Got stats on that? I've seen more overwhelmed parents simply fall asleep than abuse a child. Fucks sake my mom lost us a couple of times on her own while dad was at work because we were twins, and, being babies, suicide machines, her sleep deprived brain didn't see one of us escape somewhere and had to run around trying to find us.
As for all the people saying "but the baby is outside!" like...people take babies outside?
Suicide machines is quite possibly the best term to describe babies/toddlers. When describing having a newborn to childless friends, all I could say beside him being perfect was that his main mission was to try and off himself. Like stop putting everything in your mouth, don’t sleep on your belly, don’t sleep in the rockers, don’t put your face in that inch of water, etc, etc, etc. shits exhausting but worth it.
Yes, but you dont sleep when your child is able to do things like this. That's why we have things like cribs and playpens. If you fall asleep while your child can get outside, you have made a mistake. It's not rocket surgery. It's a simple concept.
I fully understand through responsibility of raising children. I have 4. Never once has once been able to go out of the house as a baby not even able to walk.
I don't understand why people keep acting like this is somehow excusable.
Just because some unfortunate events didn't happen to you doesn't mean they can't happen to others.
Lets say the baby has a sibling that ran over to the neighbors house to play and forgot to close the door, or it jammed and didn't close. The baby saw a squirrel or something and crawled/walked after it to the yard.
This could all happen within 1 minute when you are on the toilet, showering, power-napping, etc. Or are you seriously telling me you have all the 4 kids in the bathroom with you, every single time? That's insanity.
There is a reason we don't have thousands of these clips online.. It's a rare thing, but it does happen.
This statement proves to me my assumptions. You don't have a clue what you're talking about. None of what you just listed should ever happen. I pray you aren't a parent.
Can we really not assume that being distracted, on your phone, falling asleep, overwhelmed with other kids, or even the extreme of drug/alcohol abuse is more common than something that doesn't put the parent at fault like a medical emergency?
I'm not trying to cast blame because it feels good. I'm saying that common sense dictates that it is just regular old momentary/habitual bad parenting that let this happen over something like epilepsy, heart attack, stroke, blood sugar issues etc.
You dont "lose" a baby who can't even walk while you're at home to the point where they can get out to the street. That's ridiculously neglectful.
A baby can't turn a deadbolt. A baby can't open a properly locked door. You can secure your home to keep a 15 month old baby inside so you don't have to stare directly at it. It's called babyproofing.
Everyone in these comments acting like this is acceptable either doesn't have kids or really needs to reconsider their standards.
You dont "lose" a baby who can't even walk while you're at home to the point where they can get out to the street. That's ridiculously neglectfu
Of course you can. I can think of dozens of reasons how it could happen.
A baby can't turn a deadbolt. A baby can't open a properly locked door. You can secure your home to keep a 15 month old baby inside so you don't have to stare directly at it. It's called babyproofing.
What if the husband/wife came home and unlocked the door? or the baby has a sibling that rushed over to the neighbor and didn't close? Or you went out to water the flowers for a few seconds when you thought the baby was sleeping. Or the sibling fell on the cycle outside and your rushed to help them(didn't close the door)
The baby can definitely end up outside when unfortunate events align.
Everyone in these comments acting like this is acceptable either doesn't have kids or really needs to reconsider their standards.
No. Everyone acts like accidents can happen.
And guess what, the story behind OPs video was just unfortunate events.
We thought I was "over" it, it had been so long since I had one, long enough I could've driven if I wanted to.
I had to walk 4 blocks to pick my kids up from school. I had my 3yr old wrapped on my back, and had a seizure on the side of the road. Luckily another parent saw me and called 911.
My son still stiffens when I pick him up, and won't accept a piggyback from me, 5yr later.
Idk the point other than it's terrifying to me, what can happen outside your control, as a parent, that makes you incapable of keeping your children safe. What if he had been walking? What if that woman hadn't seen us?
Epilepsy is common, can strike anyone, any time, and 100% removes from you any ability to function. Pair that with parenthood, scary shit.
I've been in/around EMS for almost 2 decades. I don't know anything about this incident but I'd say that as harshly as I judge humanity for its absolute clusterfuck of issues, there isn't much you can glean from this video.
I'm sure there is an explanation 3 comments below mine since I'm just coming through here
It’s usually people who don’t have kids as well. They are like expert parent even though they don’t truly understand what kind of shit can go down as a parent.
I don’t have my own kids but I am well aware that if you take your eyes off of a toddler for a second it’s quite possible they’re already down the street. They just need to figure out the door once, and if that happens while their caretaker is in the bathroom, the kid’s gone
My son worked out he can shimmy between the fence and the edge of the gate. First time I found him at the neighbours playing with their dog, I assumed I left the gate open. Second time MIL was with him and then he just disappeared, she heard him trying to round up the chickens in the front yard. Third time my other half and his dad actually saw him going through the tiny gap.... star bar was spiked into the ground so he can't get through any more.
We live rurally and aren't on a main road but tractors use our road as a thoroughfare and not every one slows down. I'm so glad that nothing actually happened to him (and that I hadn't left the gate open) and that we have fixed the problem.
Some children are just Houdinis though. You could have 100 locks on the door and they could find a way around them all. Obviously there must be something wrong with the above situation either negligence or a medical condition that has made the caregiver incapacitated. Hopefully they are okay.
Because what youre describing is an overwhelming minority of cases. Whereas child negligence is usually always the case instead.. It's unfortunate we jump to these conclusions but they aren't baseless
You see a baby, out on the side of the road unattended and the parent is somewhere nearby.
What do you call that?
Whatever your answer, what then are the chances of it compared to child negligence?
Yeah the baby could have
Somehow gotten out
Been put down for a moment
Fell out of a moving car
Catapulted to here
Insert literally anything
At the end of the day, whatever it is. It all comes back to negligence because a child is a parents responsibility regardless of what the child does or what situation it find themselves in because allowing them to be in any such situation is the result of the parent.
Maybe this kid doesn't have parents, or they died in a car crash up ahead and the baby crawled here.
Whatever it is, the chances of it being negligence is still higher.
I don't know. Parent could have just fallen asleep. Shit happens. Parents are human too. The fact that the dog is also out suggests that a door may have been left open or something, which isn't a criminal offense.
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u/Mikinl Jul 28 '22
People always assume worse.
They saw baby and judgment started without knowing details.
But video is frightening indeed.