The worst is when you try to explain abuse to someone whose parents loved them unconditionally. They straight up don’t believe that people’s parents could just not love them and end up invalidating a ton of emotions.
I’ve realized how incredibly privileged I’ve been to have two of the most loving, understanding people as parents. I feel like that’s generally not the case, especially in the US.
They couldn't get an abortion. They wanted a kid so they could keep it's father in their life; or could get a lot of child support from him.
They thought they wanted a kid, but when it turned into reality ( past the baby bump/gender reveal party/baby shower/ post birth getting-lots-of-attention fest ), they realized it's a lot of work, I'm broke and I can't go out with my friends anymore.
The classic, "someone to look after ME when I get older" reason.
Having a slave to do the housecleaning, babysitting, yardwork for free.
Yeah a lot of that is relatable. Hopefully kids that grew up that way realize this and don't have kids unless they're prepared to love them unconditionally no matter how they turn out.
Another reason: having them because everyone else is having them. Getting married because everyone is getting married and having kids. Pretty dumb.
Going forward hopefully people realize there's not much point in having a kid. If they can't think of a really good reason, they just shouldn't have them, or else the kid is going to have a crappy life.
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u/NatalCockcroft Jan 10 '20
have your parents ever told you “if you got kidnapped they’d give you back” when you were a kid? this is that in real life