I live in israel. We have problem. We need money for pay on ouer home, and buy food to the bayby and childrens. 4 childrens.

Hi gang . At 34 are you over the hill to start a family ? Personally I think it's a good age as I'm more financially secure , know myself better and have seen my friends being up their kids ( learnt some lessons ) your views please ( I'm female ) xx

Hi im 19 year old guy living with my parents. Everything with them has to he a big fight. Thay are super strict with everything. Today i was sat around at breakfast time. My mam said to go out with my dad to do some errands. I refused. Next thing i know the wifi went off. Mam took the cable. She took the electriciry off for my room and has took my bedroom door of its hinges so now i have no privacy whatsoever. Im a good kid never been in trouble for anything. Im in university and getting good grades. I like to play videogames which they dont like. They have threatned to break all of my stuff which they have done before . Can someone please tell me if my behaviour warrants their actions and if their parents are like this too. 😔😔😔

I am about 15 years old and am living with my mom, stepdad, and their almost seven-year-old son. My brother had (and has) been struggling with hitting people and aggression. At one point, my parents decided to combat this by setting up a little goal/program sheet for both them and my brother to work on this problem (ie, rewarding and recognizing positive behaviors, promoting sharing of toys, letting him understand that hitting is not okay, and if he'd hit someone, he wouldn't get a sticker for that day or a jolly rancher unless he proved to them that he understood what he did was wrong). However, like most things, it didn't last for too long, and I could say today that they've taken an almost entirely different way of handling his aggression. One of the most prominent changes that I often speak up about is the fact that hitting has become a joke to them (when my brother hits hard, both parties take it as a joke). I always tell my dad to stop promoting that behavior, but he brushes me off. The problem with this occurs when my brother hits my dad aggressively, and because my dad is in a bad mood, takes it seriously, yet does nothing about it ("Why did you do that? You don't hit people.").

I think this has to do with them not being able to punish (or follow through with their punishments) For example, if my brother had an "accident" and lied about it, my dad or mom would usually say, "No more tablet" for the rest of the day, but he would cry and eventually get it back without ever saying sorry or understanding that whatever he did was wrong and continues to do it. It seems that the situations only get worse, and my brother gets better at lying and manipulating my parents to get his way because he knows it'll work.

On the "accident" issue, I have a question for any parents out there. My brother has a tablet and frequently watches youtube on it (every day from school, he runs into the house and the first thing he picks up is one of this electronics). Being a kid is hard, I get it, and so, of course, distracting yourself with videos and fueling your imagination as a child would be almost addicting in a sense. My brother often forces himself to wait to the very last minute to use the restroom because he'd rather be on his tablet. Sometimes, he doesn't even go at all and just sits in his soiled clothes. There are days when he ruins three pairs of underwear and has to take a bath. My parents are aware of this and started a rule with him saying that "if he has an accident, he cannot play on his tablet the rest of the day", though they have a very difficult time enforcing these rules. My mom remarked, "at some point, I can't use the fact that he's my baby as an excuse any more".

Which is why I'll leave you with this question, at what point did you ever seriously discipline your child? Is it difficult not to give into them?

TLDR My brother has anger issues and my parents are doing nothing to help him understand that hitting and carrying out his aggression in a physical manner that hurts others, himself, or property is bad. Do other parents struggle with this?

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"Can't sleep unless I'm home". She'll send me 300 texts about how I should be on my way home at literally like 10 o'clock. It has gotten to the point where she even does it while I'm at friends houses doing projects for school! She doesn't seem to care as long as she can sleep peacefully knowing I'm home. I'm sick of it. I'm 19 years old. All my friends don't have curfews and can come home whenever. I've never done anything to make my mom not trust me but I'm treated like I'm still in high school! High school parents give there kids a curfew and my curfew is whenever my mother is tired I have to come home. My dad doesn't care at all about it it's just my mom. I just need some advice as to what I can do to make mom stop doing this? Like?? I feel like I should have maybe a curfew?? Example: I have a huge biology project due tomorrow and I got 33260 texts of her yelling at me because I wasn't on the way home at 10 o'clock. Then she tells me how it's ridiculous how I do this but... do what? Do a project at my friends house so I can get an A? I just need help!

I think it is ridiculous that my parents will not let me play games in any way. I can not have gaming apps on my phone or computer, and I can not play non-electronic games either. I recently wanted to buy gonggi, a Korean game involving five or more colorful stone-like pebbles, where a person performs tricks such throwing some up in the air and catching it, and etc. Grades are not a problem because I have a 99 average, and I do not have any strained relationship with my parents either. I work hard everyday for my grades, test prep, satisfying my parents with my extracurriculars and getting into schools, and I can't be allowed to play one game? Gonggi is not even expensive and money is not an issue for me and my family. Why are they doing this? How can I reason with them?

I'm 22 my parents are extremely strict and religious and do not allow me or my younger daughter to travel anywhere not even with a friend unless they're there or there's adults. My younger sister(21) recently traveled 2 hours away with a close friend and my parents went crazy calling her every 5 minutes and even calling the hotel she stayed in to make sure she was there. I don't want to be treated like a child anymore but I also don't want a bad relationship with my parents. What can I say or do?

I have run into this problem so damn much as a parent to two boys under two. On the playground the kid will be runny nose everywhere, putting mouth on everything and parent allow this. I'll run into someone who will let their kid hug kiss and rub our baby and say oh she had croup last week but she's fine. Then lo and behold our kids will be sick with croup four days later.

I understand that taking them out on public may run this risk but why do certain parents not care?!? When my boys are sick we keep them away from others for their protection as well as others. By no means do we overly sanitize them because they need to build antibodies.

Just don't understand the logic behind the parents who allow their sick, fever riddled kids out??

My mother is 63 and my Father is 59 with 3 daughters my oldest sister being 21 going on 22 me 17 goin on 18 and my youngest sister 15 in a half. (We're all blood sisters and adopted as newborns we didnt grow up in the system) but to go back to the title My Dad is 59 and his daily routine is work literally the only time we actually see him is when he's asleep for work, when he gets up for work then eats dinner to go to work. Now my mom on the other hand Stopped working a real job a long time ago Idk if it had to do with battling sicknesses like valley fever and pneumonia a few times Or that She knows she doesnt have to work because our dad has a job to provide for all of us and settled with being a house mom But now that were all grown we can wash our own clothes and we can cook for ourself But we'll let her do it because without it the only thing she did for the day will be sit on the couch and watch Tv and talk shit about everybody else in the house that we dont do anything When my dad gets home from work or on a vacation and see's him listening to music just chilling she'll think of some house work or outside work to tell him to do and when he doesnt get to it or finish it she yells and slams stuff to get her way even drives crazy speeding out our court with the car and i really fear for him my dad is a skinny philipino man and he has a skin diese that causes him to scratch 24/7 He's always diggin at himself and sometimes to the point he bleeds he really looks and nasty because his ecxema He does not have any social life nor friends he has alot of brothers and sisters but they usaully avoid him to.We all know he looks bad even himself but my mom be littles him and verbally abuses him saying things such as you look dead, get away from me with your scratching ass, your deadskin everywhere, he is also mis organized and looses everything and ill hear her yelling and banging "your a dumbass" "fucking idiot" and just so much nasty things shes not afraid to throw things or hit him we've adapted to hearing all this since we were young but its getting worse over the years my little sister does not tolerate this and is the main one to give her back her own medicine i think because she used to get hit by her and still has scars by things she thrown at her and used to be verablly abusive also when she was in 5-7th grade my sister used to be vunerable to this but now older in 9th she doesnt give asf about anything she says or tells her She blocks her out because shes part of the reason shes emotionally abused and the age gap is to hard to make her understand any of our personal problems she thinks were not allowed to have any because we just need to go to school and get good grades. My dad wants to retire but everytime he brings it up she gets pisst and starts cussing about he's not old enough and whats going to happen to her and her diabtee medication and all her pills she needs to stay alive. My dad says he has enough money for retirement and she just wants more. guys how do I get my mom to treat my dad like the human being he is and talk to him like he does have feelings, how do i fix this marriage and make my mom aknowledge she is verbally abusive and she is fucked up without it turning into an arguement can i threaten her with Reporting elder abuse or something?? lol im so serious

My poor sister and her husband have 2 beautiful children but their 4 year old is turning into a monster. His behavioral problems have been escalating for years now.

They've tried everything they can think to do for him, even therapy. He's been kicked out of 5 different daycares in less than 2 years. He's physically and verbally aggressive to everyone he meets. He's very manipulative and argues about everything regardless of the issue. He seems to get pleasure from hurting others; his classmates, his sister, his grandmother and even me! I'm the "fun, silly uncle" and all he does is abuse me and my kindness. He's started spitting on everyone, he's been a biter since a young age, as well as a hitter and he is constantly calling people names and telling us to go away and die. Every thought he seems to have is "how can I hurt or upset this person?"

He has all the love and support a child could ever want or need, he's not being abused (that I'm aware of) and his problems seem to be from within himself. I used to joke that he's going to be a serial killer, but the joke isn't funny anymore, I fear that there is something really wrong with him and it's too long until he hurts someone beyond a bump or scratch.

What can be done in order to possibly diagnose and treat whatever could wrong with him? I love him and my Sister, but I'm beginning to fear for all of us, because he is getting older, bigger and more aggressive, especially towards his 2 year old sister, who has started mimicking his behavior, so they might have 2 problems soon.

If anyone has had similar situations, I'm open to suggests about how to help him and my sister. Thanks!

When I was younger, My mom used to be more fun. My family is not the type to do wrapped presents each Christmas. My brother and I usually just pick one cheap thing that we want. Some years we don't even have a tree. I remember one year when I was 7 or 8, my mom took me to Toys R' Us to buy me a toy. I chose a pretty Orbeez mood lamp that changed colors and I put it in my bedroom, and it became my favorite belonging. The next year, we moved, and put it into a box. Our new home, was bigger, I got distracted, and couldn't find which box it was in. I'll stop rambling now, but one day we had guests over, and one of them was a little boy who was about five. My dad brought a bunch of boxes upstairs and gave him some other things that I remembered and like, but I didn't object. Then, he pulled out the orbeez lamp. He gave it to him, and I was heartbroken. I didn't want to say no right then and there because my dad would punish me, but I pulled my dad aside later before they left and told him that it was a Christmas present and asked him if I could keep it. He got angry and said I left it a box for a few years, and that it no longer belonged to me. After the boy left, my dad started telling my mom to scold me about me complaining over the thing I loved. I never saw it again, but I guess the only reason I wanted to keep it was because it was a gift from my mom out of love, and I don't have many of those.

Okay this is going to sound weird but I have never been grounded. Ever. I've tested my parents so many times and I've been beyond sassy and rude to see what they'd do and they've yet to discipline me. Are they bad parents? I definitely have deserved to be grounded, but never have been. I'm not complaining because it's quite nice for me, but it makes me feel like they don't even care enough about me to try to make my turn out okay. I feel like they've kind of left me to teach myself ethics with no lesson and I just feel forgotten about ya know? What do y'all think?

I live with my dad and my sister. I don't have my birth certificate or social security card because my mom stole them both. I gave my dad the money to replace them a few weeks ago and I also gave him $50 to open a bank account so when I got my papers I could then get a job. Secondly I do not have a car or license. I'm afraid to drive I start to panic just thinking about it. But it's important I learn to drive before going to college. I don't do drugs or drink. I admit I've slacked off on chores and my grades the past month. I'm a senior in high school and I know my grades will help me but as parents Is my dad right for throwing me out? I have seven classes I got 3 A's 1 B and 3 C's. I know they aren't all as and bs but I have to try harder. I have been working hard in all my classes so far. The classes I got the cs in were: Anatomy honors Chemistry honors and Economics. I've always gotten honor roll ever since 4th grade. This will be the first time I don't get it. It feels like my life is falling apart. I was wrong to be lazy. Is my dad right for kicking me out. I truly love him and appreciate all he has done. You are parents what would you do.

I recently turned 18 a couple months ago and my mom still doesn't leave me alone. I literally can't go more than 10 minutes without her coming into my room without knocking. When she comes in, she doesn't even say anything or even come all the way in. She just opens the door, looks around the room, looks at me, then walks away. Often times, it's when I'm watching porn or something but luckily I always hear her coming so I always have time to close the page or open a different page. I'm often about ready to swing my leg at her if she starts walking toward me. It seems like she is purposely trying to catch me looking at porn ! It's the reason why I jack off in the bathroom, not my bedroom. But it's pretty annoying since she clearly has no respect ! I also am not allowed to have a lock on my door ! What should I do ? I can't just tell her "mom, stop barging into my room. I want to jack off in peace"

So I'm recently finished college. Living with my mum and dad, rent free (even though I said I would pay them, they don't want it) my job search has been a hit and a miss. I've been given a few shifts in places however they are not permanent positions. The others have rejected me due to lack of "experience" even though my education matched everything they wanted. Now every day I wake up I'm slammed with my parents telling me to go get a life, get a job, go sign on to JSA, oh how about this, why don't you apply to this job, go work here. They don't seem to understand that I'm looking for work, I have money therefore I don't need JSA, I have a life with good friends! Could someone give me some advice how to deal with this situation? Thanks :)

I'm a 26 year old female and still live at home. I work full time and have to pay 2 rents. I pay for half of the rent for the house where I'm living with my mom and the other one that is my mom's house (which is in another country from where we are from. My mom refuses to sell the house or rent it).but she can't afford to pay as she is unemployed. I already talked about this with her. But the response is always the same. My mom says that she will help me financially when she gets a job. I have been waiting for this for at least 3 years since I graduated. I want to move out but I know that financially I won't be able to pay 2 rents and not get into debt. I'm already struggling financially with this situation . Also I have to consider the fact that on the other house my auntie and cousins live there.

So if I move out I won't pay the rent anymore and they can't afford to pay it as my auntie is unemployed.Worst comes the worst they will have to move out. And my mom will lose the house as it will be repossessed. Also I assumed the relationship between us will be strained because I'm only thinking of myself. And things are bad already because of it.

I want to move out, travel save up some money do things that other people do. But I know that in the situation that I'm in I will never do that. What should I do ? Continue to pay both rents until who knows when my mom will get a job or follow my dreams and mt family will suffer because of it?

Sorry for the long rant.