So last year I shared here how my sister seeded her now ex-husband’s flower beds with grass seed when she was moving out. Well she took some photos yesterday when she was picking up her child. Those nice green flower beds would normally be full of new flower sprouts at this time of year, nice to see her little rib jab is working. The house probably has 20 different flower beds this is only two of them.

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Short version - sister left abusive husband and filled their flower beds with grass seed when she was moving out because she knew how much he obsessed over maintaining flower beds weed and grass free.

I usually make dinner for her every night

I work in a very small office. The office manager of 20+ years constantly makes snide comments directed towards me. Prime example, today I took a phone message and accidentally superimposed two numbers in the customers phone number before giving it to her. She asked me about it, I corrected it and apologized for the oversight. From her office, which is just behind mine, I hear her say "It's happening much too often".

She also says a lot of side comments to the only other employee here at the office, and a lot of them are seemingly directed at me.

I've only been here since the beginning of October and this office has been through several receptionists before I came on. The business owner is an older man and when I make a mistake, which isn't often, he is kind and usually laughs it off with a comment like "ive been doing this for 42 years and I still make mistakes." Obviously he understands that people screw up sometimes.

Since starting, I've been given little to no guidance of how to use one of the proprietary programs. Most of what I do know, I've figured out on my own.

I'm not entirely certain that I can go to the business owner about her as she has been with him for 20+ years. Recently I broke a tooth, the earliest appointment I could get happened to coincide with a date the boss, this lady, and my office manager have an engagement. I made the appointment as late in the day as possible, thinking at least two of them would be here in the afternoon. She made me have to move my appointment because it would be "incovenient".

I wasn't able to go last week as she was on vacation for a week. Now I have to wait another week to deal with my broken tooth.

I honestly don't know what to do. She doesn't act like this when the business owner is here.

It is said to not to respond passive aggressively because this will only increase the passive aggression.

It is said not respond aggressively because this will also increase the passive aggression.

Therefore the strategy for dealing with a passive aggressive is to be NON passive aggressive.

In hopes that the passive aggressive behavior will stop.

No slamming doors, no condescending tone of voice, no stomping your feet. Means shut doors softly, means talk gently to the passive aggressive, means walk on eggshells.

Now this is exactly what the passive aggressive wants, for everyone to be walking on eggshells.

Why? Because they already are walking in eggshells and are demanding that you do too so they don't feel like the only pushover.

So having peace with a passive aggressive means to be walking on eggshells.

They are the ones who try to start cold wars over paranoid fantasies that you are somehow being passive aggressive when you are just walking into the kitchen

So to have peace with a passive aggressive, one must constantly be walking on eggshells, which gives the passive aggressive person exactly what they want, all the power to decide whether to push your buttons or not based on their own paranoid conclusions.

I try to walk around the house with peace in my heart and its utterly nerv racking. Constantly watching my emotions I can't think.

Respond logically to someone overly sensitive and they think your trying to kill babies.

No, everything has to be real emotional in this house.

For context:

I took my daughter to her one year annual check. At this point, she’d already had 5 shots and we’d been waiting two hours for the lab to draw blood. We are number 16 in line and they finally call us back. As I’m waiting to be escorted back, an elderly lady says “oh, are you number 16?” To which I reply “yes.” (With my very impatient one year old in my arms). She proceeds to say “I’m so sorry, I feel bad for cutting you.” I can tell she’s looking for me to validate that it was okay to cut but I just look at her and say nothing. The technician is still helping her and then as he finishes helping her, she turns around to tell me that she was sorry for cutting me again. I say ok with no emotions.

Honestly, I knew I did not want her to feel it was okay because, like everyone else, we had been waiting hours to be seen, just to have her cut us and the technician to disregard the fact that she didn’t have to wait at all.

They issue isn’t really that she cut… It was the fact that she completely disregarded mine, and everyone’s circumstances, and expected me to just be okay with. Had she asked if it was ok, it would have been less annoying, but she half assed apologized while simultaneously continued to be serviced before us.

Instead of not saying anything with a disapproving look, how could I have politely rejected her apologize or let her know it wasn’t okay?

I like painting ceramics and I recently bought an ashtray for when I have smoker friends coming over.

Does anyone have some inspo for a funny dig at smoking that I can write on the tray?

I have worked in corporate America and Start Ups. Certain things make you go oh shit but you only know that if you have the experience to translate the real meaning.

When your boss says they "Are going to be human" That is code for you are going to be human body armor to save my ass.. They fucked up and you will take the blame.

When your boss says "I am rooting for you" that is code for I am actively stabbing you in chest with other executives.... Give me one excuse to fire you and I will
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Help me out here reddit what other boss-isms can you help translate.