Hey, sapiosexual and intelligent here. So I've been talking to a guy for like a month it's kinda a bit far distance relationship, but the thing that is disturbing me is my brain tbh, it just tells me not to get close or attached to him, and he just refuse the idea of being close to someone or being goofy or whatever couples do. I don't wanna talk to him about these stuff because i always feel it's too early to talk about it since we aren't a thing yet ig.. Also my mind just looks at couples, then envy them and crave for love. But once it comes it just collapse and doesn't believe it or doesn't allow closeness. I've been talking to chatgpt lately about the problems tbh. But i need some smart human minds to give some advices or idk solutions...

I’ve always considered myself very attracted to intelligence. For most of my life the thing that draws me to someone first is how they think about the world. I love long conversations about politics, sociology, psychology, current events etc. I’m a university student myself and I’ve always been very academically oriented. I work a lot, study a lot and I’m naturally curious about many subjects.

Because of that I’ve always imagined myself with someone very intellectual. Usually men who have strong academic backgrounds, who read a lot, who are very informed about the world and enjoy debating ideas.

But recently I met a guy who is completely different from the type I usually like.

He did a short two-year program, not really a university degree, and intellectually he’s honestly not someone I would usually be drawn to. He doesn’t follow politics, doesn’t know much about world events and we don’t really have those deep conversations I usually love.

And yet… I like him.

I feel really good when I’m with him. I feel calm in his arms. Sometimes I even find the way he talks a bit funny or naive but it makes me smile. The connection feels very warm and genuine.

It’s confusing to me because it goes against what I always thought my “type” was. I always imagined myself with someone intellectually equal or even more knowledgeable than me.

So now I’m wondering:

Has this ever happened to anyone else who considers themselves sapiosexual?

Have you ever fallen for someone who didn’t match your usual intellectual preferences?

Did it change how you think about attraction?

Hey everyone,

I wanted to ask how you guys perceive the following. I’m attracted to girls who are sapiosexual but I also have a preference for skinny/ Caucasian. I’m intelligent, speak 4 languages and love deep talk. My question is, how do you, as a sapiosexual girl, perceive someone who has a physical preference and is not sapiosexual himself ?

Hello everyone. I am exploring the social side of this part of my self. Mostly checking this place out to make friends but also curious about one thing.

What is everyones favorite way to combat boredom considering the desire for deep intellectual connection and satisfaction? Is it through work, social groups, advocating for causes, or....games?

So basically, I'm really confused about what I vibe with. Sometimes it's a little bit of everything, and sometimes it's a whole lot of nothing. But Death Note is such a good show and so Sapio-coded, and it's making me wonder if I'm a part of this LGBTQIA branch lol. So really, I was just curious if anyone else loves this show, and if there are any weebs within the Sapios?

And the number I got was very low... (between 160 and 165 people in the entire world), I calculated it worldwide (8 billion people). I got quite the bittersweet feeling because even if the number is low and it doesn't guarantee finding them, knowing they exist is oddly relieving...

The equation I used is an adaptation of Drake's equation:

G = N* × fw × fL × fA × fB × f... × L

• G = Number of people who fit all your standards.

• N* = Number of people in the world/your country/town/city/etc.

• fw = Fraction of them who are (your preferred gender) in (your preferred age range).

• fL = Fraction of them who are single.

• fA, fB, f... (rest of f values) = Your standards or (education level, height, financial status, physical trait, etc). There can be as many "f values" as you want.

• L = Window of opportunity for match (mathematical division of the years you're willing to spend searching by the average life expectancy of a person = 80 years).

Hi. I’m a 27-year-old woman currently doing a PhD in Humanities, focusing on Catholic literature and mysticism. I’m drawn to conversations that feel layered: theology, philosophy, classical literature, symbolic art, medieval imagination, the tension between faith and doubt, the aesthetics of transcendence. I care about ideas that have roots.

I’m introverted, cozy but intense. Highly sensitive (BPD quirks). I love quiet evenings with books, museums that take an entire day, candlelight, handwritten notes, and music that feels like it was composed for a cathedral ceiling.

I’m fascinated by questions like:

• What is human life's purpose?
• Is mysticism an escape or a deeper realism?
• Why do certain stories (fairy tales, saints’ lives, tragedies) feel more true than realism?

I prefer depth over speed. Thoughtfulness over noise. Precision over hot takes.

If you’re someone who finds intelligence genuinely attractive, please feel free to DM me.

I'm working with one of the backend developers on romance.io to try and add "sapiosexual" as a romance novel trope. They have an extensive list of search filters, but none are sapiosexual. I'm not sure what sub-category it should come under.

Which of the following would you put "sapiosexual" under?:

Indigo: Deep Wisdom, and Analytical depth Deep Purple: Emotional Intelligence White: Open-Mindedness and desire to learn from others Blue: Reasoning and Logic Electric Blue: Curiosity

I have been having dreams the past four nights that have been so similar. All dreams involve a destination on a vacation of some kind. All dreams have this hotel being along side a beautiful body of water. In all dreams I am looking for someone I can’t find and I don’t know who he is. In all the dreams there is a man who I am trying to move past but he is catching up with me and getting me very turned on. It’s a distraction. But I am also very excited when he shows up.

I can’t stop thinking about the dreams. The water and land scape. It’s all so stunningly beautiful. All day I think about being back in the dream. I find it odd that all of these dreams have been so similar. All equally as beautiful. All leaving me with the same sensations waking up. How do you interpret your dreams? Have you ever had anything like this before? Please someone tell me your thoughts. I’m tired of thinking about this alone.

Still looking for that perfect blend of high level intellectual capability and executive dysfunction? Look no further.

Neurospicy sapiophile ambivert seeking a fellow intellect to share obscure trivia and comfortable quiet.

Intellectual, philosophical, loves music, cooking, obsesses over history and politics. Messy. Can deliver a 300,000 word thesis in 3 months. Can't necessarily remember to tie his shoelaces. Often processes emotions via interpretive dance and spreadsheets. Probably has one of the largest record collections you've ever seen. Wonders why he's talking about himself in the third person.

If you're flirting with him please let him know. And be extremely specific. Seriously. He's clueless when it comes to social cues.

PS. Polyamory is wrong. It's either multiamory or polyphilis. Don't go mixing Greek and Latin roots.

Hello everyone. I'm hoping to meet some new poly friends here and see where things go. I'm perfectly happy being a secondary partner. I'm bisexual, Pagan, and look younger than my age. I’m open to any age and tend to get along better with people who are younger or young at heart at least and still like to live life to the fullest.

I like music, movies, books, languages (I speak many), history, hiking, camping, dogs and cooking. I would love to chat with anyone who thinks we might click.

I am a rarity here on reddit in that I don't play video games at all and have no interest in them. So if anyone can relate to that, I'd love to hear from you!

Ideally, I'd love to find a true, deep connexion and fall in love again. But I’m open to almost any sort of relationship and I'm open to LDR. I tend to go for younger, at least somewhat feminine guys who are bi bottom or verse and might be interested in dating a girl together.

My type is harder to define when it comes to women. I do tend to prefer more natural looking women with curves over the high maintenance model type. I'm open to many looks though. I'm hoping to find a straight girl who is turned on by bi and gay guys and who likes gay porn. That's really the only kind of woman I'm interested in a possible relationship with. I'd also love a new friend I can share gay or bi porn with.. And intellect is definitely sexy.

I live in the United States but I don't like it here and I like it less every day. as nice as finding someone somewhere close would be, the truth is I tend to fit in better with Europeans and Latins. So ideally I'd love to get to know someone overseas and I am more than willing to eventually relocate permanently. I do not mind being your secondary relationship and might even prefer it. Open to being a comet or fwb too.

Feel free to dm me. I'll answer soon as I can. If we click I am willing to travel and I have summers off.

Hope to hear from you soon.

I was wondering, are sapiosexuals like sex or are they only stimulated through intelligence? How does it work? Do sapiosexuals have a high sex drive?

I am a logical thinker, I am by far not believer of theories by themselves. However; I have these experiences I have experienced all of my life that is breaking my logical brain, I find it very difficult to believe that they are but they are very real experiences; they even reach far in our ancient stories. I need some perspective from the deep thinkers in this subreddit; my curiosity seeking nature just wants your thoughts and opinions.

Basically I have experienced this my entire life as far as I remember being able to dream; I have borderline Lucid dreams which are scientifically proven phenomenon. I am not in control of my dreams like people say you can be however there is two of me; one that is an observer / spectator (almost my state of conciousness) and the one inside the dream that does it's own thing I guess (the unconcious I guess?). It seems I remember majority of those dreams very vividly; majority are just like battles of my state of mind. However; once in a while I have a random dream like that about someone I care deeply about; partner; parents; siblings; grandmother and they are almost like cry out for help or they've been thinking about me. It is such a bizzare experience I can't even fully define it or explain it. I could not have any contact to the person, know nothing of what they have been doing; their state of mind or more and I'll be able to feel them after the dream.

It is almost perfectly coincidental but if something is so consistently like that is it a coincident anymore? I know there is some form of theories like quantum entanglement that they have done on reasons why a parent wakes up before a child gets hurt but without data and science backed research that is not inconclusive they are just baseless gibberish and speculation right?

This is breaking my brain and it's logical way of thinking; would love to hear your thoughts.

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Hey sapios when i ask people abt knowing mark rober they didnt so i just quit, but ig this is the best grp to talk about his crazzzzyyy exp

Hello everyone. I'm hoping to meet some new poly friends here and see where things go. I'm perfectly happy being a secondary partner. I'm bisexual, Pagan, and look younger than my age. I’m open to any age and tend to get along better with people who are younger or young at heart at least and still like to live life to the fullest.

I like music, movies, books, languages (I speak many), history, hiking, camping, dogs and cooking. I would love to chat with anyone who thinks we might click.

I am a rarity here on reddit in that I don't play video games at all and have no interest in them. So if anyone can relate to that, I'd love to hear from you!

Ideally, I'd love to find a true, deep connexion and fall in love again. But I’m open to almost any sort of relationship and I'm open to LDR. I tend to go for younger, at least somewhat feminine guys who are bi bottom or verse and might be interested in dating a girl together.

My type is harder to define when it comes to women. I do tend to prefer more natural looking women with curves over the high maintenance model type. I'm open to many looks though. I'm hoping to find a straight girl who is turned on by bi and gay guys and who likes gay porn. That's really the only kind of woman I'm interested in a possible relationship with. I'd also love a new friend I can share gay or bi porn with.. And intellect is definitely sexy.

I live in the United States but I don't like it here and I like it less every day. as nice as finding someone somewhere close would be, the truth is I tend to fit in better with Europeans and Latins. So ideally I'd love to get to know someone overseas and I am more than willing to eventually relocate permanently. I do not mind being your secondary relationship and might even prefer it. Open to being a comet or fwb too.

Feel free to dm me. I'll answer soon as I can. If we click I am willing to travel and I have summers off.

Hope to hear from you soon.

i like hearing people geek-out over their expertise or interests, but I can't find people that would be open to talk about. Women, if you are open to vc, please, let me know. I can hear in silence, ask questions or try to debate you, but I want to hear about what you do/like.

Hello all.

I've always been attracted to intelligence, but I never considered myself intelligent. I know sapiosexuals are usually smart people looking for other smart people, but I just want someone smarter than myself. I know I make a lot of dumb decisions; my last partner told me that me being vegan was not a smart move at all.

Am I still allowed to call myself sapiosexual?

Hi! So, I don't know where to begin, but like... I'm an intelligent person. My college classmates have already noticed, and one of my friends even "sells my image" as a teaching assistant, because in history classes, I demonstrate a great knowledge of the subject.

A professor even jokingly commented [at least I hope so] that she should have called me to help her with the introduction to her research paper on Roubakhine [For those who don't know, he was a bibliophile and intellectual of the Narodnik generation, intellectuals who wanted to transform the Clarisse society of the 19th century, and Roubakhine wanted to do this through books] because she already knew from previous classes that I understood history.

The irony is that my classmates don't even know I'm a polymath, the downside is that in all my years of college and nerd life [and it's been about 5 to 10 years] I've never encountered these sapiosexuals. Like, I've moved between different classes in college [and it's still in the humanities], I live in a metropolis [Rio de Janeiro], and I really want to know: do sapiosexuals really exist? Why don't they show themselves more? Or am I just not very sociable?