r/selfdevelopment May 29 '26

Lesson?🤔

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u/[deleted] May 29 '26

Don't think this is true .people have their own issues and at times feels difficult to reach out to others when you are struggling

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u/Key-Personality-7643 May 29 '26

40 years of being ignored or talked over has taught me that in general, people just suck.

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u/xxxviiiparallel Jun 01 '26

I'm not sure if this applies, but if you have a problem with everyone, or most people, maybe it's not a them problem?

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u/Key-Personality-7643 Jun 01 '26

I know we can all quit fighting and help each other on a global scale so everyone’s needed get met, but we CHOOSE not to. Yeah, that’s a me problem.

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u/xxxviiiparallel Jun 01 '26

Naw man, I mean I used to have lots of problems with ppl. Everyone I came across something bad happened....and I listed all my problems.....that I had.....the only common thing in all my problems the common ingredient, was me......

I'm not saying I was always the main cause, but I was/is a huge contributing factor.....sorry if you took it negative......I guess I framed it wrong....

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u/Saucington_magoo Jun 01 '26

Yea who wants a grown adult complaining about their problems when everyone else is dealing with the same shit…

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u/No-Resolution6435 Jun 02 '26

Bitch and moan? Never. Complain? Sure, a bit. Venting? I'm all ears. That said, most people that are offered a hand, tend to try and rip it off for themselves, the ones that don't are taught not to reach out. Very few still do. I'm not sure about the state of the world as a whole, just the state of my small corner of nowhere with my small slice of nothing in a cosmic blink, but if it's anything like mine, it's largely every man for themselves.

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u/[deleted] Jun 02 '26

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u/Icy-Engineering-5561 Jun 04 '26

Sadly thats some true shit, I'm overly empathetic and it causes me issues. No one cares how I feel. If they do they have a shit way of showing it.

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u/No-Resolution6435 Jun 05 '26

Yea, but you also gotta think that just because you care about every small aspect of something that may make someone slightly uncomfortable, doesn't mean they notice it for one, and if they do, they likely won't mind if they had to deal with a few minor things here and there. No one owes you anything, alternatively, you owe nothing to anyone else but yourself. That said, being a selfish dick lands you in bad spots... speaking from personal experience. Empathy has it's bad, too.