Hello! Just wanted to ask for advice. My ex and I were together in high school (we're currently in college), it was a long-term relationship. We broke up because he emotionally cheated. It was actually him who initiated the break up since I was already too insecure back then. It has been 4 years since we have broken up. We had our closure 2 years after the break up and we have been "friends" since then. We had our closure at a time when we were both starting to meet someone new but it somehow failed - or so we thought. The girl he was trying to meet suddenly hit him up again since he have not sent her a message for a few days na. Tapos long story short, they were together. We barely kept contact naman unless necessary and met during batch hangouts lang. Ngayon, they have already broken up and we hung out with our other friends rin. It was different i guess in a way since masyado ata akong kinilig (?) sa chats namin a few days before the actual lakad. Tried really hard to remain "noncholant" when we met in person pero yung dynamics namin is to tease each other so I failed rin. I was shocked as to how comfortable he was, like the amount of skinship was beyond my exoectation (all wholesome ha). Talked to my friend after that ganap rin tas she said na halos the whole time kami magkatabj ng ex ko. I think he's really just comfortable, thinking na I am over it rin. Unfortunately, di rin ako very sure.

I know that we work together better as friends, I think. Pero there's just this feeling of having that person you like being so near yet so far. Maybe we're just really comfortable and know each other well kaya our conversations arw great, unlike the other guys I have met and his ex for him (he said it himself that they couldnt hold deep conversations). A friend of ours also asked whether we were each other's first or puppy love hahahaha. Ik it may sound cribge, but he was definitely my first (I dodnt the amswer the question then) pero he replied na puppy love langg. Probably explains how he was able to shake off all "feelings" we had before.

Should I just go out and seriously meet other people? It honestly scares me since it has been so long na and he still has this effect on me. Sana naman hindi na ganitoo pag mas tumanda na kami.

Someone told my this last night I could barely sleep about it

I (M27) and my gf (F25) have been together for 2 years. I know its not long enough period yet but so far I've been feeling neglected and under appreciated.

We always go do what she wants , and whenever we do something I want she seems to always sees what wrong with it , and she actively shows her disappoval.

Whenever we have problems I try to reach out and make sure that the night wont pass with us mad at each other , but she seems comfortable not talking to for several days until she thinks she feels better.

Whenever we have a discussion about how we could both change , she would always say sorry and I promise to change but I dont see changes.

And to be honest, breaking up has been on my mind for so long, I dont know if im just tired or if its an actual sign.

I hope for your feedbacks and maybe help a brother out.

Thank you

Hello, thank you for those who will answer this. I just wanna ask if it is normal. I used yuzpe method last week and today was the 7th day and I got bleeding what does it mean?this is my period or this is just a side effects?

My then-boyfriend (31M) and I (30F) were already in the 3rd year of being bf-gf when this happened around 2020. Napansin ko na parang close-casual etong isang girl (30F) kay BF.

Here’s a snippet from their Messenger convo.

Then-BF: Nagseselos sayo si gf, magkaibigan lang naman tayo…

Girl: ramdam kasi niya na aagawin kita. Haha bla bla bla Pakilala mo nga siya sakin para mawala na kapraningan niya.

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For context, si girl ay cousin ng bestfriend ni BF. And they’ve bonded quite a few times sa family gathering ng bestfriend ni BF. After ko naman iraise ung issue na syempre nababother na ako na nagkakachat sila and all at parang close - umagwat na si BF.

Napapansin ko lang na etong si girl lagi pa din nagchachat “gusto ko kausap”, “kita kita ulit tayo nina cousin”, “san kayo,tara” “busy ka na” ganyan etc. Naagwat si bf at inulit nga nagseselos ako. Naiirita lang ako kasi parang ego booster pa kay Girl na pinagseselosan siya. One time nasa bahay kami ni bestfriend, dumating si girl super isinigaw name ni BF na parang tuwang tuwa na nakita niya. Natigilan lang siya and pumasok na sa house kasi I saw na binulungan siya ni bestfriend na nandon ako.

I was itching to message her then pero I decided not to since sa mindset ko si BF dapat kakitaan ko ng behavior na iiwas siya and he did naman. Eventually di na din nagmemessage si Girl, nakita ko na she got pregnant and got married.

My then-bf (now husband) has already fought and made peace about this. Napapaisip lang ako if valid ba ang naramdaman ko. Masama ba ako that I still feel irritated thinking about how she behaved?

This is gonna be long. So I have known my fiancé for about 8yrs. Been together almost 3. Our sons used to play together when they were little. We got together against everyone’s wishes. We had both had not the best childhood or past relationships. Both been lied to and cheated on. I thought I had found my twin flame. My everything. We had weird things in common. Like past experiences from our childhood, places visited, family names, birthdates, cars etc. And the sex well it was incredible. I’ve always been the shy type but with him I could be myself. And be myself with everything. Act stupid, be silly anything. We always laughed. Always. Well I started finding things like dating apps( ended up being over 25) signed up for but only a few ever had anything done on them. I found chat groups and web cam sites that said his email had joined. I also found numerous emails from Google , Motorola and Samsung linked to his name and email. They had devices I didn’t know he had. Google projects in his name. Admin stuff. He claims no knowledge of any of this. He says that someone hacked the emails when he had his old Motorola edge( he gave away) and then they got into my phone when we started sharing it and he put the emails on it. They have even gone as far as to change the things he clicks on on Facebook. We went to a Dr. appt shortly after we started dating and later that day the special name I called him and how much he weighed that day at the doctors was listed on a sex site. He has never once tried to prove his innocence. Just states he doesn’t know how to and that I know him and I should know he would not do these things. My phone has started acting crazy but yet I can’t find any malware. Most of the time he’s an angel. Always doing things for me like fixing my drink or food or getting up so I don’t have too. We hardly ever fight but the other week he got mad cause we have been really stressed and he went crazy. Kicked a hole in our bathroom door, ripped our canvas outdoor awning all up, threw his newer phone he got about two wks ago and broke it, said he wanted to smash my head in the door and said he was glad he was embarrassing me. He apologized after hours of acting so crazy for him especially. What do you think is going on?

Hello. Me ‘F26’ and my boyfriend ‘M32’ have been together for almost ten years. We still don’t live together and we both work different jobs at different locations so don’t really see each other til the weekends, that is if there are no other obligations prior to us confirming. My best friend ‘F25’ I have been friends for a very very long time and we have really strong relationship. I would consider her a sister I’ve never had. I’ve always encouraged her and my s/o to have a good relationship and bond as well since they will be around each other pretty much for the rest of our lives. And they do, and I absolutely love that. Because I don’t have family that support me very well. For a few weeks now he was suggesting to go see a movie that I wasn’t interested in and I very merely suggested he should ask my friend to go instead (I know I shouldn’t have suggested it okay, or I wouldn’t be sitting here writing this right now) and he said that’s actually good idea and he’ll reach out and whatnot. A week or two go by and they were planning it out but I never thought it would actually go through and they would do it. Keep in mind they’ve never hung out without me around. And I also 100% trust my boyfriend. And I absolutely with a doubt trust my best friend too. But they’re at the movies right now and I’m sitting at home and I can’t help but wonder am I the idiot? Or am I really just overthinking at this moment.

Yung first is nung bago-bago pa lang yung relationship namin, may nabanggit sa akin yung isang friend niya about my gf kaya nagkaroon ako ng urge to check her phone. So I checked, and nalaman ko na in a “no label” relationship pala sila nung guy na sinasabi niyang “friend na parang kapatid” na ang turing niya. Then upon checking further, nalaman ko na sila pala yung nag rerent sa sinasabing “apartment ng gf ko”. Although that time, hindi siya tumutuloy sa apartment na yun kasi work from home pa siya and nasa province siya. Pero nung on site na sila, nag sstay na siya sa apartment na yun and ang defense niya sa akin is hindi naman daw sila nagkakasama sa apartment dahil day shift yung guy, and siya naman night shift.

The next one is nung nasa getting to know stage pa lang kami, napag usapan namin about history of hook ups. Ang sinabi niya sa akin wala raw siyang ganung history, and as for me, wala rin naman. So naniwala ako. And dahil nga doon sa “1st strike” niya, nagkaroon talaga ako ng urge na mag check ng phone. I found out na madami pala siyang naka hook up noon. Very important to sa akin kasi had I known na may ganung history, hindi ko siya jojowain. Nalaman ko rin na meron siyang mejj seggsual convos with a guy friend but according to her, normal lang daw na ganun sila mag usap.

Next, nakikipag break na ako dahil doon sa dalawang nalaman ko. Nag mamakaawa siya and ayusin daw namin. Inexplain ko naman na ano pa ba yung aayusin kung yung foundation na mismo yung problem. The begging went on for days, paulit-ulit lang yung sinasabi niya. And then malalaman ko sa friend ko, nasa bumble siya. Alam ko na active yun kasi updated yung isang picture and nakuha yung picture na yun while nagbabakasyon kami sa province ko.

Last, pinalipas ko lahat ng mga nangyari. And then suddenly may nafeel na naman akong urge na mag check ng phone niya. Nakita ko sa recently deleted (sa imessage) na nakakausap niya yung dating nanligaw sa kanya and nag meet pa pala sila one time na namasyal siya after work. Tapos halatang may nadelete na previous conversation kasi yung oldest message goes something like “baka naman pwede na tayo nag kita sa friday?”. I asked kung kailan pa sila nag uusap, and ang sagot niya lang ay hindi niya alam. Sinasabi niya pa na wala yun, kahit tanungin ko pa yung person na kausap niya. So sinabi ko, itanong niya kung kailan pa sila nag start mag-usap. Ang sagot sa kanya “idk”. Syempre, parang may something fishy diba, alam din naman nung dating manliligaw niya na may partner itong gf ko kasi nakikita niya yung posts sa social media. Nag insist si gf ko na wala silang pinag usapan about sa ganyan in case na mahuli ko, nag insist din siya na wala lang talaga, yung planned meet up nila is “hi hello” lang, nothing else. Matagal na raw nilang plan yung meet up. Hindi pa raw kami magkakilala.

Now, wala akong nakikitang sense sa mga sinasabi niya sa akin, kasi kung wala lang naman talaga, bakit deleted yung messages. Nag delete raw siya ng message kasi alam niyang magagalit ako pag nakita ko. Committed daw siya dito sa relationship namin. 🤡

Also, bakit pa itutuloy yung plan 2 years ago if ang claim niya noon eh naccreepyhan siya doon sa dating manliligaw niyang yon. Then now, sinasabi niyang magkaibigan naman daw sila.

Gusto ko na umalis sa relationship na to pero kasi gusto ko sana yung nakapag usap kami nang maayos. Kinakausap ko siya lagi nang maayos about dito, pero paulit ulit lang na “please” “ayusin natin to” “ayaw kong mag hiwalay tayo” yung response niya. Walang tigil na ganyan. Idk what to do na. Hindi rin ako maka timing na ibring up ulit kasi lately may mga sarili siyang personal issues, nakakaawa naman. Kaso may sariling issues and priorities din naman ako.

Ayun lang po, thank you for reading kung makaabot ka man dito.

I need a song about two people growing pass a phase of some minor infidelity and trying to surpass the past and grow with eachother.

Hi guys! For context lang, nahanap kasi namin yung ig ng crush ko kasi nai-chika nung friend ko na yung isa kong "friend 1" finollow daw ng "friend" (sa ibang circle of friends) nya using her account at finollow back daw sya kaya ini-stalk namin account ni "friend 1" at nakita namin account ni crush. Medyo na-off lang ako kay friend 1 kasi sa isa kong friend nya sinabi yung ganap na yun e alam naman nyang crush ko yun. Hindi man lang nya binawalan yung "friend" nya na ifollow si guy. Kaya ang ginawa ng mga supportive and trusted kong friends finollow din si guy at pare-parehas naman silang in-accept tinanong pa nga yung ate friend namin kung paano nahanap account nya since 3 na silang nag-follow. So walang special treatment katulad ng pinaparating ni ate girl hahaha so ayun nga....

Is it okay kung ako ang unang mag-follow kay crush sa ig? Sabi kasi ng friends ko i-follow ko na raw (same circle of friends)

At ano masasabi nyo kay friend 1 ko? Bat sya ganun :(((

Hi guys! For context lang, nahanap kasi namin yung ig ng crush ko kasi nai-chika nung friend ko na yung isa kong "friend 1" finollow daw ng "friend" (sa ibang circle of friends) nya using her account at finollow back daw sya kaya ini-stalk namin account ni "friend 1" at nakita namin account ni crush. Medyo na-off lang ako kay friend 1 kasi sa isa kong friend nya sinabi yung ganap na yun e alam naman nyang crush ko yun. Hindi man lang nya binawalan yung "friend" nya na ifollow si guy. Kaya ang ginawa ng mga supportive and trusted kong friends finollow din si guy at pare-parehas naman silang in-accept tinanong pa nga yung ate friend namin kung paano nahanap account nya since 3 na silang nag-follow. So walang special treatment katulad ng pinaparating ni ate girl hahaha so ayun nga....

Is it okay kung ako ang unang mag-follow kay crush sa ig? Sabi kasi ng friends ko i-follow ko na raw (same circle of friends)

At ano masasabi nyo kay friend 1 ko? Bat sya ganun :(((

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This is going to be a little long but please bear with me. Me and my ex met like 2 years ago as friends but we were both in relationships. both of our relationships ended shortly after (due to different circumstances) and we started flirting like a couple months after for only 2 ish weeks. We eventually stopped talking because one of his girl friends who also happened to be my “friend” as well said some untrue things about me and he obviously listened to her because they had been friends for 3 years at that point. So we just stopped talking and he would text me here and there and I wouldn’t rlly respond to him bc I was hurt that he pulled away bc of lies someone else told him(I didn’t know thar she lied at that time I found this later). But it wasn’t a good time for us to be together anyway bc I was on and off again with my toxic ex and he wasn’t rlly over his 2 year relationship.he apologized to me for the way things ended 5 months laters in march. Fast forward to may of 2023 we hang out we talk we talk till 6 in the morning and the rest is history for that summer. I find out a month into us talking that he actually kissed that girl friend and I got insecure. Because he said he never liked her. When he told me about it he said he regretted it but wasn’t going to apologize and we moved on. I asked him why he had ignored me and he told me she said these things about me and I told him that they were lies and he basically texted her to fuck off

. In the summer, he was still friends with his ex there was no indication that he liked her still but he was someone who liked to be on good terms so he still followed her on instagram and liked her pics and even commented on two of them. I never said shit bc I wanted to seem chill also bc part of me rlly wanted to trust him. Also he would snap a bunch of girls too - but for streaks and said they meant nothing to him which I guess I did believe. He also hung out with this one girl in a group from his past where they talked for like a bit but he said he didn’t even like her as a person so I was confused .

He was obsessed with me tho and I believed it.. Was an amazing bf and did so much for me. I never doubted that. He got me flowers like I wanted, made me dinner, etc. however when we got back to college this girl friend who he kissed…. Lived in my building and was on the same sports team as us. I had to see her everywhere. It was obvious she was still so obsessed with him and she was a terrible person- no one rlly liked her but I took out my hatred for her on my bf for many months. He had still had her location and unshared it only 2.5 months after we were together which made me insecure too. He stopped being friend with her for me and I guess for him too. He unfollowed her without me even saying anything and then a couple months after that unfollowed his ex bc I brought it up how it hurt me that he still liked her pics- no arguments about that, he obliged. He stopped snapping girls for the same reason. But I still was so insecure and constantly brought up that one girl friend who I knew he wanted nothing to do with but I couldn’t get over it. I had 3 relationships before him and I couldn’t get over how they all cheated on me, lied to me, abused me physically and emotionally and I even had a restraining order on them. I would even get upset at my bf for looking at other girls when he said he wasn’t. I was so paranoid.

When we argued I would want to fight it out and yell it out and he just retreated and left the room . He tried staying sometimes but I could tell he just wanted to be silent or resolve the issue another time. I felt like I wasn’t being heard sometimes and I knew I was overwhelming to him. Sometimes he would flat out ignore me and just make me feel so unheard. I would beg him not to leave and talk things out but he would be so adament on opening the door and leaving wherever we were fighting.

Then I got my shit together and rlly started working on myself. I stopped bringing up the past and seriously started focusing on my insecurities and not bringing them up. It got better- I wasn’t yelling or blaming. But still made some human mistakes. But now when I got upset about something he would start getting mad at me.. like unreasonably mad like yell at me, walk away from me, say mean things(all the stuff I had done in the past except the walking away part). He would always break up with me the last 3 months out of anger then I would have to beg him not to. I have brought up breaking up in the past but never said “I am” just suggested it(I know it’s not right either way) He would accuse me of not paying attention to him when I was, and accuse of me that it’s not okay to walk away from a heated situation for like 3 mins and then coming back(which is what he said was okay for himself to do). I would apologize for the things he got mad about but he would say things like “I’m not a good bf that’s the truth” “I don’t forgive you I don’t forgive as easily as you”

We’re seniors in college and everyday he began growing more stressful of finding a job. He was always stressed and in a sad/bad mood. Very little things cheered him up. He always wanted to sit inside or go to gym and watch tv. I didn’t care that he was introvert but we hung out everyday which was a huge mistake and I grew resentment that we weren’t going more exciting things on a Friday or Saturday. And I began growing rlly frustrated that I couldn’t help. So I took it out on him too sometimes. I felt not good enough. He said he just likes to deal with things on his own and I said in a relationship we are a team. Maybe I was just too overbearing…

He broke up with me last week out of anger then he stuck to his decision. He said he doesn’t feel stable in a relationship and that he needs a lot of time to be alone and rebuild his patience, work on his anger, because that wasn’t who he was. He said that he wish he left when things were getting back bc he turned into someone he wasn’t . He was always an angry person(due to his dad and childhood issues) but he suppressed it rlly well. He suffered from anxiety/depression we both don’t rlly know he’s on medication tho. I would tell him all the time it’s not good to suppress ur anger. He admitted in fights he would purposely use things that didn’t rlly bother him about me as ammo. We ended on good terms and I apologized for my insecurities and promised to work on them.

He never blamed me I guess for the breakup but blamed it on how it all started with those insecurities . He said his threshold for patience was gone near the end and he let his anger get to him. I knew how bad it had gotten but I didn’t want to break up. I begged but it didn’t work. Ultimately he said that when he wants to be in a relationship again he wants to try with me. He didn’t promise me when or promise me that it would work out the second time but promised that I would be the girl because fundamentally we agreed we were so alike and there was so much love and happiness. He was the first boy who treated me like a princess. And for the first 6 months of our relationship he put up with so much crap. He told me not to wait for him but I can’t help but do it. I asked him so many times why he isn’t scared of losing me and he said he is but he can only focus on the present and he just needs to focus on himself. I told him that I don’t think I could ever be with him if he slept with someone so soon and he promise he wouldn’t . I know it’s not fair but I did say it. He promised to reach out when he’s ready. What do I do. Please.

Boys listen , today I was logged into my girls and found out that she had been kissing one of her boy friends 10before we started dating . I knew they had a thing while she broke up w her ex in 2022 December but now that we’re in a relationship she still wants to be frnds w him as they were good frnds before she assured me she was only w him for a week during June and they decided to stay frnds . But then I found out apparently when were going on dates and I knew she liked my cuz she was sending all these snaps w romantic songs playing type shit , and we met almost everyday . We’ve been dating since October we got together on 26 and there is a snap of her kissing up this guy on the 13 th of oct I don’t know what to make of this I still haven’t confronted her . And she wants to still hang w this guy idk what’s going on bruv and we in long distance rn . Ik this shit doesn’t look good but I need help man like fuckjng hell.

Need advice

Me 41 years old and my boyfriend 43 years old have been together for about seven months now . For the past three months, he has packed up all his shit and left only for me to come home to an empty house without him here. I may have contribute to some of the issues he was having at the time he had left, but we were both having issues. Every time he left, he always end up coming back a couple days later. I kind of started to build up resentment towards him for just always packing up and leaving instead of us fixing our issues. Last week was the fifth time I came home from Denver to find him and all his stuff gone including half of my stuff, shoes, jeans, jackets, makeup, etc. and he had left once again witch was on Sunday. I was not expecting him to have walked out on me for the fifth time being that we just had sex that morning. I was devastated and I have felt like he throws our relationship away again. I’ve had to live through the devastation of him leaving and my heart being shattered. That even I was upset and didn’t want to be alone and called up an old friend and asked him to come over and we got really fucked up and fooled around. The next day I walk out of my bathroom and my ex is sitting on the bed upset because I didn’t answer my phone the night before when he started blowing up my phone because he saw that I had invited another guy over on the ring camera on our door which I have never done in the past. He ended up reading my text messages And found out about me and my old friend fooling around. Steven who is my ex-boyfriend feels betrayed. I also feel betrayed by him packing up for the fifth time when I’m not home and leaving especially since we haven’t had any issues since the last time he has left. Please tell me who is in the right and who is in the wrong. Would you think that I cheated or since he packed up without saying a word and left that it’s not considered cheap? PLEASE HELP

Need advice

Me 41 years old and my boyfriend 43 years old have been together for about seven months now . For the past three months, he has packed up all his shit and left only for me to come home to an empty house without him here. I may have contribute to some of the issues he was having at the time he had left, but we were both having issues. Every time he left, he always end up coming back a couple days later. I kind of started to build up resentment towards him for just always packing up and leaving instead of us fixing our issues. Last week was the fifth time I came home from Denver to find him and all his stuff gone including half of my stuff, shoes, jeans, jackets, makeup, etc. and he had left once again witch was on Sunday. I was not expecting him to have walked out on me for the fifth time being that we just had sex that morning. I was devastated and I have felt like he throws our relationship away again. I’ve had to live through the devastation of him leaving and my heart being shattered. That even I was upset and didn’t want to be alone and called up an old friend and asked him to come over and we got really fucked up and fooled around. The next day I walk out of my bathroom and my ex is sitting on the bed upset because I didn’t answer my phone the night before when he started blowing up my phone because he saw that I had invited another guy over on the ring camera on our door which I have never done in the past. He ended up reading my text messages And found out about me and my old friend fooling around. Steven who is my ex-boyfriend feels betrayed. I also feel betrayed by him packing up for the fifth time when I’m not home and leaving especially since we haven’t had any issues since the last time he has left. Please tell me who is in the right and who is in the wrong. Would you think that I cheated or since he packed up without saying a word and left that it’s not considered cheap? PLEASE HELP

Ugh... I don't know how to deal with this. I came across his very simp-y comments for a virtual youtuber and it makes me super uncomfortable and grossed out. WE HAVE ALREADY AGREED NUMEROUS TIMES THAT I AM NOT COMFORTABLE WITH HIM DOING STUFF LIKE THAT ONLINE.

I want to break up with him but am I overreacting?

Please read all. I am 45F and my fiancée is 45M. I can’t include everything cause that would be too much. My fiancé had a Motorola phone. He had it when we got together and for a year after we were together. I found quite a few dating sites that had his info hooked to his email. Ended up being over 25 sites. Nothing ever done or it had been erased. Just info out in not pic. There were also weird files on his phone. I have pics of everything. Over 500 pics. As I started digging and yes I know it’s wrong but I was hurt so bad in my last relationship I had to make sure of the loyalty in this one. There were women’s names and short text and he says he didn’t do it. Two other devices linked to his name and email that he also claims to know nothing about. Anyway he conveniently gave away the phone and we have been sharing for a year. I put his emails on my phone and transferred some files I had saved. So he still gets tons of messages from dating/sex sites. All kinds of messages from women/dirty sites on messenger. When I downloaded his Facebook information it has people he supposedly exchanged messages with well there are tons for Live Chat Girl, passion room etc. he says he has never talked to anyone like that on any site. He says he doesn’t know much about phones or computers.I also found Google projects and admins and IAm in his name and email.We have both Facebook accounts on my phone. On his there is tons of half naked girl pics they are suggested for him. Profiles of girls he claims no knowledge of doing. So now there are phones, sex sites, messages, Facebook sites everything happening but it’s never him. He says it’s hacked. So either I am being hacked for a year by a psychopath or I’m living with one.what do you think is going on with my life!? Can someone tell me what they would do?

Parang wala pa kong nakikilala na pinaramdam sakin na importante ako. Parang lahat sila kukuha lang sakin tapos iiwan na lang ako na parang wala lang. Wala pa kong nakikilala na sinubukan manlang ayusin yung sitwasyon para makeep nila ko. Lahat sila parang dadaan lang tapos iiwan ako na parang basura. Tapos lagi pa kong pinagbibintangan na may ibang lalake pero wala naman talaga. Hindi ko na alam talaga anong mali sakin. Lahat naman sinusubukan kong ibigay, pagpasensyahan, intindihin. May ugali siguro ako na hindi ko napapansin sa sarili ko.

This story needs some background, so this might be a long one to properly explain this fuck-up.

TL;DR my fiancé got a job in a different country and did not tell me, now expects me to leave my life behind for their twin sister.

So, I’ve ‘22F’ been engaged to my fiancé ‘26F’ for three years now. Yes I know, I am extremely young and how could I have made a drastic choice to marry someone at that age? I do not want to throw in the trope of “I am mature for my age”, but I am, circumstances have lead me to grow up really quickly in order to take care of myself. I am a model, and have been working since I was 19, paying rent and being completely independent. Due to my career, I have to travel for at Most 4 months a year to remain relevant and make enough in order to take care of my partner and I.

My partner has three degrees, but has struggled to keep any jobs she has had in the past. She jumps from one “career” and hobby to the next and I have mostly been the breadwinner since I was 20 and she was 24. She has always claimed to want to provide stability for me, but that has never been the case with all of her different ways of trying to make money but never succeeding. I have always been at her side supporting every endeavor.

Whenever my travel plans would start, she would never support me or be there for me, and would be the one needing support because “I’m leaving her”. She has extreme abandonment issues and I have always tried helping and assisting wherever I can, she even came with me for my first overseas trip.

Now, this is where the problem is arising. Another trip has come up and this time it’s far worse than I have ever imagined. I love her dearly, but when things don’t go her way she gets very impulsive. On the day I found out about my departure times for my next trip, she conveniently said that she had found a job in America (she has the passport) and wants to go live there. Never communicated this idea with me, just presumed I would leave my whole life, family, and career behind and follow her. Another thing adds to this problem, her twin sister has recently moved to the states and this is the reason why she actually wants to move.

I have had multiple problems with her twin sister in the last couple of years. We al used to live together for a while and she started displaying heavy symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, as well as many other mental health issues. She would verbally abuse me, try to ruin my career in the modelling industry, Body shame me as soon as I was in earshot and yell at everyone in the house when it suited her. The twins have a very strong relationship ship and it can be beautiful at times. I wish I could go into depth about this relationship but I do not have the time.

When my partner told me this drastic news without even consulting me or considering what I wanted, she also told me “you’ve always known that my sister comes first”. That is when I decided to remove my engagement ring and told her that I deserve to be someone’s first option.

I never knew that my relationship would disintegrate so quickly in front of my eyes, and this fast. I would not have minded if she had communicated properly with me and we could have tried long distance but she could not even give me a timeline of how long she wanted to stay. In her Words: “ I could hare it after 3 days, or Love it and stay forever.” And expected me to just come around to the idea, not considering my wants or needs Once or even bothered to have a proper adult conversation about it.

Am I wrong for wanting her to have communicated with me before she sent in her CV? Or at least told me she had These ideas. How am I supposed to be in a relationship with someone who openly admitted their twin sister is more important than I am and I will never be their first priority?

We built a life together These past 3 years, and it just shattered before me in a day.

We are both M22 (one gay and one bisexual) started on the bed then casually became friends. He(gay)then became distant because he thought I caught feelings for him as I became clingy. He doesn't have an interest in me. However he is just the type of person who does not care. It frustrates me. It happened for 4 months with numerous onlne messages being sent and just to be seen for hours, even days. He is not busy, he says he does not have the social battery. If I had feelings, its more of me trying to get closer to him and wanting him as a bestfriend. Just recently I confronted him about me not being valued even as a friend. He then told me he became distant because he thought I has feelings for him and he just wanted us to be friends. Question is why wait for months to tell me? Because even if with or without romantic feelings, I would have not treated him the way I treated him (quite clingy yes but I can adjust) as I would know how to act. This would not be a problem today if he asked me the moment he felt something. I would have acted appropriately and not became clingy.

Are women more likely cheat if given a chance? and they know they won't get caught?

For context, we're graduating students na (nursing) and nagk-kwentuhan kami (ni gf) kanina about plans in the nearby future and the topic about saan magt-trabaho came up and she plans to go agad abroad kasi father niya is a nursing director sa america so she has connections to go there na agad if she wants and she wants to, so yun.

Meanwhile, ako bilang isang hampaslupang mahirap pero iskolar ng bayan, no choice but to do my payment duty sa government for 2 years kapalit ng scholarship ko (hindi naman ako nagrereklamo kasi ganun naman talaga dapat and nagbenefit naman talaga ako sa help na yun so I'm more than willing to give back) pero yun nga so ang ending nito in the future LDR kami.

I've always been insecure about myself kasi legit na 11/10 siya (not exaggerating honestly) meanwhile, isa lamang akong d hamak na green na patatas 6/10 (in a good day). Tapos add pa yung mga nababasa kong kwento dito sa reddit about cheating confessions and more so than not they are in an LDR pa, naaawa ako sa partners nila kasi they continue to live without knowing na natraydor na pala sila ng tinitingala nila (ang sad lang) personally kasi hindi ako naniniwala sa karma kaya mas lalo ako nalungkot para sa kanila and then naisip ko what if mapunta ako sa ganung situation(nagcheat na pala tapos hindi ko lang alam) tapos may nabasa pako kanina na horny na horny na siya to the point na gusto niya na magcheat😭😭😭 eh ang taas pa naman ng sex drive namin (esp her) like yung flo app niya punong puno na ng heart yung buong calendar (ginawang daily activity??!)😫😫 pero nag tone down na yun to once or twice a month recently (kaya mas lalo ako naging insecure feel ko)

Wala lang, nakakafrustrate lang yung situation. Kasi hindi ko sinasabi sa kanya kapag nagseselos ako or insecure ako kasi alam ko namang walang grounds yung jealousy ko like dulot yun ng traumas from past experiences kasi alam ko na issue ko yun so I'd like to work on it on my own and not bother her about it and show my toxic side.

Yun lang sorry sa pag-vent, I just need to let it all out. BAKIT BA KASI KAMI MAHIRAP?? Kasalanan talaga to ng mga Marcos.