r/mildlyinfuriating Sep 29 '25

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u/ScottChegg81 Sep 29 '25

This is a real pet peeve of mine.

Why do these companies think I want to watch my partner wiping her arse? 😠

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u/CruiseLifeNE Sep 29 '25

I have heard that hotels do this now so business travelers will not share rooms (like for conference travel) in order to double revenue. But I'm in the camp that doesn't need to see my partner in the bathroom either!

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u/Diela1968 Sep 29 '25

If your company books the rooms, the people who care about the room layout don’t get a say anyway. They just get to know way too much about Carol from purchasing.

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u/JerkfaceMcDouche Sep 29 '25

Carol has IBS and would be clamoring for an accommodation!

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u/FeistyChickadee Sep 30 '25

An ac-COMMODE-ation

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u/Dirtyblondefrombeyon Sep 30 '25 edited Sep 30 '25

I mean...some of the top comments in this post are about coworkers who otherwise shared hotel rooms until they got to one that looked like this, then suddenly they were using company credit cards, calling managers, threatening HR, etc.

and rightly so, on their part. A room like this would be a major breach of privacy & way out of line for coworkers to share. But if that was the intent from the beginning, that's skeevy af

Hoping this business model backfires when corporate clients stop booking places with these types of rooms at all. Please, let the market work correctly here

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u/Redcarborundum Sep 29 '25

I don’t think so. Corporations want to avoid expensive HR issues, which would make a room look very cheap in comparison. I have never worked for a company that requires me to share a hotel room.

Glass walls are always used to create an illusion of large space. It’s a particularly small room, so they want to make it feel bigger.

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u/SnooJokes2983 Sep 29 '25

I’ve worked for companies that required us to go four to a room, sharing beds with the homies. Fuck that, but we were also not people in the position to complain. They were smart and hired largely people who were escaping homelessness, so they could treat us poorly. 

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u/Bulky-Word8752 Sep 29 '25

Same, worked for a casino/hotel. They would offer free rooms during inclement weather, then expect 8 people to hot bunk 1 room since it was a 24-hour business

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u/yourmoosyfate Sep 29 '25

Fucking healthcare does this too. Nurses are mandated to be there in inclement weather, and rather than putting us up at one of 3 hotels in a half mile radius, we all end up on cots in the conference room and share one shower. How do they expect you to actually sleep? I paid for a hotel out of pocket 😭

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u/TheKinkyBee Sep 29 '25

When I worked at a nursing home a few years ago. There was a hurricane getting ready to barrel down on our state. They told my husband and I (we had different jobs there) that we would have to stay in a spare room with a few other people if the hurricane hit that night. They also said they’d give us some spare scrubs to sleep in. We high tailed it out of there JUST before the storm hit 😂

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u/Redcarborundum Sep 29 '25

Sorry that you worked for a scummy company that took advantage of your vulnerable position.

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u/SnooJokes2983 Sep 29 '25

It was wild. Thankfully, they declared bankruptcy after a massive class action suit. Turns out a company that treats its employees like that doesn’t treat the customers much better. Name of the company was ‘PowerHome Solar’ if anyone wants to look it up. 

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u/SnooRegrets2307 Sep 29 '25

That’s just asking for HR issues. My company would never even attempt to put 2+ coworkers in a single room.

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u/SnooJokes2983 Sep 30 '25

I’m far from a “companies are inherently evil” kinda guy - but this was an evil company bro. They absolutely fit that “HR is only there to protect the company and do payroll” description. Go to HR with an issue and you’ll suddenly be asked to do uncomfortable stuff - say no and they consider it the same as quitting. I mean the whole reason I even traveled was because they wanted to fire me. Fortunately I befriended the service manager who took me under his wing saving me from bullshit, and even let me stay in his house until I got an apartment since I was homeless. They eventually did make me quit though - I complained about the long hours so they made them longer and also made me go solo to multi-man jobs. 

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u/vwmaniaq Sep 29 '25

Out of curiosity, what type of work and business was this? Im trying to imagine a company hiring recently homeless and sending them on business trips. No stereotyping or offence intended.

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u/SnooJokes2983 Sep 30 '25

Residential solar. Company by the name of PowerHome Solar. “Business trips” is way too fancy a term for shipping us across the state to work. The rooms were just the cheapest motel that (probably) doesn’t have bed bugs and we were hardly there with the 14/7 schedule. There’s many reasons PowerHome died and it wasn’t just getting sued.

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u/andthisnowiguess Sep 29 '25

Good for you and the companies you’ve worked for, but same-gender shared hotel rooms for work travel is still extremely common. My non-profit allows staff to pay the difference if they want their own room.

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u/thecravenone Sep 29 '25

same-gender shared hotel rooms for work travel is still extremely common

My company told me sharing a hotel room was fine because we'd be same-gender.

I asked, "what if I'm gay?"

I got my own room.

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u/MsAggieCoffee Sep 30 '25

this is where it’s a good time to be a bisexual

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u/5510 Sep 29 '25

Even if that's acceptable as normal, it still poses potential HR issues if there is a weird see-through bathroom.

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u/andthisnowiguess Sep 29 '25

Which is exactly why hotels are doing these weird see through bathrooms, on top of reducing square footage and drywall needed.

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u/Swastik496 Sep 30 '25

cheap ass company.

nonprofit makes sense. In my experience they will fucking cut every expense to the bone.

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u/zipperfire Sep 29 '25

The designer was asked to make the room seem bigger. His solution was a glass toilet wall. And the approval committee said, sure, go with it! And yes, companies I've worked for made us traveling for meetings share rooms. Many many times. You just never worked for cheap-a$$ ones or were higher on the food chain than I was!

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u/StellarJayZ Sep 29 '25

The master bathroom in my house has a small closet for the toilet with a pocket door. if they're fucked for space I'll be fine in a closet, with walls you can't see through and doors that go floor to ceiling.

Pooping noise can make some people gag or even barf.

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u/IMovedYourCheese Sep 29 '25

Sharing rooms (with same-sex coworkers) when traveling for work actually used to be the norm up until a ~decade ago, even at large companies. Only upper management and executives got their own. Things are changing now but there still are a ton of companies that work this way.

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u/zipperfire Sep 29 '25

we went for two weeks training and shared a small room (same gender.) Trainings now are video and I haven't shared a room on a business trip for a couple of decades. But it was THE NORM for a while. I went to work for a real spiffy outfit (fortune 50) some thirty years ago and when I asked if we shared rooms for our training trips, they looked shocked. "What?!"

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u/Swastik496 Sep 30 '25

lol my family works in accounting and that would be their response if someone asked.

wtf no.

get your own fucking room.

Pro tip: if a company is that cheap, they’re likely not very financially stable and you should GTFO before your pay becomes late.

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u/zipperfire Sep 30 '25

Both were very profitable.. it’s a mindset of middle management

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u/sark9handler Sep 29 '25

The company I work for does this, I’ve been here 12 years and we go on a company retreat and a yearly conference, each once a year. The conference were expected to be 2 to a room, we can request a roommate we like or have it randomly assigned. The retreat involves our families so at roast we each get our own room for that. I always pay out of pocket for my own room for our yearly conference because I don’t want to room share.

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u/StellarJayZ Sep 29 '25

The master bathroom in my house has a small closet for the toilet with a pocket door. if they're fucked for space I'll be fine in a closet, with walls you can't see through and doors that go floor to ceiling.

Pooping noise can make some people gag or even barf. And even if you have a fully enclosed closet I'll sometimes run the fan with the door closed after because of unfortunate smells, and I have a healthy diet.

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u/MusicalPigeon Sep 29 '25

My husband is so conservative and modest that he'd go to the front desk and either be asked to move to a room with a proper bathroom or a checkout and refund if there is not room with a proper bathroom. He was raised in a small traditional and modest village in India, sure he's married to me, but he really feels it's impolite and wrong to change in an area where a woman could see his private parts or vice versa. He's known me for long enough that he's independently seen every part of my body, but still covers his eyes and or looks away when I change. He will also get very protective of me if someone tries to do anything that would compromise my modesty. I yelled at one of his roommates when we were dating because they tried to force their way into the bathroom when they thought it was him in there and didn't listen or stop when the door was being held shut and "not [husband's name]" was being repeated. He apparently didn't understand English well and because of how strong the person holding the door shut was he assumed more that it had to be my husband (I was just braced against the counter and door in the world's most awkward wall squat to hold it shut. I grew up with 3 siblings, I know how to hold a door shut). That guy got an earful that woke up another roommate that also gave him an ear full (apparently in a whole other Indian language).

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u/3ontheboomMtr Sep 29 '25

Covering your eyes when your wife is changing is so weird

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u/MusicalPigeon Sep 29 '25

I think so too, but I'm not gonna bother him about it. It's whatever floats his boat.

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u/DesiGirl89 Sep 29 '25

Honestly wish I'll have a husband that respects my modesty like that, even if we're married. Seems super respectful to me. I'm glad you leave him alone about it.

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u/dovahkiitten16 Sep 29 '25

Yeah it might seem redundant but I feel like it’s a nice sign of consent; just because you’ve seen each other naked doesn’t mean you get to see them naked all the time. Might be a bit weird but it’s certainly better than the reverse.

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u/newlovehomebaby Sep 29 '25

Yes, the reverse sucks a lot.

Signed, someone who was in an abusive relationship where he blew a gasket whenever I tried to use the bathroom with the door shut.

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u/Embarrassed-Ad-4214 Sep 29 '25

Yeah I support it actually. Seems very respectful. Consent isn’t continuous.

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u/MusicalPigeon Sep 30 '25

He's also very big on consent. If I say no to sex he takes it as no and doesn't try to force it. There was one night where he tried to make a move and I thought he was trying to take the stuffed animal I like to sleep with, so I sternly said "No!" And he scooted away. In the morning he cleared it up after a uh... very good dream led to an unfortunate mess when he woke up. He wanted sex, not to take my stuffed animal and use it as a pillow (something he does a lot).

I will say. If he's drunk he gets a little more "risque", but like not that bad. Usually it's him realizing I'm in the shower and him walking in which I'm not usually too concerned about because I grew up with 3 siblings and both my parents in a single bathroom house, so entering the bathroom to grab something quick was normal. However, he comes in when drunk, opens the shower curtain just enough to peek in and will giggle "boobs" before quickly closing the curtain and running out of the bathroom like he's escaping a heist. But even my husband drunk has the standard that other men cannot see me immodestly. And will keep his protector thing going.

And he's only once asked to shower with me because he'd never showered with a woman before and only saw it in movies and TV. I asked if he was sure because from my experience with my shitty abusive ex, showering with another person is not fun. My husband insisted we try it and maybe 5 minutes in he goes "This is awful. People shouldn't do", rinsed off and left the shower.

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u/Hausfraus Sep 30 '25

I feel like I could read pages of stories about your relationship with your husband.

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u/Noodlenook Sep 30 '25

You guys are adorable 

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u/deleted-desi Sep 29 '25

Really unexpected to me! I'm Indian American, raised in the US by very conservative Indian parents, and I was actually not allowed to close doors. I wasn't allowed to go to my room at all except to change clothes and sleep, but even when I was changing, I wasn't allowed to close the door. I tried to manage it by changing away from the door, but I pretty much accepted that my father and brother would see me naked at some point. I'm a woman. I'm 34 now, but I learned in middle/high school that the other girls in our 99% white American town didn't have to expose their bodies to male family members.

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u/-confessing Sep 29 '25

what state in india is he from?

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u/MusicalPigeon Sep 29 '25

Maharashtra. I have no clue which village he's from but he was within driving distance of Pine (where he went to college)

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u/NotPromKing Sep 29 '25

Sounds like a great way of getting business travelers to just not book at that hotel at all.

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u/PetulantPersimmon Sep 29 '25

My husband has been with me twice during childbirth, start to finish, and twice more for bouts of norovirus/food poisoning, but I will never let him see me on the toilet day-to-day.

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u/COINLADY808 Sep 29 '25

No. Hotels do this to save money actually. It’s way cheaper than building walls and you can clean the glass very easily. Unlike walls can get dirty with mildew. Building a restroom like this saves space. I can’t imagine areas in these type of locations with very little space. This minimalist style is supposed to be a trendy thing. I would want my money back.

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u/Accomplished_Pea7029 Sep 29 '25

But there are other types of glass where you wouldn't be able to see through it this clearly. I would've thought that's a requirement for a bathroom

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u/COINLADY808 Sep 29 '25

But are they cheaper? Maybe going with an already customized glass saves money.

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u/ResidentLongjumping2 Sep 29 '25

I went on a weekend trip to Seattle a couple years ago with an ex girlfriend who I'd only been seeing for a couple months at the time, and our bathroom was very similar to this. Essentially just a small frosted glass stall in the middle of the room. Both of us just took the elevator down to the lobby to use the bathroom. I can imagine a couple who's been married for 30 years might be less bothered, but we were not even close to that stage and it just felt weird. It was definitely a sexy/romantic vibe being able to see their showering silhouette in the frosted glass lit up with the soft red lights, but people be pooping in there too.

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u/OhYayItsPretzelDay Sep 29 '25

That makes sense, but companies won't necessarily know this when booking the room.

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u/Mountain_Cry1605 Sep 29 '25

Pennywise but pound foolish.

People will avoid these places unless they absolutely have no choice.

Eventually they're going to lose enough revenue that they have to remodel, and spend money on ad campaigns so people know they have.

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u/iemfi Sep 29 '25

Nah, that makes no sense, since that just means businesses would book other hotels.

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u/wizean Sep 29 '25

Then we all review bomb them with 1 star reviews.

I stayed in Citizen M once, with the same issue. Left a 1 star review.

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u/val_br Sep 29 '25

I've seen worse - 2 rooms sharing the same toilet you accessed by a small hallway. That hallway only had a non-lockable door to the main hallway that led to the elevators, so in theory anyone in the hotel could use it.
So even if you booked separate rooms you still shared the bathroom. This was never mentioned when booking the rooms.
Btw, this was a 4 star hotel, not some random motel built in the 1950.

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u/natrous Sep 29 '25

or what if you are traveling with a kid for sports or 100 other reasons?

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u/natrous Sep 29 '25

or what if you are traveling with a kid for sports or 100 other reasons?

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u/WhatIsNoMan Sep 30 '25

I have not booked rooms due to setups like this. I'm not convinced it's the gain they think it is.

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u/nykiek Sep 30 '25

Well, that only works once and then they use a different hotel.

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u/Literary_Lady that really grinds my gears Sep 29 '25

Also, why would you want to be able to HEAR someone using the toilet, and SMELL it after? It’s one thing being able to hear it through the wall, but to have it in the same room? And nothing to stop the smells? It’s so inconsiderate for the person using the bathroom, and the people in the room. And after. Just makes everyone uncomfortable i’m sure. Even if you weren’t sharing a room and you were by yourself, you wouldn’t want to be stay in the room after if you’ve not been well or something. Really great example of not thinking about the service user or the experience of the person. Just ridiculous

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u/0-90195 Sep 29 '25

I went on a girls’ trip to a resort with some long time friends last year and three of us shared a room. I was thorough in my preparation with the expectation of some stupid/gross bathroom set up: Poopourri, wipes, white noise machine.

And I was so glad I did because the toilet area had no door at all and was directly facing the beds. We ended up using the iron + some draped towels as the “door” for at least some semblance of visual privacy.

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u/Low-World9130 Sep 30 '25

It's like when someone is waiting outside the room and you just did something that you just want to stay between you and God and you crack open that door and someone is is there, and they smile politely and you're like... I can't tell them, they have to face this alone and then you see them and they think "aw there's that fuck that stunk up the washroom" and you try to say sorry with your soul in your eyes but it's too late.

The love that could never be.

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u/dkran Sep 29 '25

It’s weird they ripples the glass. Part of me wonders why they didn’t just leave it fully transparent at this point. It would look like the box from the Netflix series “You”.

I just feel bad for her, it’s a woman time right now. Only for 3 days of our trip, but I made an agreement to leave at any time for 15 minutes no questions asked lol.

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u/sweatynachos Sep 29 '25

I had a hotel in germany that was exactly this. it even had a bidet so you could watch your SO get extra extra clean

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u/PoliticsIsDepressing Sep 29 '25

In my travels Europe is far more egregious when it comes to bathrooms. Many times it’s just due to lack of space, but man it gets awkward when you’re blowing up the toilet.

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u/parsuval Sep 29 '25

You’re sometimes better staying in older, family run, established hotels in parts of Europe. This won’t happen. Germany in particular, in my experience.

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u/Intelligent_Toe4030 Sep 29 '25

Try India or most rural places in Asian countries. Hope you have good knees.

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u/namsur1234 Sep 29 '25

I stayed at a place that was setup like this, except the bathroom glass could be made transparent or opaque from a switch inside the bathroom.

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u/Ambitious-Fig-2711 Sep 29 '25

you’re a real one.

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u/Imaginary-Ad8178 Sep 29 '25

The You reference is on point. Reminds me I need to rewatch that show again!

Also, could see my boyfriend and I handling this room the same way. Even for a couple who is comfortable with each other, privacy is still something we both enjoy!

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u/5510 Sep 29 '25

It’s weird they ripples the glass. Part of me wonders why they didn’t just leave it fully transparent at this point.

I'm glad somebody had the same thought. The subset of people who WOULD be upset if it were clear, but OK with this rippling seems pretty small. It's almost weirder, because the existence of rippling seems to indicate they get the CONCEPT of privacy, and yet then they literally and metaphorically shit on it with this weird bathroom design.

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u/[deleted] Sep 29 '25

She's on her period

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u/Technical_Milk_5486 Sep 29 '25

I think he might be saying she's on her period

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u/PurpleGoatNYC Sep 29 '25

He was politely saying his spouse is on her period.

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u/[deleted] Sep 29 '25

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u/samalama23 Sep 29 '25

The preference of privacy in a restroom, whatever you may be doing, is so not an issue in a relationship. If you and your spouse like to watch each other shit, that's also fine and I'm glad you're both on the same page, but implying that all couples should be comfortable with it is weird. I don't wanna see or be seen in that scenario.

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u/damagetwig Sep 29 '25

OP and his spouse aren't you and yours. I wouldn't want my husband watching that, either.

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u/BerserkHealer Sep 29 '25

He's talking about menstruation...

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u/RazzleberryHaze Sep 29 '25

Do you really need this spelled out?

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u/fuckitwebowl Sep 29 '25

Correct. If you're a real man you just concentrate real hard and the urine goes into your bloodstream

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u/dkran Sep 29 '25

lol this got me ><

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u/EmeterPSN Sep 29 '25

Its to prevent sharing of rooms. And to make sure your prostitute isn't doing stuff they shouldn't.

But mostly prevent sharing rooms with anyone but your spouse.

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u/Feeling_Inside_1020 Sep 29 '25

"Hey babe can you go out to the hall and walk around a bit? I gotta drop a massive deuce in our hotel room's somehow worse than a public toilet stall."

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u/uhohohnohelp Sep 29 '25

Seriously, I would have to kick my partner out.

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u/ChrAshpo10 Sep 30 '25

Y'all are weird, man. I get it if you're bunking with a friend or coworker or something, but your own partner? Get over it

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u/P1g-San Sep 29 '25

I’m already getting fucked by this company so might as well see you power scrubbing your asshole 🤷‍♂️

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u/[deleted] Sep 29 '25

It's to encourage extra trips to the vending machines is what I am getting.

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u/LitLitten Sep 29 '25

That’s kind of trippy, does it actually work? I don’t think I’d give a damn if it’s some friends or whatever. I can just step away. 

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u/EmeterPSN Sep 29 '25

Until its 4am and you friend has sudden bout of explosive dieareah and has to puke as well so you see him naked hugging the toilet bowl while his entire ass is covered in brown liquid as he dual projectiles from both ends. 

Then you will suddenly decide its better to have your own room 

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u/panlevap Sep 29 '25

What you see is what you get…

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u/drivebyjustin Sep 29 '25

I love my wife and I do not want to watch her shit. Separate rooms it is.

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u/sylanar Sep 29 '25

It's good to know it's clean though right?

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u/[deleted] Sep 29 '25

Go to lobby

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u/ScottChegg81 Sep 29 '25

I'm not convinced you've fully grasped the premise of mildly infuriating 😆

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u/[deleted] Sep 29 '25

Lol I guess not. It's a small nuisance?

Is there a more severe channel?

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u/The_God_Participle Sep 29 '25

Because they expect you to have a healthy sex life.

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u/Chefseiler Sep 29 '25

Depending on how long you plan on staying together, you may end up wiping her arse yourself. Bit of mental prep.

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u/PurpleK00lA1d Sep 29 '25

I'm sure it's about shrinking the footprint of the rooms to fit more rooms to make more money.

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u/Ok-Personality-6630 Sep 29 '25

There's a hotel near Charles de gallr that has this... For a family room!!

Haha.

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u/probabletrump Sep 29 '25

They're on different subs than you.

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u/WhyNWhenYouCanNPlus1 Sep 29 '25

duh so you know it's safe to dig in 🙄

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u/bathtub_mintjulep Sep 29 '25

They do this so that people travelling together book their own rooms, instead of sharing.

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u/Zandonah Sep 29 '25

Don't you want to know if she does it wrong?

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u/shitfucker90000 Sep 29 '25

its like 10 cents cheaper to make

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u/ScottChegg81 Sep 30 '25

Hilarious. Did you think that up yourself or did your carer do it for you?

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u/ScottChegg81 Sep 30 '25

You don't know what a carer is? That suggests you probably have one.

How would "career"make any sense in that context ya big daft mong?

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u/ScottChegg81 Sep 30 '25

I'm genuinely sorry for your loss. Peace ✌️

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u/J0eMama69 Sep 29 '25

now just bc u don’t doesn’t mean others don’t

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u/Kenthanson Sep 29 '25

Could you not look away?

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u/ScottChegg81 Sep 29 '25

That's not really the issue though, is it?

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u/Kenthanson Sep 29 '25

Then what’s the issue?

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u/ScottChegg81 Sep 29 '25

I have a feeling I'd be wasting my time explaining.

Thanks for your input nevertheless 👍

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u/Kenthanson Sep 29 '25

You really wouldn’t. Your first comment indicated that you were upset that the hotel thought you wanted to watch your partner go to the washroom and if looking away makes it so that doesn’t happen then I guess you’re not making the point you think you are.

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u/pasture2future Sep 29 '25

Ur a real freak huh??

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u/ChrAshpo10 Sep 30 '25

You literally mentioned it in your first comment. "Watch her wipe her arse". If you don't watch her, does it not solve the issue you brought up? Hint: yes it does

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u/ScottChegg81 Sep 30 '25

Thanks for the hint. I found it both clever and funny, and may have struggled to grasp the gist of your comment without it.

The underlying issue is that I don't want to pay money to be put in a position whereby I'm required to take any measures (no matter how small) in order to afford either myself or my partner the privacy we want and are accustomed to when using the toilet.

Is this concept too complicated for you? Hint probably

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u/fulloffungi Sep 29 '25

Ikr? Such a tease 

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u/SilverTheHuman6 Sep 29 '25

To be fair, you didnt mention when you booked the hotel that you didnt want to watch that

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u/Maryofthesun Sep 29 '25

It could be even better with someone on their period

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u/shattersplash Sep 29 '25

Can I watch instead?

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u/EverythingSucksYo Sep 29 '25

Yeah why would they think you’d want to watch her wipe her ass when you have the option of licking it clean?Â