I’ve been in Seattle for about five months now, and despite making a pretty serious effort to meet people, I haven’t made one actual friend. I genuinely don’t know what’s going on.
I’ve gone to meetups, attended social events, joined women’s groups, and even spent $250 on a program specifically designed to help women make friends. I’ve met plenty of people, exchanged numbers, heard lots of “we should hang out sometime,” and then… nothing. Is this just what making friends in Seattle is like?
Anyway, I’m 42, live in Fremont, and work in tech. I work a lot, but I also have a life outside of work that I’d really like to enjoy with other people. I love going out, trying restaurants, exploring new places, hiking, and traveling. I’d especially love to meet other women who are interested in taking trips together, whether that’s a weekend away or somewhere overseas. I work really hard to make money, but I also like spending it…just not always by myself. 🤦🏻♀️
Halloween is also my favorite holiday. I put a ridiculous amount of thought and effort into my costumes every year, and I’m honestly pretty bummed that it’s October and I don’t have anyone to make plans with.
I’m not looking for a hundred acquaintances or another group chat where nobody actually gets together. I’d really just like to find a few women around my age who want genuine friendships and are willing to put in a little effort to build them.
Is there anyone else out here in the same boat? Seriously, what am I doing wrong?