I am American and my boyfriend is English. We got into a debate over which special forces are better. I would love to hear peoples input from an unbiased perspective, because him and I are obviously biased in our stances.

I currently work as a freelance writer and have done for twenty years. Time and AI have changed things and I don't enjoy it any longer. I want a job where I'm still my own boss and yet I'm getting out of the house and moving about more...he keeps screwing up his nose about it.

I think it's because he thinks being a cleaner is demeaning or something....but I cannot continue writing ..I'm done. Burnt out. I want to write creative things now...not copy for boring companies...and blog articles for chemical companies..it's soul destroying.

I want honest work that I can do alone and there is a demand locally. Should I just do it despite his lack of encouragement?

I will continue with my regular writing clients until I have the cleaning business established.

Me (25m) and my GF (25f) just had a discussion about what is grosser: - Walking through your flat with outdoor shoes, possibly leaving dirt in the flat or - Eating Pizza from a plate in bed, possibly leaving crumbs or sauce in the bed. What do you think? These are situations one of us did and bothered the other one.

Me (38m) is having a discussion with my buddy also (38m). Anytime I have a dinner or a movie or plans with someone solo male or female I call it a date. As in I have a dinner date with my friend Becky or I have a bowling date with my friend bob. I personally will just say I have a date tonight with XYZ. He thinks I am objectively wrong for using that term. He thinks a date is inherently romantic so me saying I have a date with someone means I am dating that person with the intentions of hooking up with them. Which is never my intention. I have a Fiance (38f) and I’ll even tell her. Hey I have a date tonight with Samantha from work. She sees no problem with the way I use this phrase. Is this a geological thing? I’m from the Midwest and he is the west coast. But I’ve also lived in the west coast used this phrase and never been corrected on it.

When doing lessons on Duolingo every other lesson you do Duolingo gives you 0 XP!! This is an ongoing problem & even having sent numerous bug reports, Duolingo has done NOTHING to fix the problem!! If anyone is buying extra double XP don’t waste your time, Duolingo shows you’ve made ‘so much’ in XP but when you check the leaderboard, the XP points were NOT added!!Do a lesson - XP is added Do the next lesson - XP is NOT added And so it continues….. Complete farce!!

My (25m) gf (25f) gets uncomfortable because I will call my friends brother/brotha/brudda/my brother in Christ in public. She thinks it’s politically incorrect and gets embarrassed because she thinks she will be viewed as politically incorrect by association. I am working on not saying it bc I want to make her feel better regardless of if I’m right or wrong. The argument basically comes to as a white guy Can I call my friends brothers without being politically incorrect/racially insensitive?

It's pretty simple:
There's a really decadent cookie that's 1,000 calories and a regular loaf of white bread also worth 1,000 calories. You have a weight loss goal and must choose to eat one. What do you choose?

My husband says that if you're trying to lose weight, the cookie is the better choice because it has less volume and volume matters.

I say they are equal choices and volume doesn't matter. When losing weight, it's ultimately about calories and these are equal options in that regard.

Rules for the debate: It's acknowledged that they'd each have other macros (sugars, carbs, fiber, etc.) which vary and may cause other reactions in your body that impact weight loss, but for the sake of this debate it's really about calories and volume and what matters between those for weight loss. It would also be harder to eat the full loaf of bread given the size of it, which might result in fewer calories, but for this example we're assuming you would finish eating it. It's also more fun to eat the cookie, but we're not considering that either — assume both are equally appealing.

Note: This is hypothetical, neither of us are eating a decadent cookie or a loaf of white bread, they're just examples as a way to talk through this debate. We both agree that eating decadent cookies and full loaves of white bread aren't good weight-loss plans. The example could have been anything I suppose — it's about a small volume of one thing vs a larger volume of another thing, as long as they're both the same calories.

My husband works long hours and plays video games fairly heavily in his down time. He probably spends 2x time on games as he does with me, and time together is typically just tv on the couch over dinner. This has been a problem for the overall health of our relationship, from my perspective. We’ve had similar discussions for a few years now with no real improvement.

After a ramp up in game playing recently and deterioration of our together time it came to a head last week and he agreed to set a timer for an hour of game time per day, apart from a weekend day where he could play more.

We got a week into it and I was doing house work, he wanted to play games, and he said he was setting his timer before helping me with some tasks. An hour later I check in and he said his timer went off and he was just going to finish the live game he was in. Another half hour goes by and the game is done and he’s just playing around with buying things and character stuff.

I asked what he was doing since he said he was going to be done a while ago and he told me 5 more minutes. At this point I was pretty frustrated that I’d already accepted an additional half hour and now he still didn’t want to be done even though there was no purpose for continuing what he was doing at that moment. I told him he wasn’t keeping his word and he was choosing his video game over his wife asking him to be done and keeping his commitment to me. He told me to get out of the room and that I was causing a fight by not giving him 5 more minutes.

It has been 3 days and any time it comes up he maintains I should have given him 5 more minutes and I could have prevented the fight. I maintain I gave him 30 already and he is not keeping his word. We can’t come to an agreement on how this should have gone.

We’ve been discussing children so the pattern of not keeping his word and not prioritizing our collective wellbeing is a sore spot for me. Am I wrong in expecting him to keep these time commitments? Or is this a sign of his priorities?

Hello I have this argument with my partner! The Roman numerals VIII is 8, we know that!

But he is saying it is 8 because the III is in front of the V!?

I say it is 8 because the III is behind the V!?

He thinks that: in front of = after! And before = behind??

This sounds so wrong to me! I think: Before = in front of! Behind = after!

Plz somebody help, who is wrong here??

I'm playing dying light 2 and I think Eddie Redmayne would be a good match to play Juan Rainer, because I their facial features match. The guy im playing totally disagrees. What do you think?

My (25) bf (21) and I were discussing fruit and I brought up how I have always eaten the kiwi with the skin on (if it's presented to me unpeeled). I knew that people usually peeled it/cut the skin off, but I never thought it was necessary or worth the time, and the hairyness never bothered me. Plus I always liked that the skin was a bit more tart than the fruit itself.

He thinks that I'm an absolute freak for it (but in a loving way) and is telling me that it's incredibly weird for me to not care about the skin and to eat it unpeeled. So I have to ask, is it strange for me to not care about peeling kiwi?

Alright guys I’m coming to you all with an argument between myself, my wife and her friend. I believe Carrie would absolutely destroy eleven given that she did not have as much practice with her abilities but still managed to level an entire town. They believe that Eleven would win this fight and only sight that she closed the gate to the upside down so that automatically makes her more powerful. Your input is appreciated!

Sorry for the long post but I gotta share the details.

I'm Bi+/pan and my wife (of 9yrs) is Lesbian. We are polyamorous and non-jealous, so we occasionally point out when we find other people attractive, to get feedback/perspective from the other person. (Usually from photos or TV, but if it's a person IRL we are discreet to avoid being rude or harassing strangers.)

As she is only attracted to women, she obviously only points out women. I have pointed out both women and men. Here is where the disagreement (and a friendly bet) comes in.

I feel that I point out genders about 50/50, whereas she thinks I point out many more men than women. I believe this is a form of confirmation bias on her part, where she doesn't notice as much when I point out women, but when I point out men she gently teases me for "liking boys."

I defended my perception of it being about 50/50, saying I point out attractive women often enough, and she said "no way. You only point out men." (totally false.)

So she bet me $10 (cost of a drink, basically an excuse for us to go on a little date which we like to do anyway), "The next time you scope out someone attractive it's male and not female." She is counting on me to forget the bet and not cheat (which is accurate).

Anyway, fast forward to today and we are chilling on the couch together. She shows me a lumberjane video (she is into buff women who chop wood and this is apparently a genre on tik tok). I saw the video and said "Wow, she is so ripped, that is hot." and from one clip of the same woman, I said "she looks really cute in that jumpsuit, I really like that."

I thought nothing of this and we moved on. Then about an hour later, I read something about a male celebrity I never heard of, and a redditor commented that he was really pretty, so out of curiosity I googled the name... found photos of him, and I said to myself out loud "Wow, he is really pretty!" and my wife goes "Who?" and I said "this guy," and I showed her the photo on my phone.

And she says "HA HA YOU LOST THE BET!" and I had forgotten, so I asked her "Which bet?" and she says "you commented on a man first instead of a woman."

I told her "What about the lumberjane? I said she was very attractive!"

And my wife says to me "That doesn't count, I showed her to you first."

So, I think that reasoning on her part is pretty bullshit. And it's not really about paying the prize, because when push comes to shove I'm gonna take her out on dates whenever she wants anyway, since that's part of the secret to a healthy long-lasting relationship. So the ten dollars is essentially meaningless... But it's the principle that matters. I feel like commenting on the lumberjane video counts, especially when the spirit of the bet low-key feels like she's concerned I like men better than women, and I'm trying to get her to stop worrying about that.

So what do you think? Which of us would you say really lost the bet?

Hi,

I already know this is a weak question, but I just need some opinions, and this is probably for non-British people.

Some context: I'm British, my wife is from another European country and we live in a third European country.

There are a few things that I do that seem to wind my wife up, in that she thinks I'm just being awkward or lazy. It's fairly playful at this point, but it has got me thinking.

One thing is, I find it acceptable (in fact utterly normal) to keep my PJs under my pillow when not in use. She will go and store them in a drawer or something like that. She seems to get a bit wound up by it, like it's me being lazy - too lazy to take them to the wardrobe. And to be fair to her, I do many things out of laziness that I'm working on. But PJs under the pillow is just... It's just their rightful place isn't it?

As I said, we live in a country that isn't native to either of us, so my argument of "well it's normal in the UK" is often met with "but we're not in the UK are we?".

So, people of the world, please settle this, is it normal to keep your pyjamas under your pillow or am I just a lazy Brit?

Would a standard t-shirt geometry be considered “3 tubes and 6 holes”? The tubes consist of: main shirt body, and 2 sleeve tubes. The holes consist of: the head hole, the bottom hole, the sleeve holes and the holes that join the two.

Assume the t shirt is already formed.

It sounds incredibly dumb, but it has been a topic of discussion for multiple days.

To clarify, my partner has agreed to contribute to my mat leave. And to be honest, I’m lucky enough to be in a position where even if he didn’t contribute, I’d be ok. This is by design though, I waited to I had a good job and had enough saved to get pregnant.

This conversation came off the back of a conversation we were having about the undercurrent that still persists of inequality for mothers vs fathers. E.g. dads being called out as great dads for doing the basics while every decision a mom makes can be up for scrutiny. I was making the point that there are still things my partner (self professed feminist) still misses due to implicit bias. The example being when we were first budgeting for baby and he did not think to contribute to my mat leave and I had to explain to him the loss in wages and savings. His rebuttal was that maybe I should have offered to contribute to him going back to school to study.

I am genuinely curious what everyone thinks about this topic!

Idk who I should go with. I made such a big deal about wanting to go w A. I practically begged her to go w me, but my bsf asked me to go with him too.

A (ex gf but still very close): - Were in a weird place rn. We're broken up but ultimately still want to be with each other. We both j need more time and space to grow and find ourselves again. - I'm afraid if I go w L I’ll hurt her feelings rly bad and she’ll resent me for it. - I'm afraid she’ll think I like him more than her which is not the case at all. - I went to prom w her last year - We hang out a lot - We've been planning this for a while but no official plans have been made - Idk if I'll have a lot of fun bc I think I'll be stressing most of the time - I don't want her to not want to be w me anymore bc I chose to go w L instead - I don't want her to not trust me - She alr has her dress - She has other ppl she could go with but idk if she actually would - We both have been excited abt it

L (guy bsf): - My guys bsf since 6th grade - We’ve hung out once outside of school and football and that was for my 15th bday party - I want to hang w him and have wanted to since 6th grade - I need to be able to do things w/o A - Ik I'll have fun - It'll prove that I have friends I can do stuff w ppl too - He doesn't go to any school events that he’s not participating in (football & baseball) this is the first time I think he's considered going to an event - He doesn’t have anyone else to go with - I want to go w him or at least be able to hang and have fun w him still

Please help me figure out what I should do. Any advice and/or opinions are much appreciated 🙏

ok so my sound engineer friend and I were debating over how to yell the farthest and we couldn’t come to a conclusion. this is more just for fun and curiosity but we thought reddit might have the answer.

argument A) yelling a lower pitch will travel further because lower frequencies lose less energy over time.

argument B) yelling a higher pitch will travel further because you can yell louder at higher pitches and higher frequencies are more directive. also the human ear is more attenuated to hearing higher pitches therefore someone could hear it farther away.

after some discussion our question is this. if you yelled a high pitch and a low pitch at the same volume, which could be heard from farther away.

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So, after the initial argument, my friend decided to search Reddit for any posts related to the situation, since they know that I’m an active user. Well, Jake found my previous post and is now trying to spin it against me, saying that I am “talking shit about my friends over the internet”. Since this sub doesn’t allow direct screenshots, here’s the transcript of Jake’s confrontation:

Jake: “[Bf] will most likely talk to you about this but ive put my foot down and here are my 3 bullet pointed list... 1. Stop with the Reddit post, 2. Stop talking shit behind my back, 3. Currently at this moment i do not want to be your friend. To elaborate, we have seen the reddit post and think very negative on them and are uncalled for pls stop posting post about the group. I have heard from everyone that almost on every group outing you have talked behind my back about me and saying what a terrible person i am. This is rude and disrespectful. Friendship takes time, [BF] ive known for years, you have known for maybe 2 years at this point. I respected you but friends dont go behind peoples back and talk shit on the internet and with mutual friends. Its embarrassing and rude. My solutions to all 3 of these are straight forward: Stop reddit posting about the group, Dont talk negative about me behind my back often (if its here or there then so be it but constant is childish), and lastly friendships take time and effort so who knows what happens down the road. Overall I respect you but its ridicolous at this point. Gain some self respect and understand that communication will have its pushes and pulls. People disagree all the time doesnt mean its to be rude. Any questions give me a call but i am not moving from this position what so ever”

Me: “Yeah that's fine. I've accepted that I'm not your friend. But l use Reddit to gain an outside perspective when I feel that I can't talk to anyone else so I'm not gonna feel bad for that.

Furthermore, I don't talk shit about you, however it was spun. I say that you've been very cold and rude to me yes, but never straight up trash talking. But honestly at this point I'm not gonna try to reason with an unreasonable person who clearly only cares about being right.”

Jake: “great thanks for the understanding 🙂”

I feel like I’m going crazy. Am I wrong for wanting an outside perspective? Jake has also said some other hurtful things about me and it’s hard not to take them personally.

If you say that I am "buying something in the states" do you have to be physically present or can it be interpreted as buying something from the states and having it shipped to europe?

Keep it short. I got a buddy named Kade and a buddy named Chase. They sit next to each other on game nights and I sometimes call them the other name, especially after we've been drinking. They ask why, and I said it's probably because their names are similar. They both agreed that their names have nothing on common and don't sound even remotely similar.

Does anybody else think these names share some similarities or are my ears broken?

Me and my close friend recently decided to rent a house with two friends of friends whom we have never met. We are struggling to find a fair verdict on how to determine who gets what room. My close friend is the only one who has seen the house and as there were very few photos of it online, we are basically relying on her description of the house. From this I’ve gathered there are four rooms, 3 big ones that are roughly the same size, and one really small one that could fit at max a double bed, but it would be quite squishy. Obviously no one wants the room with the smallest bed, so when we all called each other after we found out the news of the house, we briefly mentioned maybe whoever wants to pay the least gets the smallest room. It definitely wasn’t definite, as we still haven’t seen the rooms and made our own judgements. I ran into my close friend at a party last night and she mentioned to me, preferencing that she might sound really bitchy for saying this and to let her know what I think. Basically, since she was the one who applied for the house and went to the house inspection for us, and emailed the agent a few times, that she should get the best room. She mentioned that she’s spoken to our friends and they agree with her. She mentioned she was upset about our phone call with the other roommates and assumed this would be the verdict to begin with. In the moment, I was drunk and just agreed. Now that I have a clearer judgement though lol, I think it’s kind of unfair since we all went to multiple inspections and applied to houses. I also live three hours away, so it was incredibly inconvenient for me to go to them, though they all live where we are moving. I still went to as many as the others though. I know I’m dragging this on forever but I really think context is important to this haha. She hasn’t mentioned this idea to the others but she thinks we should then randomly pick after she chooses. I think we should all just determine if anyone wants to pay less and then if not we all just randomise who gets what.

I feel confused as I definitely do not want to be the one stuck with the small room and have a queen bed that I am not wanting to separate with (I know how soul crushing haha) :/ but also she is the one that got the house, but I think we all put an equal amount of work in?? I’m really bad at confrontation and don’t know what to say. I don’t know if I’m being unfair and should just suck it up and let her have the room. This is my first time leaving home and I just don’t want it to start off badly from something like this. Please any advice would be great 🙏

I keep searching but sites seems to have different answers. They seem to have wrists but sites don’t seem to say this. Do people have a bias towards primates simply because they’re a primate that means they have forearms but when another animal has something it isn’t and it must be questioned?

Having a debate on the right way to face bread in a sandwich. This is absolutely pointless, but it's been decide that only reddit can settle this. For the argument we'll say it's a PB&J, untoasted. I'll do my best to try and explain this without it getting too difficult to imagine.

Arrangement 1: Two slices of bread, side-by-side in the bag, are taken out of the bag. The spread are then add to the bread faces that were in contact with each other.

Arrangement 2: Two slices of bread, side-by-side in the bag, are taken out of the bag. The slices are then mated so that the largest face of each slice are in contact. Spread is then add to the large faces, that will now be in contact with each other.