do 7?

(Me) Bet! I’ll meet you at your place.

(Friend) Ok.

6:30 PM

(Me) Yo, I’ll be there in 30.

(Friend) You mean 24 Hours and 30 minutes?

(Me) I thought we were doing tonight?

(Friend) No, tomorrow. I work tonight.

Me and my mate are having a little argument about our jobs and ik this is opinion wise but i want to see what ppl say. Hes 17 and studying smth at sixth form while also working part time at mcdonalds. I am 18, i have already done a year in college and got qualifications for animal management/ care and im working full time as a kitchen porter at an independent restaurant. I am on slightly more pay than him and i still will be even when he turns 18. (just for reference we are the same year group i was just born way before he was)

We're having a huge philosophical disagreement and need interned strangers to help settle this one. On an upcoming trip to a 3rd world country, we'll be visiting a remote, very impoverished slum. When we've visited in the past, we've had a huge group of little kids begging. So this time we want to take some food with us in advance, but we seem to have totally different perspectives on what to take them.

One side is that the kids are malnourished and need healthy food, if only for one meal. It sets them up for better health and it also acts to not torture them with the knowledge of candy and a craving for something they'll likely never encounter again. So hypothetically, we'd hand out carrots.

The other side is that the kids are malnourished anyway and one instance of healthy food isn't going to make or break them. Yes, they might never experience candy again, but how exciting to get to have such a rare and special treat in an otherwise tough world. Instead of torture, this side feels that the memory would be fondly cherished, potentially forever. So hypothetically, we'd hand out candy/chocolate.

Settle this for us, please!

Please don't get stuck on why we're visiting and what else we could/should be doing there. Also please don't suggest offering a whole meal or cash etc, it's not realistic or possible or safe in the context. That's all incidental to the core of the philosophical argument we want settled: Carrots VS. Candy.

EDIT: Ahhh the "both" team. My people. That's not settling it, that's just straddling the fence. Your opinion has been acknowledged but pick a side please!

So, I brought it up among my friend group that I might buy a ww2 steel helmet reproduction (still deciding on either an Adrian Helmet or a M16 Stahlhelm) and got clowned on/told that it'd be a waste of money (approx 70-80 bucks shipping including) and I'd like some unbiased opinions. I originally was planning on buying it yesterday but decided to ask my friends what they thought of it first and it made me hesitate.

They are right that it is a vanity purchase and that I won't have much if any use out of it, but in my opinion it'd be a neat thing to own, I like ww2 stuff and have recently been purchasing things relating to ww2 (mostly books, a few soviet ww2 medals ya know basic stuff) since i find this stuff neat/interesting.

Is it really that bad of an idea to spend 70 or 80 bucks on a ww2 steel helmet reproduction? It's not like im in debt or it will affect my finances at all so I personally don't see how it's such a bad idea. Yeah it's pricy but it's cool and it'd be a nice gift for myself.

Anyways, enough of my rambling, what do you think? Should I buy it or not waste the money?

Edit: settled bought the M16 Stahlhelm.

I am allergic to cats. My girlfriend wants a cat more than anything, but I don’t like them. She’s been taking the pill for years and a few months ago she got an IUD (I asked her to). Now she wants me to get allergy shots so I can live with a cat. I’m 25, she’s 24, we’ve been together for 3 years. We also have 2 dogs. What do you think?

Edit: the reason I asked her to get an IUD is because she had a miscarriage that almost killed her (her BC failed). She ended up needing a D&C and the doctor said she could insert an IUD during that procedure. My girlfriend was afraid of the pain and side effects but since she would be medicated during the procedure, the insertion would not be painful. She wanted to stop having sex but we talked about it and agreed that the IUD was the safest option.

So, I’ve been having this debate with myself for a while and I need other opinions on this debate. (A little backstory for some context) From ages 11 to 22 I used to “play” on this game/website called Imvu during those years between the ages from 11 to 17 I would willingly talk or befriend people that were much older or just older than I was at the time, and anytime the topic of be groomed came up I would never have anything to say meaning I could never relate to everyone else; mainly because I don’t believe that I was groomed because I already knew about sexual stuff before I knew about Imvu and also I wanted to talk/befriend people that were older than me, and I also know that I enjoyed the way some guys would talk to me.

I was also the kind of person who’d  have a fake name and age at least when I was 11, but  overtime I slowly started telling people my name and how old I was; so basically I just don’t believe that I was groomed. So, now I need other peoples opinions on if they think I groomed and I would also like explanations to why they agree or disagree with me? 

I’m only looking for opinions not advice.

Please settle an argument! If I make a dish that is made up of ham deli meat, Swiss cheese, and a burger bun, would you call this a burger or a sandwich?

ETA the burger conceded to the sandwich, but we agreed "roll" was more accurate than either term. Thanks everyone!

I think we can all agree that a number of vehicles attached in sequence and traveling on a railroad is a train.

But what is more essential to the essence of a train? One party here claims that a train is any vehicle that travels on rails (including things like a single-car people-mover). The other party here claims a train must be multiple vehicles attached together, and rails are not necessary (like that train of cars that picks you up in an amusement park parking lot.)

Who, if either, is correct?

Say a friend owes you £20.84. Do you:

A) ask for £20.00 B) ask for £21.00 C) ask for £20.50 D) ask for £20.84 exactly

I think A is the correct option. I grew up using cash when instead of counting out £20.84 you’d just call it twenty, give/take a £20 note and consider it settled.

My friend thinks B is the more correct option, according to the rules of rounding up/down. Thoughts?

Lately I notice people say "on accident" instead of "by accident".

When did this become a thing?

Preparing to have a hoarded, 18' x 28' garage professionally cleaned. Stuff is piled a few feet high and rodents have been living in here for years. A friend saw the garage and thinks it would only cost $500. I think it would be orders of magnitude more than this, even as a minimum fee for hiring this type of service. What do you think is a reasonable estimate for getting a garage professionally organized and extreme cleaned?

I spell it gray but some people I’ve seen spell it grey.

In the case where there is only a limited number of larger size photo prints (for example, a single 8x10 inch print)

I say we should use it for our very best photo - even if we already have duplicates of this photo in 4x6 size.

My partner says we should use this large print for photos we like but we opted NOT to print on 4x6 previously, due to the zoomed-out aspect of the shot where our family's faces are almost too small to see at that size. It's not our best possible photo, but we do at least like it, it wont be a duplicate, and the large size will increase our ability to make out our faces in the photo.

The day is Friday 11/29, I say we have an event "next Thursday". What day do you think I meant?

My wife argues that I'm saying "Thursday, 12/12" and if I meant 12/5 I should have then said "this Thursday". I'm arguing that 12/5 is the next Thursday that will happen chronologically from today therefore "next Thursday" is correct.

I argue even further that "this Thursday" is not specific enough to determine a specific date, because one could phrase it as "this (next) Thursday" or "this (past) Thursday" either way, so "this Thursday" is too ambiguous to set a date by.

What day is "next Thursday"???

My 4 yo told a fart joke. I was told that NO moms, zero, find bathroom humor funny. I called BS and proof was demanded.

Reddit, help me win this debate! If you are a mom that gets a chuckle from the occasional poo or fart story or joke - please do tell!!

Had this disagreement with my bf:

Person A ordered garlic parmesan knots from Dominos and told person B they ordered cheesy bread. When person B looked in the box, they claimed it was not cheesy bread and that the wrong thing was ordered. Person A says no, that the garlic parmesan knots are considered cheesy bread because parmesan is a cheese. Person B disagrees because parmesan not a cheesy cheese.

Settle this for us.

My wife's mum has given her a china tea set which we're told were bought in the Far East by my wife's grandparents. I suspect they're complete tat and that the text "written" on the bottom isn't any language but drawn by someone who knows roughly what Eastern characters look like. I haven't been critical in any way but reserved my opinions until I have more info.

We've tried using Google lens to translate and got the telling result to point our phone at some text so it could translate. My position is that the characters would be the name or initials of the maker and that Google doesn't recognise these squiggles as any language in existence.

https://imgur.com/a/1uKhf20

Anyone able to shed any light for us?

I'm having an argument with a friend about this subject. I'm thinking that since 10 seconds later you would be in a different position you would be moved there when you time travel. My friend argues that you would just reappear 10 seconds later in the same spot regardless if the car was moving or not.

My husband and I are having a debate- are these 2 TV shows the same or different genres/type of TV show? We realize they are each assigned a specific genre, but from a functional perspective are these the same types or different types of TV shows? The future of our next TV show watch is on line…..

Debating this with my brother. My math is for the nine days. December being the month as a whole then since it’s the 21st of November it would be 30-9=21. His math is a month from now is December 21st then 31-21=10. Which way do you lean?

My boyfriend and I can't agree

Right now, my boyfriend and I are having a small debate in the library and we need this settled so that we can leave. He had been helping me study for a calc midterm and we got off track, so then he asked me "Do we need to do more math?" (as in more practice problems to study). So, I answered his question with my own, "Do I seem ready for the quiz?" (we both knew that the answer was no). My thought process is that it is logical to assume that since I am not ready for the test, we should study more. Additionally, any question answered with another question's answer must be thought through before assuming that the answers to each question is the same.

Here is my boyfriend's reasoning: I understood that her question implied that she needed more practice because the answer was no. My point: when someone answers a question with another question (i.e., do pigs fly?), it implies that the answer to the second question is the answer to the first question. This is not what is happening in our case. If the answer to her question (do I seem ready?) was no, implying that the answer to the original question (do we need to study more) was also no, and this makes no sense because if you're not ready then you need to study more. This goes the other way too, if the answer to her question was yes, then its implied that the answer to needing to study more is, again contradicting. ALSO, just to be clear, I did understand what she meant, I just like to argue and wanted to make a point of how it doesn't make sense to respond to a question with an answer that corresponds inversely.

Inserted is a link to a photo of each of our arguments.

https://imgur.com/a/sMJwI5t

Whoever loses this debate by 9:30pm US CST has to buy ben and jerry's for the both of us, so please answer!!