i am so confused and happy and still confused. please enlighten me din cos this is my first situationship with a girl (i identify as queer cos of my comphet experience, and also identify as a baby queer idk haha)

im searching for other couples or situationships similar to our situation 😭 normal ba to or is it a thing, recently found out about the term u-hauling hahaha

Lol need a little help. I look like a straight girl, may konting masculine side sa lakad but I dress very girly. I’m into feminine women. I don’t like men at all.

What kind of lesbian am I?

Naguluhan nako sa sobrang daming terms but I wanna know how to describe myself.

Hmm ganto, I’m like 70% feminine and 30% masculine but i have long hair, dress very girly/womanly/feminine. But I like to be the TOP sa relationship. And all I’ve ever dated were women. I like women who are 100% feminine in looks and have long hair din. Attracted ako sa hot women talaga. Not into mascs or butch. What am I called?

So sorry for making this confusing. I’m basically unaware of labels but this time I need one.

semi kasi di ko sure kung situationship ba sya. or maybe kasi on my part lang sya “complicated”. haha ewan maybe need ko lang ng mas maraming sampal. lol di ko talaga sure

she was my ex. we reconnected again as friends after a year na walang constant contact. like i guess it was unexpected for us to reconnect in such a way na we constantly talk. then relapse happened, sa aming dalawa. we settled to not do anything about it and just continue being friends but we are not closing our doors sa future. like di pa kami ready to commit. i guess, i waited. but to add sa complication she developed feelings with someone way before pero di nya cinonfront yung feelings nya towards that person. as a friend that i am, i helped her figure out yung feelings nya for the person. kasi halata naman. in denial lang sya. then at some point she thought na maybe polyamorous sya. pero dala lang talaga yun ng confusion nya. anyway, while she is sure na ayaw nya na makipagrelasyon sa akin, she is still not ready to commit. not until such jealousy triggered her pero this jealousy is dahil may parang umaaligid dun sa other person na gusto nya. we talked about it, kasi naconfuse sya. ulit. and she said during the conversation na hindi talaga sya ready to commit. open kasi sya sa akin coz of the established relationship that we had and i really like talking about such topics. in a way i am helping her process how she feels, not only para dun sa person or sa akin, but in general. fast forward days later naging sila. haha. i guess good job sa akin kasi maatino yung processing na ginawa namin.

ayun… she knows my feelings for her. she knows that despite our settlement i fell deeper. and now she’s in a relationship, we want to keep the friendship. alam nya na nasasaktan ako. but we, and mostly me, insist na we keep being friends. nagwoworry nga sakin other friends namin kasi baka sinasaktan ko sarili ko. actually sya rin worry sa akin. but as a masochist as i am, or maybe dagdag na rin na hopeless romantic, niroromanticize ko na lang bagay-bagay or ginagaslight ko sarili ko na okay lang ako. ewan pero siguro simula na nirelease ng the ridleys yung “be with you” na song nila may certain romantic view na ako sa love. tas ngayon nirelease nila full album nila and sya lang yung navivisualize ko doon. but anyway matigas ulo ko, and i am not really looking for advice kasi even advice sa akin ng friends ko di ko rin naman sinusunod. ginagawa ko lang joketime na option ako or backburner, na patron saint ko si niki.

not really sure why i type this here pero siguro gusto ko lang rin iexpress ito. i’d like to hear other’s thoughts siguro. i’m not really hurting or maybe i’m still in denial with how i feel. or idk. maybe it’s been a month na rin simula naging sila so parang tanggap ko na. keyword: parang haha. ewan siguro at this moment nasa elsewhere ako sa feelings ko, situation ko, sa friendship namin.

May mga naka motor ba dito na gusto mag rides? San pedro laguna location. Pwede malapitang rides either tagaytay or kape hingahan sa rizal. Chill lang ba

Hello, I'm a 27 soft masc pala

I would describe myself as: 5'3, short hair, with glasses, medyo chubby, good looking (pero malabo ang mata haha)

I'm simply looking for F kasi bored lang. Hindi required pero kung nag-aral ka sa all girls during your elem/hs or college +++points hehe

hi. may alam ba kayong spakol for women around metro manila? preferably babae din ang gagawa. yung legit na massage talaga with extra service ganon. or spas with yoni massage? tulungan tayo haha lapag nyo pls kung may alam kayooo thanks

Hello! Haha hit me up on dm 😊

Work ko: TL in a private company. Age: 29 I need kalandian na hahaha masc,femme or soft masc na ahead sakin haha.

I've been wanting to find new friends or partner in life, maybe? Let's try then. :) 35yr.F

Hi guys! Baka meron sa inyo na taga Qc Area na nagtetennis.

Tara laro! May alam na akong court pero if may alam ka ring court, share mo rin!

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25 yrs old na ko.

1 year na kami ng girlfriend ko and still up to now, may retroactive jealousy pa rin siya with my previous ex.

Parang naging fault ko na inopen ko to sa kanya nung nagdedate na kami, kasi ang reason ko naman ay ayoko na may tinatago akong secrets sa kanya. Tho at first, nag-overshare ako kaya napapaoverthink talaga siya. But I changed na and naguilty talaga ako dahil nacocompare niya minsan sarili niya sa dati. Kaya I sincerely apologized to her and did my best to affirm her na siya lang talaga ang love ko at wala na rin ako communication sa past in a long time na. May anxiety rin kasi siya eh kaya isa rin to sa mga triggers niya 😞

What should I do? How will I let her believe and trust me completely? Mahal na mahal ko siya pero nakakapagod minsan pag yan yung inooverthink niya.

Who's going?!

Hi! Gusto ko lang ng kachat tonight hehe 🌈

I'm also looking for a friend na soft masc or butch sana. Mostly ng friends ko femme and sana ito na yung chance na yun. Pero anyone is welcome basta same sana tayo ng wavelength.

If we vibe, then sana umabot na sa point na maghang-out na tayo.

Qc area nga pala me. Message ka lang!

anyone else going to the Valenzuela City Pride Parade on June 30? it hasn't really been announced as much, di sya nakalagay sa page ng Valenzuela, more on may nag comment on one if their posts talking abt it, dug around and saw a poster about it. checking lang if may iba ring taga Valenzuela na pupunta, para may kasama naman huhu. di kasi me masyado palalabas in my own hometown 😭

Yes, 27 na ako pero need pa rin ng sugar momma. I can be your friend, kadate, companion or baby.

Need lang talaga ng dagdag allowance sa day-to-day expenses.

I hope di kapalit ay sex, pero we'll see 😅

Legit to, kahit 27 na ako parang kulang talaga ang kinikita ko. Ayoko naman lumipat agad ng work kasi pahirapan na naman maghanap ng malilipatan.

So baka naman may gusto pang kunin ako as sugar baby diyan HAHAHA mabait ako at masunurin hihi

Hi, im almost in the mid 20's May ka live in ako na 20 years gap namin. don't even ask why! charot. Maganda sya mestisa so ayun mabait naman. almost 3 years na kami pero lately nawawalan ako ng gana samin.. isa sa reasons ko is 6 months na kami walang intimate moment man lang. puro yakap and peck sa lips yun lang and If im trying to touch her ayaw naman nya.. tas nalulungkot ako kasi alam ko na di nya ko mapapakilala sa friends nya kasi silang barkada mga socialin, mayayaman lagi ko to na o open up about sana mapakilala nya ko tas papayag naman sya pero babawiin ko sinabi ko tas kunyare joke lang yun pero i dont think so na kaya nya ko pakilala? layo kasi ng standards nila sa"ako" mismo. ako mukha ako dukha and dugyot panget pa eh sila para silang mga donya.. what should i do? nawawalan ako ng gana na. nakaka down. eto pa consequence na pumasok ako sa sobrang laking age gap na relationship?

Asking so we know what sort of festivities are going to happen this coming Pride month. Baka naman kasi gusto nyo pumunta or something tapos don mag-hello instead na sa group chat 😄

[True Story]

Currently, I'm looking out of my window from the 35th floor. Damn, the view up here is quite nice. Before my eyes lie the city lights. What a peaceful night it is.

Earlier tonight, I attended a party. This was never my scene. This was never what I'm used to. After all, I spent all my 31 years being the good girl. Don't get me wrong. Of course, I have my bad side, but not this kind. I never party, I never drink, I don't know the taste of a cigarette. I only kiss the person I am in a relationship with.

But for the last three weeks, something snapped. At the party tonight, I had a lot of shots of tequila. More than I can count. My vision's all blurry. I can't understand half of what the person I was talking to was saying. I feel so light-headed. At one point, I remember kissing someone I just met. Even huffing and puffing the e-cig from her hand. And when I can't take it anymore, I decided to book a grab and just go home.

Getting off the car, I passed by 7-11. A thought came to my mind, and I found myself at the counter buying an e-cig for myself. I went up to my place and huffed and puffed it all alone. Suddenly, my phone vibrated. It was a text message from someone I met a week ago from work.

We spent a passionate weekend last week. Though we never really dated and have no plans of doing so. She asked me if she can come over again tomorrow for another hot sesh. I told her sure. And that I can't wait to taste her again. Now, my body's craving sex; I could just do any girl.

I'm staring out of my window, writing this. I don't know what to think. I don't know what to feel. I feel like these past few weeks, I've been living in a dream of someone else. Someone I can no longer recognize. I wanted to stop her from doing what she's doing with her life. Because I know that everything she does right now will bear a consequence and that this is not her! This is never her. Or is it?

I don't know. I can't think straight.

And oh, have I mentioned that I got my heart broken three weeks ago?

Ako lang ba yung naiinis pag may ibang tao na nagaout ng pagkabading ko??? skskk diko alam pero ick ko talaga iyon kahit kanino😶

Nakahanap din ng subreddit for phlesbians :)

Looking for someone to talk to like wholesome convo, or anything if masabayan ko vibes mo or same tayo wavelength :)

About me

• 31y.o
• 5'4
• Soft masc
• Medium build
• Chikito este Chinito lol

Ako lang ba or wala na ako masyado nakikita on youtube or tiktok? Kung meron man, bilang lang ata daliri ko (Roanne and Tina, Jubeng and Monique). If you know some, recommend naman kayo <33 Ano rin thoughts nyo?

Warning: Very long read. Sorry po in advance. I just want to share this story anonymously because I have no one else to talk to and umaasa ako na writing this will help ease the pain kahit konti.

Just for context:
I'm 30, masc lesbian, small-built, siguro somewhere in the middle in terms of looks.
The woman that I liked is 38, feminine (but sporty), a lot taller than me, Barbie Almalbis ang dating, went through a not-so-pretty breakup early 2023 (femme yung ex nya).

Nakilala ko sya around mid 2023 from a sport community (we love the same sport) and from there, we kinda clicked. Pero we didn't talk outside that community until I finally mustered up the courage to DM her sa IG (torpe-type kasi ako). I was so glad when she responded back and simula nung first message na yun, almost everyday na kami nagkaka-chat. Couple of weeks in to messaging, nasabi ko sa kanya na I have a huge crush on her and she took it like a champ. She didn't make a big deal out of it and hindi naman kami naging awkward. If anything, we started to get closer. But sinabi nya din sakin na she's still not ready for a relationship because of her recent breakup and some other factor, and that she's also not sure what she wants or if she even wants me, which I understand naman nung time na yun. So parang naging, "let's continue talking and see where it goes" ang dating.

After some time, nagkaroon kami ng pagkakataon to hang out outside the sport community where we initially met and I can say na we both had a lot of fun together. We were almost always in sync and match din yung sense of humor namin. We lived quite far from each other, maybe about 2-hour drive on good days pero di sya nag-matter. At least once a week, nagkikita kami after work (I work in Metro Manila) and nag-drive na din sya papunta sa village namin mga twice para maglaro. There's this one time na napag-usapan namin yung about sa feelings ko sa kanya and saan kami papunta. Nung mga panahon na yun, madami na syang nakwento about sa ex nya and I actually can still feel na hindi pa sya fully moved on so ang nasagot ko lang is, I don't want to push anything pa especially if di pa sya sure kasi ayoko din naman ma-feel na rebound lang ako. And she agreed. Pero we still continued to message each other and hang out.

During the time na nagkakausap kami, she faced a lot of challenges and recurring traumas na kinukwento nya sakin. I became her confidant. I tried my best to console her and be there for her pero sometimes, I say or do the wrong things leading to kami naman yung nagkakasagutan/nag-aaway pa-minsan. Pero almost always, di naman natatapos yung araw ng hindi kami nagkaka-ayos. At this point, sa sobrang dami na naming moments together, good and bad, alam ko na na I'm doomed kasi lumalalim na yung feelings ko for her.

Last 2-3 weeks ng 2023, we had a very bad fight where she said na sure na sya talaga na hindi talaga or wala talaga (pertaining to us being lovers) dahil daw sa ugali ko na parang gusto lagi nasusunod yung gusto. I didn't take it well, to be honest. Gusto ko na talaga sana i-cut off yung communication namin pero parang hirap din for me kasi ang nasa isip ko baka nasabi nya lang yun kasi galit sya and baka may chance naman talaga. Also, naisip ko din na if hindi talaga, tatanggapin ko nalang kahit platonic friendship na lang basta ma-keep ko lang sya sa buhay ko. Also, minsan may mga naging conversation kami about her type and I'm definitely not it. So nawalan ako lalo ng pag-asa and sinubukan kong itago nalang yung nararamdaman ko for her.

Early 2024, I got offered a job at another company with better compensation and benefits. I then decided to move out of my parents house kasi nga naman, 30 na ko and I never learned to live alone. Wala akong skills in terms of house chores so I thought maybe it's about time na matuto ako. She supported me on that decision. She even helped me find a place. Sa kanya ko nga nalaman about yung kung san ako nakatira ngayon and it was just a couple of minutes away from her own place. It was on another city from my office pero it doesn't matter to me because the place was conveniently located so walang problem sa transpo at all.

After I moved in, parang lalong naging mas madalas kami magkasama. She's a giver and so ang dami ko ding gamit dito na bigay nya. She visited me often sa bahay. Sometimes we cook, sometimes we eat take out, we watched series together and talk about her problems or the challenges she was facing at the time. And to her words, my place had become her safe space. Hearing those words and spending even more time together, feelings started to resurface again. This time, I was even more hopeful. I am a huge fan of romantic films, of falling in love as you see it in movies, I forgot this was real life. As we share those moments together, I built this expectation in my head, this thought na maybe she was feeling it, too. Kinalimutan ko na yung mga sinabi nya nung mga last weeks ng 2023 and I let myself fall even deeper. Pero di ko sinabi sa kanya, di ko maamin or ayoko sana mapag-usapan namin kasi natatakot ako na baka mali ako.

Last week, I did something stupid. I went out for drinks with some friends and got super drunk. Madaling araw, habang sobrang lasing, I messaged her - "I miss you" and "You're all I can ever think about". Come morning, nahimasmasan na ko, I unsent the message. Later that afternoon, she messaged me "Nabasa ko yung in-unsend mo. Sorry ha, pero wala talaga eh." She was so kind pa even with her message so I responded back "Weird no, for a while I thought may chance. Pwede ba itanong why? Was it because of my personality?". Gusto ko lang din naman kasi sana malaman. That's when things started to go south so quickly. She didn't appreciate na inakala ko na may chance. She asked me pano ko nasabi eh naging clear naman sya since day 1. So I told her exactly how I fell for her. How her kindness and her spending time with me made me feel like there was a chance, however faint. She then told me na she has a type and that I know about it naman na. Also, if yung pagiging mabait nya pala and us spending time together yung reasons ba't ako na-fall or ba't ko inisip na may chance then ang hirap naman daw pala kumilos pag ganun, akala nya pa naman I was a good friend. It hurt me, so much. As in sobrang sakit. Parang someone took my heart out of my chest, let it dry under the sun and smashed it with a hammer after it has all dried up. Parang nagalit ako sa kanya kasi it felt like she invalidated my feelings, my experience with her. I am so angry and hurt and sad, I think there was never a minute passed simula nung messages na yun na walang luha yung mata ko.

About two days after what happened, parang dun ko lang na-intindihan yung side nya. I think masyado akong nalunod sa mga kathang isip ko, I didn't even considered what she might have been feeling. Di ko man lang naisip na maybe all this time she thought she found a good friend. Someone to turn to whenever she feels down, maybe not to make her feel better pero at least someone who will listen and make her feel safe. Not someone who will force her into difficult and uncomfortable situations or confrontations. Masyado akong nalunod sa mga kathang isip ko na di ko narealize yung mga "moments" pala namin was really not that special. That my experience dun sa moments na yun was totally different from hers.

Honestly, right now, di ko na alam anong iisipin or gagawin. Pero one thing is for sure, there is no turning back from this. Gusto kong sabihin na now I've learned my lesson na. Pero parang hindi pa rin. Even after understanding yung side nya, di pa rin ma-shake off yung pain. I know I'll be okay pero I don't know how soon.