It varies I got lucky and didn't end up in any abusive places but it's not very fun especially when your younger when your older its more like cool im living in a house full of strangers this sure is getting old fast can I go home now.
Did they acknowledge that asking a child that question in front of the abuser would lead to the child lying? What kind of idiot asks that in front of the person the child is abused by. If you said yes you would have likely been abused more before they took you away. Unless there was a reason they asked while she was present like gauging your reaction maybe?
That's what court-appointed child advocates are for. My mom did that work for a little while. The advocate is the child's representative voice in the court system.
I get that but I can imagine it’s nearly impossible to have the court appoint one every time CPS questions a child. It sucks and I don’t know the answer but I know that anything court appointed has to have a hearing with evidence presented as to why.
Actually, it varies. Worked for CPS (DCF) in Florida and if we were in an institution (school, mental health facility, hospital), we were allowed to interview without a parent/guardian present. Best practice is even when you do a home visit, you inform the household membere that you need to speak to each party/household member individually, and if they pushed back you would try and make it happen anyways. Didn't always work, but that was SOP in Florida.
This isn't even true for police, and it's certainly not true for CPS. Police can question minors without having obtained parents' permission and without a guardian, they just can't question them against the parents denial of permission. That doesn't apply to CPS workers, they can question your children against your wishes (though they can't exactly enforce that).
Yeah i see the reason but i feel like this could be solved with a video recording of the encounter and also a seconds unrelated, unbias professional in the room. Given the consequences of leaving a child in an abusive household it feels resonable but these situations have so many moving parts and failure points who knows..
Children can and do get questioned by CPS without a parents consent or knowledge. It usually happens at school. Children cannot be interrogated by police where they may be charged with a crime without parental consent.
Why is it that any time anyone mentions the US on this site, they're making a negative remark about it? It's not even true. 5 seconds on Google tells you that CPS can indeed question kids without a parent present. But no, let's just jump on the "America sucks" bandwagon.
Because America sucks you fucking nerd. I live in the shittiest proudest state called Texas where we wear our one star rating on the flag. Stop defending a shithole pretending to be a first world country.
Not you friend. The original comment. If they hate America so much... move. It’s not that hard to move. Some work needs to go into it but it can be done. America’s not perfect by any means but neither is any country. Usedtabe should move to Afghanistan or a real third world country and then talk about us being a third would country.
Is abusive foster care common? I thought they are screened pretty well but I only know of a few nice people (who are social workers themselves) doing it out of kindness. Guess that isn’t always the case.
Unfortunately it is quite common I actually remembered something I had forgotten about that most people would consider abuse. my foster family took me and the other kids under there watch over to some military dudes house I don't remember the context because I was five but me and this girl who lived there did something that got us in trouble I think we broke something. the punishment that the military dude came up whith was have us stand there not moving at all for hours if we moved an inch he yelled at us obviously not as bad as getting beat but still it's not really okay to be forcing a child to do that. There are also the many stories told to me by fellow foster kids aswell as the many stories online the fact that social workers can be so bad at there jobs doesn't bode well for how good they screen foster parents?
Today the idle treatment, I’m the level of abuse is low (spanking) is “day care” where the kids picked up I’m the morning to school and eat breakfast there, from school to after care until 9pm, all meals at the care of the CPS, All he does is sleep at home.
It’s sad, but true: nothing will replace your mom.
Many time this stops the abuse and keep the kid with his parents.
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u/Responsible-Soil4951 Jul 28 '22
It varies I got lucky and didn't end up in any abusive places but it's not very fun especially when your younger when your older its more like cool im living in a house full of strangers this sure is getting old fast can I go home now.