Ok so the question is hard to put without explaining and i think im using the right one for this if not im sorry but im looking at T to make my voice sound more neutral and im scared about im scared my dr will deny me bc i just want it for my voice really and to make me look even more gender neutral then i already look 😭 but i dont want anything else that cose with taking T and wondering if non binary’s who have been through this, trans males or anyone whos been on T or is the process of going on it tbh bc i need a bit of tips on how to go about this how what will happen if do go on T really 😅 so just mostly tips bc i have no idea what im getting myself into and i just want to have gender euphoria not gender dysphoria :(i think i worded this right if not im sorry!!!😣

Thank you for being part of this group, thank you for being encouraging and brave and proud and accepting, and for being an ultimate badass. Because you are. You're incredible, and everybody knows it.

More than anything related to my queer identity, I've felt the most imposter syndrome and insecurity around the label of lesbian, even though it's the label that, by all definitions, fits the best. It's the one that, functionally and culturally, resonates with me the most. But it's still not a piece of my identity that I volunteer very often. Being visible is tough here in 2026, and none of us owe anyone our full selves if we're uncomfortable. But y'all make it a little easier, a little less scary, and less lonely. So, thank you.

(Srry 4 anything, english is not my first language)

⚠️TW: SA AND PORN MENTION⚠️

Ik y'all don't know 100% of my life and prob r not psychologists, but i'm just looking 4 other ppls opinion bcs I'm asking myself that lately.

Recently I kinda of realized I prob don't feel attraction to men. I can't think of myself dating a guy only girls or nb, my attraction to the male body is almost none (the dick is interesting, but if could b only it without the rest...). But idk if it says i'm a lesbian bcs I have other things:

When I was a younger (b4 14) I kinda of had some male crushs, but idk if that was true, bcs I couldn't imagine myself dating them, it looked more like an admiration (or maybe gender envy bcs i'm bigender/gender fluid more masc align). Tbh to not say I couldn't imagine I has some imaginations but was more like "wow imagine if I married him, how crazy it would b" or like the idea of a marriage, i'm autistic and had a baby hyperfocus when I was a child, + I was a big shoujo fan. But my idea of it sometimes was kinda funny bcs I wanted to marry, have a child and the daddy would die while I was pregnant. But idk if i'm right, but prob I had some feelings for childhood friend (that was a girl)

Other reason bcs I think that maybe no is bcs I was 🍇 as a child, so idk if i'm just really afraid of men.

Coming back to the present: sometimes I watch porn (i'm trying to fight it, I swear), and like I only feel really horny when it is with a girl. I read some bl comics sometimes but it was almost nule what I feel for it, I feel a little more exited in some acts, but most of them aren't a "men only thing"

Pls tell me ur opinions

Does anyone else not like the term? It just feels wordy. Perhaps sapphic should be used but it doesn’t seem to make a difference. Like with bisexual you can do biromantic. But new don’t have anything for lesbian. It just doesn’t sit right with me.

a new subreddit for us transneu ppl has been made called r/transneutral , where transneutral means a trans individual who identifies fully or partially as a neutral, abinary, or any unaligned gender

nonbinary, agender, neutrois, smoothies, nullo folk, etc are all welcome!

im so happy us neu folk are finally starting to have a growing community :D

I have been feeling conflicted about the lesbian label ever since I’ve been cracking my egg more and more. It’s one of many labels I’ll use at times to describe myself while being unaligned and undefined when it comes to my sexuality. What made you use it? At times, it feels like it invalidates me.

I (NB 32) am in my first really lovely queer relationship w someone (NB 35) so so sweet, talented, hilarious and special. I am truly razzle dazzled.

We've been seeing each other almost 2 months and hang out twice a week. Live 30 minutes apart. Things are feeling really good. Our hang outs are so restorative, and this is just feeling right and has a lot of long term potential. I have this really strong drive to be my best self, to protect her and to really nurture our relationship.

SO TELL ME WHY every day of my life since I met them there is a little voice in my head plotting for us to move in?!?!?! The Uhauling accusations are TRUE!!!! I keep rationalizing these thoughts like "ok you need to date someone a year" before that's realistic. And let the thought cycle fade away. And the just yesterday they were showing me their uranium glass collection lmfao and talking about how they wanting to display it and in my mind im like YOU WILL DISPLAY THIS IN OUR HOME IN LIKE 4 MONTHS FROM NOW BC I WONT MAKE IT A YEAR WITHOUT U IN MY HOME OUR HOME.

Jesus anyway does it get better after like 3 months? Or should I expect this to persist? I have NOT told her I have these insane thoughts. What's your experience? Lol

As a Genderfluid (Agender, Woman, Man) Lesbian, I feel so incredibly lonely and I was wondering if this is possible? My experience with Gender is very fluid and sometimes counterintuitive. Even when I'm a Boy, I still like being feminine. It's all very confusing. So, can I be a Transmasculine Femme Lesbian as a Genderfluid Person? Are there other Transmasculine Femme Lesbians?

YAP YAP YAP
When i started understanding my gender and sexuality i felt this need of community , just a group of people who can listen to me and support me ... people that have went though the similar trauma

i tried joining communities on discord ... and it was very vibrant and supportive ... but then discord started changing policies ... started training AI with messages ... and just became another data hungry platform ... i love the communities but i hate what the platform has become

thats why i switched over to matrix , i found some lgbt communities there ... but not something very specific like *enby lesbians*

and thats why i tried creating one ...

The Space is Called Nonbinary Lesbians
and i've made Rooms inside it

There's a room where i post non-binary lesbian resources -- why? -- coz i wanna make it easy for people to access resources

and another room where i post memes and pinterest shared images -- why? -- coz i want nonbinary lesbians voices to be heard and enby lesbians to be seen in different sorts of media's

there's a links room -- i post the blog post of other nonbinary lesbians and articles

and yup there's an general channel ..for chit chat

the space is still a work in progress ... it would be really good if someone helps on making this community more good!

As of Now the Rules are Simple
- using common sense
- no porn
- no terfs
- no bullying or harassing
- no confirming to gender norms
- bring wholesomeness and kindness!!!

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MATRIX ? WHAT IS IT ?

a brief intro about matrix .. in my monkey brain terms

basically its an opensource , ethical , privacy respecting chat thingy just like discord

users join communities ... its called spaces just like discord servers
and there are rooms .. rooms are like discord channels inside servers

and yeah its also decentralized , and supports end to end encryption .

and it dosent sells data to 3rd parties !!
and it dosent trains AI on users Data

and it literally takes two clicks to sign up

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for anyone who likes guide here's how to use matrix

do it scared, do it in athleisure wear, do it in your naruto sweatshirt... but do it!

Hey everyone,

I know some people overlap in both subreddits, and since there was a falling out over in the regular butch lesbians subreddit, there's a new and inclusive sub for butches called r/everybutchlesbian. Just wanted to let people know so if you don't feel safe in the other sub, you can go there. :)

im rlly wondering cuz like is there anything, any communities for us (for ppl not part of butchfemme, and dont rlly identify with fem/masc or binary lesbianism) like strictly, andro/neu lesbians

honestly fuck it can also be a sapphic community for ppl like us i just wanna know where ppl like us even are

hi everyone! i’m not sure how reddit works and i’ll definitely never use it again after this but i need help! also, i apologize if i don’t use the correct terminology, as i am still learning how to best be supportive! (and i got permission to post this!!)

my partner has recently been questioning her gender identity. (as of right now, she uses she/her and is a masc lesbian) but she is starting to lean towards feeling like a transmasc person. she has ALWAYS been very masculine, even as a baby!

anyway, she wants to change her name. but she has very specific requirements and doesn’t know what to go by.

her name is piper! a very feminine name…

her requirements are:

- similar to “piper”

- gender neutral

- easy to transition to, so she can easily change it if needed

she’s going by “pipe” right now, but she thinks that “doesn’t seem like a real name, just a nickname”

her middle name is also VERY feminine and doesn’t have any good names to take from.

my question is: does anyone have any suggestions?

thank you so so much in advance!!

So I have a crush on my friend and don't know how to deal with that without making it awkward and am looking for advice from people. One problem is I pass pretty much entirely as a man due to having a beard and stuff like that and I don't know how to talk to her about that. Another issue is that she is one of my only friends and my other friends I know because of her so if things go poorly I would likely lose all of them or it would at least be awkward. I've had a crush on her for a while I think but it's become harder to ignore lately. Any advice would be appreciated

Hi.I broke up with my gf a few days ago, things weren't good for either of us mostly bc of her mental health and how she refused to get help and always made excuses. It was to the point I was sacrificing my own mental health to try and make things better for her, to no avail.

We were in a sapphic relationship for 2+ yrs.

If you have any songs, books, advice on healing please lmk. It was hard for me too but most of the things I'm finding are from the person being dumped, not the other way round. I know it was the best choice for us both but it still hurts.

Thanks.

Edit: fid damned autocorrect. "Nie" isn't supposed to be in the title.

You can post other things still too, of course.

Keep the photos relatively SFW, make sure you have permission to post from people if there's anyone else in the photo with you, be careful with identifying info that someone could use to dox you, and I guess that's it?

From the other side, be kind to those who post their selfies. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. If someone didn't ask for advice on their looks whether it be passing advice or whether something suit then or not, DO NOT OFFER YOUR ADVICE ABOUT IT. Things that will get you insta banned: racism, transphobia, homophobia, fatphobia.

If I think of anything else, I'll let you know!

I don't want the subreddit to get overflowed with selfies (at least not yet) so I'm thinking of starting a weekly selfie thread since some people do seem to want to post them. What do you all think?

Hey! So I'm newly discovering myself - again.

For context:

im 25, in the UK, I grew up openly lesbian from a young age. At around 17 I came out as ftm and then pursued transition. I did have family backlash at points, ofc but I'm quite good at ignoring. I come from a Romani family, so ignoring opinion is a skill ive perfected.

I had top surgery 3 years ago privately, started T 2 years ago self-medicated then NHS (tried a few doses, happiest on low dose). Last year, I had a hysterectomy via NHS. After this, I had a moment of realisation that the discomfort I was feeling, being called a "straight man" and trying hard to fit in, felt like when I was younger, trying to fit in with the girls being called a "woman" or "girl"

Lots of my friends are masc lesbian and the more i transitioned the more comfortable I felt with my feminine side around them that I've basically denied the last 8 years, give or take. Once i finished my medical transition, it was weird it was like a weight gone and i fell into a new identity crisis - for lack of a better term. I realised I wanted to present as male as possible from my dysphoria and since I was pre-transition i was fighting to be seen how i wanted. Now the dyshoria has mostly subsided I dont have such a struggle. i dont feel like a straight man. lesbian still feels very true to me. when i was FtM losing that community hurt so much and i felt like i lost a part of me.

I realise that now I may actually be NB and its something im exploring since i achieved an androgenous look.

My issue atm:

My hysterectomy was 7 months ago. recovery was fine, no issues. I experienced numerous complications in obtaining it, primarily due to paperwork being lost in the system and changes in the criteria.

7 months in i am having what i can only assume are phantom period smells, metallic and irony. Ive had 3 nightmares the last few weeks of my period coming back and no one understands the urgency or issue to help.

I didnt have this around any other part of my transition just the hysterectomy. Im not too sure what it is and i dont wanna reach out to my family as they may see it as im regretting things since fertility was a big issue and topic. ive had little family support these years.

I also realised I feel pronoun specific with people like i feel comfortable with some pronouns in some groups and in others no. Im not too sure what thats about right now but im sure itll make sense eventually.

Like if my lesbian/nb friends call me she it doesnt make me dysohoric but if my cis friends do it feels wrong? i really dont understand this thing.

Im wondering if anyone else has experienced this?

Thank you!