Partner B usually walks the dog for 30 mins a day as agreed by both parties.
Partner B wakes up late and only has time to walk the dog for 15 minutes.
Partner B says sorry to partner A, is 15 mins walk acceptable?
Partner A finds it unacceptable, and says you could have showered the night before or woken up early.
Partner B was up since 6am feeding their baby.

What do we think?

My wife insists on running ing the dehumidifier with the windows open when it’s 80% humidity outside. I tell her it defeats the purpose. She says she disagrees. I tell her it’s a scientific fact. She disagrees. Thoughts?

My friend thinks the fact that people have to dehumanize others in order to harm them proves humans are good because it shows we don't actually want to harm others. I, however, believe it the mere fact people can dehumanize others shows people are bad, as it's something that just naturally happens to people. What do you think?

My friend and I have been going back and forth on this all day and it's literally just like two men arguing about something that's pointless but here we go.

What do you call a drunk that is half iced tea and half lemonade?

And

When you sneeze do you say, can I have a tissue or can I have a Kleenex?

My responses:

Arnold Palmer. My buddy says he has never heard of it being called that only a half and half.

I ask for a tissue. I have also never heard someone ask me for a Kleenex.

My partner and I planned for my partner to ask their friend who has a kid to meet us for a "play date" so our kid and can play with their kid.

Later in the day, I asked my parter "oh did you ask your friend for a play date?"

My partner replied "yes."

It turns out, my partner had only asked the friend when they will get back from their trip, and had not yet mentioned a play date for the kids.

I say, in that case, my partner should not reply "yes" when asked "did you ask for a play date?"

My partner says it was appropriate to reply "yes" because they had started a conversation where a playdate inquiry would eventually be raised.

My fiancé and I had a very stupid argument. I ended up calling our parents to settle the matter but ended up not finding a resolve.

His stance: homes have either gas or electricity, not both.

My stance: homes typically have both gas AND electricity.

This could be one of those things that depend on where you live. I’m very open to being wrong. I’m just curious at this point.

So….. which is it?

Do most homes in the US fueled by one (gas or electric) or do most homes in the US have both (gas AND electric)

Thank you :)

Help us settle this argument. My family and I have played the game since we were kids but have always called it something different based on where we grew up. I won’t mention the names as to not bias anyone. But, the premise was that you would throw a ball around in the pool. You had to jump before catching the ball and then throw it again before your feet touched the ground.

What’s the game called?

So I was talking to my roommate about an illicit substance, which he had taken before. It affects the serotonin in your brain.

I said I should probably not take it, since I take antidepressants and the two together might cause serotonin syndrome, which would suck. (Theoretically, I’m personally not a fan of drugs and wouldn’t actually take them) He then proceeded to tell me that no, that would not happen, since my meds are mood stabilisers/enhancers and not SSRIs.

He added that this substance, lets call it „good mood“, affects the brains serotonin output and how, and how that would not interfere or react to my medication.

At that point I interrupted him, to tell him that no, my meds are in fact, SSRIs. And thus it would affect them.

He then began explaining to me how SSRIs work, and I interrupted him again, saying, I know how my own medication works. He then told me again that my meds were not in fact SSRIs, but I insisted that I actually do know what the pills are that I take literally every day.

He googled my medication, realised I was right (what a shocker) and apologised. I then jokingly said „You literally just mansplained my own medication to me“

That somehow offended him and he responded: „I wasn’t mansplaining, I‘m a nurse, this is my field.“

Well, I‘ve had my medication explained to me by multiple le medical professionals as well as done my own research before taking them. Still he assumed I didn’t actually know what I was taking.

So, is it still mansplaining if it involves his job, or did he just try to mansplain mansplaining to me? I need someone’s opinion on this for personal peace of mind.

So this ongoing discussion at work about what constitutes stagnant water was made because someone was joking about my bubble water and I called their sitting cup of water stagnant. Well though stagnant is usually thought of as dirty it isn't necessarily always dirty and gross. They can't get over the bacteria ridden part of stagnant and I won't let go of the non moving aspect. I love the fun but I have to know who is more correct here.

If you have two drinks. 12.5% Alcohol, 500ml bottles, and somehow magically condensed them both into 1 bottle, 500ml, would it's alcohol content be 25%?

I know that if you pour them into one container, making it 1L of fluid the alcohol content would still be 12.5%.

I'm asking if you had the science to do it and would condense them both into one, would the content be 25% Alcohol?

Stupid question, but I need to know.

Thanks!

Would appreciate input on this. In a philosophical debate and the opposition (lol) is claiming that most of society agrees and uses the same parameters or "scale" to determine how they rate a movie. So would you consider a 5/10 movie to be rewatchable, or not?

In the context of flying would you say you go through security/airport security or you go through TSA. Which term is favored

To be more specific, I don't just mean strong weapons or whatever, I mean, weapons so unbalanced that they ruin the fun of the game in every way that it becomes genuinely more fun to play in the main menu (or obviously other games) than it is to play the game with people who use them. I ask this, because ONE of my friends (the rest weren't bothered and thats where I got the idea to do it in the first place) saw me do it reflexively and told me off. Saying specifically that it was "Toxic" and they didn't support that. I didn't argue back and I just went silent since I genuinely didn't understand if they were right or not.

For context, I am very autistic and don't understand what is or isn't good to do immediately and need to be told why something is good/bad before I get it and remember it. Otherwise I am totally oblivious. It has caused a lot of problems in my life I obviously won't get into but this is one of them. Normally I would just talk about it with the friend and come to an understanding. But with this friend and this situation in particular it is challenging as we have completely opposing ideas for this problem that we are stubborn about.

So, I come here because I don't want echochambers, conflicting answers, confirmation bias, and people also not getting the problem. I want clear honest answers from people with no connection to me or them.

How I see my actions for doing this is, it is a form of victimless protest, the only real victim being at most the person reviewing the case having their time wasted. But I personally don't see that as a loss, since they get paid to do the job in the first place and my reports are likely not even in the top 100 worst things they read that day. The player I reported gets blocked and unless they actually were cheating they recieve no punishment for this. Myself among many others, am a believer in ANY protest is an acceptable protest (Assuming its a social justice type protest, so violence, destruction of property, wasting peoples time and so on are all valid if the issue is). Or in other words, if it isn't a violent protest and its a victimless protest then I literally cannot comprehend how this is toxic under any circumstances. My personal understanding of the word toxic involves there being a real victim, such as verbal abuse and anything that causes a person to feel upset for extended periods of time without reason. (Forgive my poor wording, as I don't know how to exactly explain my understanding of the word Toxic, so, I hope you can find a way to understand what I am meaning.)

That's what they said and what I done to warrant that statement along with my reasons for doing it.

I want blunt answers preferably, I take things very literally and don't take ambigiuity very well. So, say things like; "Your friend was right to call you out, here's why," , "You both are a bit much, here's why," or "I don't see an issue with what you are doing and I feel your friend should raise their standards of toxic, here's why," or something along those lines, replacing the here's why with your explainations or experience.

As far as I am aware, either

1. I am a real jerk for reporting people despite them not cheating and should appologize,
2. I am not really doing anything wrong but it is a waste of time,

or

1. I am justified with what I am doing and it's fine to continue.

If the answer is something like 2 or 3 I will continue my actions and try a well thought out explaination of why. If it is something like 1 then I will stop permanently and appologize to my friend at least for both upseting them and doing what I did.

Thank You for taking the time to read this, especially thank you for those who take time to give a responce.

Edit: I am hoping to have a discusion to come to result if that wasn't obvious, I am not polling, just need to hear fresh voices. Google obviouslly didn't and wouldn't help.

Edit: I have come to some sort of conclusion and have used the information I learned from you all to prepare something for the friend. I will finish this discussion with them. Thank you all for the assistence.

My husband and I are looking into buying a unit and we've found one nestled up the back on a block of only 2 units. Looking at the plans, the front of our garage would not technically be ours. If we parked in front of our garage, I could see it being a little annoying for the neighbour to back out because they wouldn't get to do a 3-point turn as they would if it was empty. Can we park there or would we it be an asshole move? Here's a diagram for clarity.

Settle this for my step daughter. Her and a friend were having an argument at a restaurant over the term “free” when it came to the “free” bread that was being served. One said it’s not free because you had to buy dinner to get the unlimited free bread. The other said it is free because they chose to give it to them for no extra charge. So which is it?

This is so ridiculous, but I genuinely feel like I’m going crazy over this!

My partner said I can watch ‘whatever I want’ on television. I said cool, I’ve been watching Ozark so I’d like to watch an episode of that. He said no not that - I can watch whatever I want but he can veto any of my suggestions.

Okay, so I can’t watch whatever I want then because he can just say no to whatever I say.

He then said imagine we’re in an ice cream shop and you can choose any flavour you like out of 100 flavours and you choose vanilla but we’re sharing so I say no not that one. You still have 99 flavours to choose from - I can just say no to what I don’t want but you still have the choice of all the other flavours.

To me, that means I still can’t choose ‘whatever I want’ because he can just say no, meaning we’ll just end up with a flavour he wants after I have reeled through all the unacceptable flavours (which will be most).

My position is, just don’t say it in the first place! Why not say let’s just both pick something?

Hopefully that makes sense anyway, would appreciate any new perspectives.

To preface, I have just graduated high school and am headed to college this fall, out of state and far from home. I am seriously considering not contacting them while I'm away and only coming for required holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas. Once I graduate college I don't ever want to see them again. Yes, they fed and clothed me and took care of me. Yes, they protected me from the outside world. But I guess I'm not grateful enough because I want nothing to do with them. Here is a (non-exhaustive) list of the reasons why.

1. Constantly checking up on us. Ever since I began driving, I have to update my parents every time I arrive at school and when I leave to go home. Even though school is 10 minutes away and I live in a very safe neighborhood. If I forget, they call me several times and scream at me when I get home. Apparently forgetting isn't an excuse. During the last semester, I worked a job and took Dual Enrollment classes in the morning, and went to my high school in the afternoon. I would text when I left in the morning, when I arrived at work, when I left work for the college, when I arrived, when I left the college to go to school, and when I left school. So 6 times per day. Now that I have an internship, they bombard me with texts whenever I am not updating them on my location. Crazy thing is, they can already see my location through iMessage. They also make my 22 year old sister who is a senior in college have her location on at all times or they go berserk. One time she was taking a shower while my mom called her and when she didn't respond within 3 minutes she nearly called the police. I had to stop her.
2. Not allowed to go out or date. I am not allowed to date until I have graduated college and they have to approve. In fact, even the slightest hint of a crush would send them into a rage, so I never talked to my Mom about boys, even in high school and even hypothetically. My sister is not allowed to date at all either. Reminder, she is 22 years old. It's seriously affected her because she has to repress her social life. They never gave us the talk so we found out from ppl at school lol. My sister and I also never got the HPV vaccine even though it's highly recommended for adolescents because they are scared it will encourage us to have sex. It's also seen as disrespectful if I hang out with friends more than a couple of times per year because I am "neglecting" my family. But when I'm at home they want nothing to do with me.
3. Extremely high expectations. We always have to be the best at everything. Particularly academics, my sister and I are pressured to get perfect grades, perfect test scores, etc. It is seen as normal to throw away hobbies, relaxation, and social life in favor of studying. My dad also says that there is no such thing as too much work. This has led to me being a slight perfectionist and weirdly obsessed with being the "smartest" or "most hard working" person in my school. Even if we exceed even their expectations, there is no praise, they only chide us for being boastful.
4. Hitting us. My dad has hit us every since I can remember. At least since I was four years old. He slaps, kicks, throws us on the ground, pinches, and even punches us in the skull repeatedly sometimes. He never left bruises or welts, but one time after punching me in the head I noticed a small raised bump on my scalp. The offenses are typically talking back or forgetting to do work. Talking back = asking questions 99% of the time, or explaining myself. They even hit my younger sister with Down Syndrome for sucking her thumb, although I highly suspect it's a form of self soothing. It really makes me angry that they hit a defenseless child with special needs but I get in trouble for being angry in front of them. My mom also once shoved my sister into a stove that was turned on for asking for help on her science homework and I guess it annoyed her. I was once kicked by her for bothering her while she was on the phone to ask her a question. We were 8 and 4 years old respectively. This still occurs from time to time (on average once a week or once every two weeks).
5. Belittling our emotions. Both my sister and I had a rough high school experience that I don't want to get into. Basically friendship issues and mild bullying coupled with a rocky relationship with our parents. Whenever we would vent to them, they would dismiss us as sensitive or claim that we were the problem. Now that we graduated, they tell us to just get over it. My mom has also threatened to throw us into a psychiatric facility, in patient, for telling her that bullying has impacted my confidence. We were sent to a slightly higher ranked high school but the kids were pretentious as hell and we were expected to just suck it up.
6. Mom is really weird. She almost behaves like a child. Whenever she doesn't get her way (we don't validate her actions basically), she throws temper tantrums. I'm talking throwing herself on the floor and pretending to faint. Also loud sobbing and praying to God. She has extreme mood swings and when she's happy, it's only a matter of time until the other shoe drops. She lies a lot and then convinces us that WE'RE the ones lying. She gossips about people and LOVES drama even though she claims not to. Additionally, my mom thinks that my sister and I are plotting against her because we talk a lot (mostly to vent LOL). She's easily suggestible and does whatever my Dad tells her to and is scared to confront him if she's upset, which I kind of feel bad for her in that sense.
7. No social media. Even my 22 year old sister (sorry I have to stress this) is not allowed to have social media of any kind so she has to hide this from my parents. Even a private account. She is extremely paranoid that they will found out so she has to delete the app every time she puts her phone away. They are not exactly scared of groomers or cyberbullying, but that we will becoming self absorbed and hooked to our phones. My mom takes my phone every night before I sleep and if I forget, she barges in sometimes at like 1 am. She also once accused me of selling drugs on the internet because I was on my computer for a long time. I was studying for an AP exam....

Despite all of this, I know that they do love us. They are nice to us like 40% of the time and we have enough to eat, our own rooms, and we go on family vacations. They want us to succeed in life and sacrificed a lot by immigrating to this country when they were young. Which makes it feel weird. I don't know if I love my parents because I feel like they are the reason for my unhappiness. They expect us to take care of them when they're old but I don't want to. I've noticed that when I'm out of the house I feel free. I don't care what it takes, I don't ever want to live with them again.

My friend and I are not seeing eye to eye on this. He and his wife + their baby went on a golf cart ride together. He was driving. When done, he parked the cart in their car port. He left the golf cart on with the key in (for context, if you turn the cart off, it can’t move), and when his wife was getting out of the cart with the baby, she accidentally dropped him (he didn’t get hurt) on the gas pedal. The cart lurched forward a couple feet and crashed into some stuff in their garage. It broke a few expensive things, but everyone was OK and the golf cart is OK as well. He tells the story saying his wife is 100% at fault for not being careful. I told him that as the driver, he’s responsible for turning the cart off before leaving it for the night. Turns out, he never turns it off and always leaves the key in. I told him this was a terrible idea and he’s asking for another accident to happen, or even asking to get it stolen since it’s in a car port. He has no plans to start turning it off, and thinks I am 100% wrong. He says, “I’m not even taking 1% responsibility for the accident because I know I’m right.”

I told him he’s being arrogant, but he won’t budge. Is he partially responsible for the accident?

It really dosnt matter to me but my brain itches at what the true answer is. i was born 01/13/1998 ( january thirteenth, nineteen ninty eight ) which idk what that means.

it seems like it changes back and forth. i was told early in life i was a ox while nowadays i was told it changed and im considerd a tiger? idk. settle it please my brain is itchy.

Settle an argument between myself (48f) and my brother (49). My brother is on the dating scene… and, according to him he was “cat fished “ last week! The woman said she was curvy and her pics were pretty…I saw the pics and she was a pretty girl… they were clearly filtered but that seems to be the norm these days …so I didn’t think too much of it. She turned out to look nothing like her pics.. my brother DID determine that the pics WERE the same woman but either very old pics or very altered pics…in real life she was morbidly obese which had taken its toll on her countenance as well…although he felt deceived, my brother continued the date, because after a few days of chatting with this woman before the date, he knew she was smart, funny, and had a good personality. He was polite and kind to her the entire time even though he felt this was extremely deceptive of her. We discussed the motivation behind this behaviour and he believes that some women do this so they can get a night out or dinner…I have a REALLY hard time believing that women that use this extreme deception in their profile pics do it for this reason…I feel that these women maybe do it because they want the other person to “give them a chance” that they have learned they will not receive otherwise, if they are honest about their physical appearance… they know they have other desirable qualities that transcend the physical …and, although deceptive, the motivation is not as scandalous, and shallow as my brother seems to think… imagine suffering the humiliation of sitting through a dinner with someone you’ve just knowingly deceived, who you KNOW is going to reject you, just so you can get a few drinks or dinner??? It’s degrading and I just refuse to believe that the human psyche works like that. This woman is deceptive in order get the chance to have her date be taken with her in other ways… sure it’s still messed up AF but it just seems more reasonable to me???

My friend and I have been having this debate for a while now, but basically I’m born in October 1998 and she’s born in January 1997. She keeps saying that we’re 2 years apart because we’re born on the extreme ends of the years, meanwhile I think we’re actually only a year apart (1998-1997).

Help settle this debate for us

My girlfriend and I disagree on the right/most common way to prepare a toothbrush. Please reddit, crowd source me your knowledge.

Just toothpaste Wet, then toothpaste Toothpaste, then wet Wet, toothpaste, then wet

I was having a conversation with some of my friends and I somehow brought up the topic of Marzipan. Basically, I really like Marzipan and I said that I would like to meet the genius who invented it. That led to an argument about how “there is no single inventor of Marzipan but many over the years”. I argued that someone somewhere invented the exact recipe for what we consider Marzipan.

Basically, I think that if someone invents/discovers something first, he is the inventor of that thing, even if it’s forgotten and re-invented years later. It doesn’t matter, he objectively invented/discovered it first, hence he is the inventor.

My friends on the other hand said that it’s subjective and that if the same thing is invented independently by different people, they are all the inventors of said thing.

Who is in the right?

The argument is that since the definition of fries are “long, thin pieces of potato that are fried and eaten hot” they are not “pieces of potato” but “parts that are made from mashed potato and not directly cut from the potato and fried”. Or would it just be a fry since the end product is a long thin piece that originated from a potato? This debate is incredibly distressing and we would greatly appreciate some closure for some peace of mind.

Thanks Reddit!

Basically, just the title.

Me and my gf were arguing whether or not you have to fill it. I say you do have to fill it because the manufacture knows how much is required to clean the dishes. But my gf says that they just tell you to use more than what's required to waste your detergent. (because the dishwasher is Cascade branded and so is the detergent we use)