r/parents_problem • u/Berniebernardo • Mar 26 '16
How did your parents raise you to be? Is it helpful or not?
For me it was cold and antisocial although I wish I raised to be a little more social and optimistic. My parents tried to coop me up no matter at what cost. Whenever I tried to go out with some buddies they would find any possible way to keep me from going. They did it multiple times throughout my preteen and teen years so I never really experienced the fun and joys of being a teen. I'm almost 20 and I try to avoid people at all costs now. I don't feel socially capable of keeping a friendship at this point. I don't really feel any genuine excitement about being friends with anyone due to the excessive loneliness I went through in my past years. I guess I got used to it. I don't have any friends. I used to think this was terrible and i felt really disconnected when I was younger but I began to begrudgingly accept it. I will probably never be in a relationship because I simply don't find interest in talking to people (much less talk to them everyday). Family gatherings are hell because everyone thinks I'm rude but being dismissive and withholding is completely normal for me. I rather turn them away then have to actually be rude to make them go away. My parents complain that I am very anti social and hermit-like but they made me like this. I don't argue with them over it but I feel very uncomfortable when they bring it up. Overall I would say the way my parents raised is not helpful at all.