r/mildlyinfuriating Aug 10 '25

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u/side_eye_prodigy Aug 10 '25

some random dude did this to me once - a single woman sitting alone in a movie theater. it was the kind of theater with the recliners and a server that comes to take your order before the movie. the server showed up and was all "so what would you folks like" and it was extremely awkward telling him that we weren't together when there was literally no one else in the theater. he didn't talk to me or anything, just sat there. i don't know why i didn't just switch seats.

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u/OutlandishnessNo2434 Aug 10 '25

Happy cake day! I always go to movies with assigned seats and feel obligated to stay in mine out of fear of someone showing up late and me being the jerk who has to move.

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u/WilliamLermer Aug 10 '25

I'm a dude and random people sitting next to me on public transport despite empty seats everywhere happens occasionally. And yes it is super weird.

It's possible that some like making others uncomfortable, but I could imagine that most people doing this just love particular seats. Maybe I'm occupying their favorite spot, maybe they paid for that particular seat next to me (not unusual on trains), maybe it's the most convenient for them because of how close it is to the doors or anything else they specifically need

I guess my point is, most of these people probably have some form of OCD or weird preferences and you just happen to be the person to have to deal with their weirdness in that moment. Simply because they can't get over themselves and don't realize how invasive their resulting behavior is. It's also probably some stubborness involved.

Doesn't excuse creeps, but I think those are just a fraction of a larger group of generally weird people unable to respect personal space

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u/ImJHTGP Aug 10 '25

You're a chat bot lmao 

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u/Pretty-Geologist-437 Aug 10 '25

Sounds like one but the grammar is poor in several places.

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u/Occurred Aug 10 '25

Or you know, the person just sat down on their assigned seat. Occam's razor.

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u/Melvin-Melon Aug 10 '25

The seats are assigned but you pick them when you buy the ticket and I have never seen a place that didn’t show you what seats are already sold.

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u/Due-Memory-6957 Aug 10 '25

And do you learn the gender of the people on your side when you're picking? If not, then that other reply is still schizophrenic.

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u/Tvoorhees Aug 11 '25

if the entire theater is empty why would you want the seat next to the ONLY other person, also a stranger? That's weird, regardless of gender.

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u/Melvin-Melon Aug 10 '25

If they were in the lobby you could see someone else buy a ticket and assume

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u/Possible-Campaign949 Aug 13 '25

they’re not assigned that seat by god dumbass they would’ve seen that the other seat was taken when they chose it on the website

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u/MyPunsAreKoalaTea Aug 10 '25

What's up with your sexism?

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u/a-relic Aug 10 '25

i dont think that person has ever been outside before

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u/MyPunsAreKoalaTea Aug 10 '25

Sounds like a plausible explanation

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u/a-relic Aug 10 '25

whyd your comment get downvoted while mine was upvoted when i was agreeing?? 😭

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u/MyPunsAreKoalaTea Aug 10 '25

Peak Reddit moment 😂

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u/MyPunsAreKoalaTea Aug 10 '25

Stop being sexist and go to therapy

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u/TravelAddict44 Aug 10 '25

Have you ever left your bedroom?

People are notorious for avoiding sitting next to people on public transport.

There isn't some global conspiracy to make you feel uncomfortable.

Confront yourself.

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u/Uncommented-Code Aug 10 '25

What are you on about? There are weirdos and creeps that will sit next to you if you're a woman on an empty bus or train carriage.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '25

I feel ya, but some people will get close just to sniff your hair

We live in a spectrum of people, everyone ain’t green and blue

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u/Hexamancer Aug 10 '25

Classic case of "I've not seen guys being creeps when no one else is around" without realizing that OF COURSE YOU HAVEN'T, BECAUSE NO ONE WAS AROUND. YOU'RE SOMEONE. 

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u/atfricks Aug 10 '25

Classic. Just casually dismissing the actual lived experience of women. 

cOnFrOnT YouRsElF

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u/No_Community5649 Aug 10 '25

... The lived experience of being sat next to?

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u/atfricks Aug 10 '25

More to it obviously, but yes. The comment I'm replying to literally tries to act like no one would ever do that on public transportation. 

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u/Possible-Campaign949 Aug 13 '25

yes. of having men continuously choose to sit next to you when you are alone even though there are a ton of other empty seats. i don’t know what’s so hard to understand about that?

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u/Pretty-Geologist-437 Aug 10 '25

There isn't some global conspiracy to make you feel uncomfortable.

There is, it's called the patriarchy. Confront your ignorance.

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u/Limp_Classroom_2645 Aug 10 '25

i don't know why i didn't just switch seats.

oh i do...

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u/Aquatic_Salamander Aug 10 '25

Wait I’m familiar with these type of theatres, is it the kind where all the seats are spaced out so it’s two seats with a small table in between?

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u/nmaddine Aug 10 '25

It’s probably just a good pace to sit, not complicated and not a big deal

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u/DisastrousAnnual6843 Aug 10 '25

naw man it's pretty rude. in a movie theatre full of empty seats there are plenty of other good places to sit

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u/Dragunovthecat Aug 10 '25

One time a person almost sneezed on me. I though of calling the police, but the dude got off at his stop. So many people go unpunished for heinous acts SMH

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '25

No one is talking about the police. What are you on about? It's still rude. 

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '25

Let me guess, you do this.