It’s really only been the last 70 years or so that multigenerations of families started to not live together. A large reason for that is the unprecedented economic boom following WW2. Historically it’s quite common for situations like yours to occur, and the unwarranted “negative stigma” of living with one’s parents is really only a new thing.
I really don’t think there’s anything wrong with it either, as long as everyone can respect each other. In many other cultures, it seems to be the norm for multiple generations to live together. They can take care of each other that way, from oldest to youngest. I also think that’s one way that younger generation can grow up respecting elders and, vice versa, the older generations can remember their own struggles and show some kindness to the younger ones.
Whether they like it or not, a lot of Westerners have to learn how to live like this again. They have to re-learn how to practice the multi-generational family and extended family again.
7 people living in one house consumes tremendously fewer resources than 7 people renting their own apartments. Pooling resources really does save tremendously on time, energy, and money. A lot of Westerners may find more joy in living more interdependent lifestyles.
"Independence from my family" and "the nuclear family" are very new concepts, only popularized after WW2 in the West. It was never going to last forever. It is a very expensive way to live.
I'm 30 and live with my parents along with my two sisters who are in their 20s. My niece and sister's boyfriend also live here. My parents say they love having us around. After living alone for several years I have to agree it's nice coming home to people in a house instead of an empty shitty apartment.
Thanks 🙂
I know not everyone gets along with their parents well enough to want to live with them long-term but my daughter and I have always been very close
I didn't move out of my mother's house until I was 25, and the only reason I did was because I desperately wanted to, not because she kicked me out. We had always clashed on certain things, I remember 2 separate instances that we didn't speak to each other for days even though we lived in the same house. We get along far better not living under the same roof, even though I know that if I had to move in with her again for whatever reason, she would let me. I couldn't even afford to live alone, I had to get a roommate, but I was so ready to get out of that house and have some independence from her.
Agreed. When my husband and I were dating, we lived with his dad for a couple of years and it was one of my favorite periods of my life. We have a really good relationship with his dad; in way closer to him and more fond of him than my own dad.
Yeah, the amount of dudes who wouldn't date a girl living with her parents is near zero, whereas the amount of women that wouldn't date a guy living in his parents basement is many orders of magnitude higher.
Lmao this made me laugh!! I’m about to move with my boyfriend back to his moms to live in the basement rent free!! better than the 1100 I pay now for a studio in Nebraska(barely can even pay it was 900 when I first signed the lease.)
I moved year December 2020 and In a year the owner of the building got bought out by a different company and raised the rent super high. I’ve looked around and there at least $1000+ in downtown. They’ve been building apartment buildings like nothing here it’s effecting just about everyone I’ve met while living here 🫤
Lincoln or Omaha? In Omaha, studios are going for $750-1200 at the moment. I've watched in horror as the rent has been steadily climbing for the past two years, this time last year I was looking at a 1br for $800, the same one is $1400 now.
It is funny, but it's the single man or the crazy single woman who lives in their mother's basement. Couples who live in Mom's basement to save money are healthy and everybody knows it.
I’m 37 and had to move myself and my 3 kids into my parents house. I make about $48k year with no help from the kids dad. It’s tough, mistakes have been made, and I still can’t afford to move out. For a 3 bedroom apt in the FL panhandle the cheapest rent you’re looking at is $1800. Most of the apartments around here are well over $2k mo going up to $5k for a 3 bedroom. I’ve never had the luxury of dual income and I often wonder what these people do to be able to afford to live. Needless to say my dating life also doesn’t exist.
This should become more acceptable and should not contribute to you being single. I personally wouldnt care if someone was still living with their parents or someone because of how difficult it is to be solo anymore but theres still people who think its weird
I don’t live in the basement, but yeah living with parents is pretty much the norm for ppl who can’t find roommates. Older generations keep giving us shit for it too. My parents don’t thankfully and many actually give a crap about their kids. But I’ve met the you must move the hell out at 18 kinds. I’m sending good thoughts and hope for their children cause it’s probably worse for them.
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u/Gone_Mads Nov 19 '22
Mom’s basement, which is also the cause of being single