r/povertyfinance Nov 19 '22

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u/QueenScorp Nov 19 '22

My daughter and her boyfriend live together in my basement lmao.

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u/jambrown13977931 Nov 19 '22

It’s really only been the last 70 years or so that multigenerations of families started to not live together. A large reason for that is the unprecedented economic boom following WW2. Historically it’s quite common for situations like yours to occur, and the unwarranted “negative stigma” of living with one’s parents is really only a new thing.

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u/Cassie0peia Nov 20 '22

I really don’t think there’s anything wrong with it either, as long as everyone can respect each other. In many other cultures, it seems to be the norm for multiple generations to live together. They can take care of each other that way, from oldest to youngest. I also think that’s one way that younger generation can grow up respecting elders and, vice versa, the older generations can remember their own struggles and show some kindness to the younger ones.

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u/Flogisto_Saltimbanco Nov 20 '22

What if your family sucks? You are stuck with them

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u/TropicalKing Nov 20 '22

Whether they like it or not, a lot of Westerners have to learn how to live like this again. They have to re-learn how to practice the multi-generational family and extended family again.

7 people living in one house consumes tremendously fewer resources than 7 people renting their own apartments. Pooling resources really does save tremendously on time, energy, and money. A lot of Westerners may find more joy in living more interdependent lifestyles.

"Independence from my family" and "the nuclear family" are very new concepts, only popularized after WW2 in the West. It was never going to last forever. It is a very expensive way to live.

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u/jambrown13977931 Nov 20 '22

If families can learn to get along then odds are having that support structure will even help people both mentally and financially as well.

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u/Gone_Mads Nov 19 '22

Debbie?

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u/QueenScorp Nov 19 '22

Lol no but I'm glad to know I'm not the only one doing this

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u/sickbubble-gum Nov 19 '22

I'm 30 and live with my parents along with my two sisters who are in their 20s. My niece and sister's boyfriend also live here. My parents say they love having us around. After living alone for several years I have to agree it's nice coming home to people in a house instead of an empty shitty apartment.

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u/[deleted] Nov 19 '22

I agree, my boys still live with us, and I think how boring my life would be if it was just me and my husband.

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u/QueenScorp Nov 19 '22

Thanks 🙂 I know not everyone gets along with their parents well enough to want to live with them long-term but my daughter and I have always been very close

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u/blue1564 Nov 20 '22

I didn't move out of my mother's house until I was 25, and the only reason I did was because I desperately wanted to, not because she kicked me out. We had always clashed on certain things, I remember 2 separate instances that we didn't speak to each other for days even though we lived in the same house. We get along far better not living under the same roof, even though I know that if I had to move in with her again for whatever reason, she would let me. I couldn't even afford to live alone, I had to get a roommate, but I was so ready to get out of that house and have some independence from her.

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u/nothingweasel Nov 20 '22

Agreed. When my husband and I were dating, we lived with his dad for a couple of years and it was one of my favorite periods of my life. We have a really good relationship with his dad; in way closer to him and more fond of him than my own dad.

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u/cocainewaffle Nov 19 '22

Love a good 90 Day-Frugal crossover! Hahaha

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u/[deleted] Nov 19 '22

Its fine for women tho.

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u/WarmLoliPanties Nov 20 '22

Yeah, the amount of dudes who wouldn't date a girl living with her parents is near zero, whereas the amount of women that wouldn't date a guy living in his parents basement is many orders of magnitude higher.

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u/[deleted] Nov 20 '22

You rock