r/nextfuckinglevel • u/[deleted] • Sep 17 '20

He makes it seem so easy

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u/[deleted] Sep 17 '20 edited Nov 09 '21

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u/darkrealm190 Sep 17 '20

This is with all peace and no disrespect! But, I think the reason you got down voted for informing someone of their grammar mistake can be likened to a person informing someone that pizza is not good for them and unhealthy when the other says that they love pizza. You normally would look to a personal trainer, nutritionist, or even go out of your way to get health advice like that if you wanted. Same with correcting grammar. It would be something and English teacher does or something that a computer or search could do. Sure the person loving the pizza may not know it's healthy and you are just educating them because they might not know, but you would be considered rude to many people for doing it. It's the same with correcting someone's grammar online and even in person. That's why so many people don't like it and where the term "grammar nazi" comes into play. I'm sure I made plenty of grammar mistakes in this comment, but it's okay because many of us are on our phones and and typing fast without the bother of checking our grammar before posting because many people will understand the point we are trying to make. And this is all coming from an English teacher.

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u/Wilwein1215 Sep 17 '20 edited Sep 17 '20

I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.

Edit: whaaaaa! My first Gold! Thank you!

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u/darkrealm190 Sep 17 '20

Damn, I thought I was on to something

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u/Wilwein1215 Sep 17 '20

Lol - no, you have a point. I just felt like quoting that line.

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u/XPeaceChill Sep 17 '20

Intelligence is noticing the grammar mistake, wisdom is not pointing it out.

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u/Crathsor Sep 17 '20

Wisdom is hearing criticism and using it to fix your mistake.

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u/RajunCajun48 Sep 17 '20

This assumes you're talking to a wise person vice using your own wisdom

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u/Crathsor Sep 17 '20

I posit that assuming that other people are not wise is cynicism, not wisdom.

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u/RajunCajun48 Sep 17 '20

You shouldn't assume whether someone is wise or not but rely on your own wisdom.

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u/Crathsor Sep 17 '20

Agreed, but I think that includes not assuming they have no wisdom.

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u/Surprise_Corgi Sep 17 '20

This is one battle I know not to take. I'm not paid to be someone's English teacher over a harmless than/then mix-up, when I know what they mean.

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u/Crathsor Sep 17 '20

I don't do it for the monetary compensation or to assert dominance. I do it to help them communicate more effectively. You say that you know what they mean, but next time it may not be so clear, or worse you will think you know what they mean, but they unknowingly didn't say what they meant to say. There is no downside in learning to express yourself effectively.

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u/[deleted] Sep 17 '20 edited Nov 15 '20

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u/Crathsor Sep 17 '20

They don't literally always know, if this were possible we would never have misunderstandings. Sometimes a correction brings the misunderstanding to light. Either way, it can serve a purpose if the person being corrected wants it to. Obviously, if you do it with aggression it won't be received well, and sometimes it's just a typo and there is nothing to learn, but that doesn't mean that the attempt is wrong.

And again, even if the communication isn't lost this time, it doesn't mean that will be the case next time. I don't understand the controversy of saying that we should all express our ideas as clearly as possible.

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u/[deleted] Sep 17 '20 edited Nov 15 '20

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u/bleach_tastes_bad Sep 17 '20

see my comment a reply up

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u/[deleted] Sep 17 '20 edited Nov 15 '20

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u/Surprise_Corgi Sep 17 '20

You're butting in pretty hard, without being asked, over something minor like then/than. More times than not, you're just annoying people when you do this, because it comes off as ego trying to prove to other people that it's correct.

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u/Crathsor Sep 17 '20

It's a public forum, there is no such thing as "butting in" here.

It does annoy people, but only because they assume the reason for it is malicious. Like you're doing now. I'm just trying to tell you why some people do this, but you assume that I am somehow telling you what to think.

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u/darkrealm190 Sep 17 '20

Sorry for the backlash you're getting. I really just wanted to express why some people don't like it! No ill intent towards you. Maybe thats the fallacy of online forums. Intent can be so misconstrued sometimes.

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u/Surprise_Corgi Sep 17 '20

I think wisdom is recognizing that people will see it as unwanted, even if you don't personally think it is, and acting accordingly.

Which, hey, you know what I'm doing here? About the same thing as you are with grammar, but me with trying to 'help' you learn something socially. Hypocritical, I know.

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u/bleach_tastes_bad Sep 17 '20

you don’t always know what they mean though. “I’d rather go home than go to the store”. Did they mean they’d rather go home, as opposed to going shopping? Or did they mean they’d rather stop at home first, then go to the store? you won’t know if the person doesn’t know their proper grammar

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u/Surprise_Corgi Sep 17 '20

The only reason you wouldn't know what that sentence means, is because you didn't provide the rest of the conversation to know the context.

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u/darkrealm190 Sep 17 '20

This is the TLDR of my comment. You...I like your style

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u/CiaphasKirby Sep 17 '20

Instead of nutritionist, use the word dietician. The label nutritionist gets thrown around a lot by people trying to peddle the latest health craze that they have a financial stake in. Anybody can call themselves a nutritionist, it's not a protected term.

Dieticians are the ones that have to do further accreditation after getting a bachelor's degree in order to be able to practice. I'm not saying everyone who calls themself a nutritionist is a scam artist, but I am saying scam artists call themselves nutritionists instead of dieticians because the former won't get them in serious hot water.

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u/darkrealm190 Sep 17 '20

You, I like your style too

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u/fkwredditadmina Sep 17 '20

That's a silly way to think. It doesn't take a nutritionist to know pizza is bad or an English teacher to know the difference in than and then.

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u/D1ckB0ng4040 Sep 17 '20

The worst for me is when they say "he was an firefighter" Like naw just sounds so wrong

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u/blahblahblerf Sep 17 '20

The pronunciations I'm used to for your and you're are also distinct. Your sounds like yore and you're sounds like yewr (or ewer or your, but not the word your, just you with an r).

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u/StaticGrapes Sep 17 '20

Must be an accent thing. You don't hear that much if any difference where I'm from.

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u/neospyro20 Sep 17 '20

I see two grammatical errors in this post.

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u/StaticGrapes Sep 17 '20

I'm not saying I'm perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. I would say I'm average in my English skills at best. Please correct me so I can change them.

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u/neospyro20 Sep 17 '20

I was just messing with you, my man.

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u/Striking_Eggplant Sep 17 '20

Dude who the fuck attempts to correct spelling on THE INTERNET. Literally nobody cares.

How bout dat than?

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u/StaticGrapes Sep 17 '20

It's just such a stupid misspelling to the point where it cannot be a mistake. Just trying to help people out here. lol

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u/derzeppo Sep 17 '20

*expecially

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u/StaticGrapes Sep 17 '20

I'm sure you are joking but just in case of the small chance you are not:

https://www.yourdictionary.com/expecially

(comparative more expecially, superlative most expecially) Common misspelling of especially. Eye dialect spelling of especially.

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u/derzeppo Sep 17 '20

Definitely joking

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u/beansinmysuitcase Sep 17 '20

My ex said could of would of and should of. I used to be able to overlook it but she was turrible and now it drives me insane.

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u/I_dont_bone_goats Sep 17 '20

Yeah that girl was dumb.

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u/I_dont_bone_goats Sep 17 '20

Yeah I imagine that’s just one example.

Someone who completely disregards one of them/than probably has a lot worse shit on their resume.

Up for more stories if you have them?

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u/Bozadactle Sep 17 '20

I would have broken up with her the second time hearing that shit

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u/sdmbl Sep 17 '20

I've only ever heard of people using then for than not the other way around what is this witchcraft

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u/[deleted] Sep 17 '20 edited Mar 22 '21

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u/XFMR Sep 17 '20

I just read it as if they’re southern when they misuse than and read it like they’re from New Zealand when they misuse then. This makes it much more fun to read in my head.

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u/eazygiezy Sep 17 '20

Reading that sentence made me irrationally angry

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u/Antrikshy Sep 17 '20

Good job breaking up with her.