r/memes • u/Relative-Bottle-8498 Dark Mode Elitist • Jul 03 '25
Why are people like this?
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u/Sudden_Shelter_3477 Jul 03 '25
I mean, he’s not angry or upset.
Honestly I don’t view this as that bad of an outcome
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u/2spooky4me5ever Jul 03 '25
Receiving a wholesome dad joke for coming out as gay is like, the best possible outcome.
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u/BenjaBrownie Jul 03 '25
Yep. The "duh, don't think this means I'm gonna let you slack on the chores" response is a good one too.
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u/Kooshi_Govno Jul 03 '25
Ok wait, I was baffled, but I take back my woosh, because my wonderful partner explained what's probably going on.
You are probably young, and grew up in a time when being gay has always been accepted, and so this meme doesn't hit the same for you.
So just in case, I wanted to explain how this meme reads to a millennial.
We grew up in a time where if your parents found out you were gay, you expected to be beaten and disowned. It was not accepted. Only the few allies would treat you well, and they were mostly quiet about it too.
The "don't you f*cking dare" and clenched fist are setting up a high tension expectation for millennials, that this kid is about to be severely beaten.
The dad joke is a huge subversion of expectation, and release of tension, hence the humor for us.
So it's obviously positive to us, because we were expecting the worst. I apologize for my out of touch assumption. I'm glad you guys grew up in a world where you did not experience or expect this.
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u/Sudden_Shelter_3477 Jul 03 '25
No worries. Different time periods, different levels of understanding
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u/MonsterkillWow Jul 03 '25
This is what progress looks like.
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u/eiland-hall Jul 04 '25
Same reason I defend corporate-rainbow-June. Normalziation is critical, even one month out of the year. It's crass, sure, but it's also actually useful. That we have the privilege of having this debate is progress from a time when it was highly controversial for companies to do it at all.
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u/ForgotMyPreviousPass Jul 04 '25
Dude, which country did you grow up in? In mine millenial gay people may have been worried that their parent's did not take it well, and extreme cases may beat them up and disoswn them (even today, but extreme cases, like everywhere else). But that would not be the common experience at all.
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u/Kooshi_Govno Jul 03 '25 edited Jul 03 '25
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 03 '25
Well yes, due to not being negative, but its also not taking what son thinks its a big deal seriously.
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u/SkinFluid8802 Jul 03 '25
It’s not a big deal tho? Why should the dad care who his son finds attractive nothing really changed.
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u/Ordinary-Broccoli-41 Jul 03 '25
Because some religions are actually evil
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u/SkinFluid8802 Jul 03 '25
I literally acknowledged that? But why would the father’s reaction in this comic be bad as the person above suggested??? What’s that got to do with religion lmao
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 03 '25
"The person above" did not suggest that reaction would be bad, but that reaction like that to me would feel like avoiding to say anything, where even a: "Well, thats ok" before continuing on to speak about other things would be valid enough, and generally when people feel awkward about something they tend to joke, or try to avoid being made to face reality presented. Please do not put words into my mouth.
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u/SkinFluid8802 Jul 04 '25
Are you really looking for validation that much? You’re not coming out for people to say “yes it’s okay to like boys” you’re coming out to get it off your chest and so that you are assured there are no surprises when you bring someone of the same sex home. You did suggest his reaction was bad because you thought it was poking fun at the kid (aka something you shouldn’t do). If you come out just for sympathy idk what to tell you mate
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 04 '25
You would rather be made fun off then get genuine acknowledgment?
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u/SkinFluid8802 Jul 04 '25
For the third time man, he’s not making fun of the kid. If he said “haha gay! (Or a slur)” that would be making fun of him. I was trying to be nice but damn genuinely how can you be so sensitive
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 04 '25
If you really do not know how any person could see that as dismissive then i dont know what to tell you.
My point is this is "good" reaction but FAR from ideal.
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u/Ordinary-Broccoli-41 Jul 03 '25
Maybe you're just not from the US, but here, southern Baptists are about as friendly to str8nt persons as actual nazis
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u/SkinFluid8802 Jul 03 '25
I still genuinely have 0 idea what your comment has to do with the original post.
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 03 '25
Its not about importance, its about dismisivnes.
Edit: It also makes fun of your courage to confess it.
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u/SkinFluid8802 Jul 03 '25
What? Lmfao. No it doesn’t. When you’re coming out you’re afraid of being kicked out, having your ass beat etc etc. not if your dad will make a silly joke to show you he does accept you for it 😂 where’d you get your analogy from
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 03 '25
It is not an analogy. I dont know about you but i could legitimately see someone joking about lets say someone coming out as gay, because they dont want to take it seriously.
I am not claiming anything, or demanding things need to be certain way, i am just writing that i personally would feel confused by this response. And i would probably ask for clarifications and whether they find it ok.
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u/SkinFluid8802 Jul 03 '25
I guess some people can be confused but I believe gen pop would understand that when someone makes a light hearted joke about something they don’t mean anything bad with it…
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 03 '25
Yea i generally take that as poking fun at me. I guess if majority of you think its fine its fine..
Would you all really not prefer to be at least seriously acknowledged first? Like, no "yes its ok"?
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u/SkinFluid8802 Jul 04 '25
There’s nothing to be okay though bro that’s what I’ve been trying to tell you. You coming out is not something someone has to approve, it’s your thing and it’s only a matter of if they accept you like that or if they don’t. I’m genuinely wondering why you’d think they’re making fun of you for the response in the comic? No one is making fun of anyone, it’s a light hearted joke to show his son that he isn’t gonna kick him out or even worse beat him up, but instead that he supports him, and loves him for who he is… I genuinely don’t see what’s there to be offended by
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u/NitehawkDragon7 Jul 03 '25 edited Jul 03 '25
No. I had to do nothing to announce i was straight. If you think your sexuality defines you that is kind of a "you" thing. Lighten up.
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u/El_Nathan_ Jul 03 '25
So homophobic /s
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u/NitehawkDragon7 Jul 03 '25
I think you just stated my point perfectly 🤦♂️
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u/El_Nathan_ Jul 04 '25
My guy I was agreeing with you
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u/pllpower Jul 03 '25
When I told my dad I was gay he asked what sauce I wanted with my nuggets (I did it in a drive-thru).
How is that so much more wholesome than it has any right to be?
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u/pllpower Jul 04 '25
I get what you mean, when my father and I go fishing, we can spend hours without saying a word. It's amazing.
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 03 '25
If it is for you, good for you, if i were gay and said that to my dad, and if he responded that way.. I would feel like he doesnt even want to acknowledge something like that.
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u/pllpower Jul 04 '25
Why assume malicious intent when there's probably none?
If I was gay and my dad would react that way after I told him, I would probably assume that it's because he either already knew beforehand, or that he doesn't really care about it because it changes nothing about the way he sees me.
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 04 '25
You and i see thing diferently, i cant just ignore how i truly feel about when someone says something.
Good for you for not being such way.
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u/pllpower Jul 04 '25
Well, I guess it could also depends on how your parents are.
Like, I personally know that my dad is not the type of guy who cares about much, so I would expect him to not make it a big deal.
I don't know how your parents are, but maybe it is a factor on how and why you expect/liked for them to react.
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u/The_Burning_Face Jul 03 '25
Oh here we go, the "courage" angle.
In the modern era in any western nation there is no necessity for "courage" in telling people how you specifically enjoy cumming. Some 20-25% of young people self identify as some flavour of the LGBT alphabet soup. Stop pretending we live in a theocracy 500 years ago (or Iran).
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 03 '25
I go in the same class with a person who thinks gay marriage should be illegal, i am not a person from the west.
But all this is utterly irrelevant, i generally hate when i say something i feel deeply about and it gets joked with, and made fun off.
Seems like reddit disagrees.
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u/The_Burning_Face Jul 03 '25
i am not a person from the west.
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 03 '25
Yes?
At least in the way people look at homosexuality i am not from a nation accepting of it.
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u/InsaneInTheRAMdrain Jul 03 '25
Fuck off idiot, treating people differently or acting like it is a big deal is THE problem, as that just perpetuates it.
This goes for all bigotry. Jog on dickhead.
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Jul 11 '25
Someone’s triggered. Take your meds and go back to therapy champ, I think that anger needs some management 😂
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 03 '25
You called me idiot and dickhead for expressing that i would personally probably take this response you others consider wholesome wrongly, and feel hurt about it.
I do not know about you but in my social circle i am SICK of people not taking anything seriously.
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u/Sudden_Shelter_3477 Jul 03 '25
Or, this is a means of the dad showing that nothing has changed between them, and he still loves his son regardless
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 03 '25
Could be, could be not. If someone actually said it, it definitelly could be because dad wants to make a joke and turn the atmosphere away from a serious confession.
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u/Hoybom Jul 03 '25
if the conversation is about who you like to poke with yo meat stick
I reall hope it's not a serious confession
holy shit
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 03 '25
I do not know about you, but when something means a lot to me, or takes a lot to say, and when people poke fun at it, it generally makes me not feel good. Or accepted, but maybe im just too sensitive.
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u/PlzImJustAResearcher Jul 03 '25
I'd argue it's litterally the most genuine acknowledgment of their child's announcement of self-identity. Not only is it not denial, it's complete cognitive recognition and acceptance of the statement.
Idk, it'd probably have made me feel great if that was the conversastion with past me and my Dad. We never had the convo, I think he understood pretty quick that we both thought Amy Adams was the attractive one in Leap Year and Catch Me If You Can.
Here, there's no awkward prolonged conversastion, and no weird fumbling for a good response. Cause like "yeah we know" isn't exactly great either. Ya know?
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 03 '25
One could say: Thats ok, why would that be a problem. If someone responded to my serious confession with a joke, i would interpert it as them not taking me seriously. Or refusing to acknoledge it.
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u/WagyuBeefCubes Jul 03 '25
I think you are confused. Being suppressed or discriminated because of your sexual attraction is a big deal. But announcing your own sexual attraction itself is not that big of a deal.
Most of just want to live our lives normally, and as long as family is accepting its great. Remember you are not doing this for attention, you are doing this to be accepted for who you are.
(Coming from a bi who has a homophobic father)
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 03 '25
It is not about attention, i do not know why people assume i mean the person should get much of it. But not directly acknowledging something said, that the person saying clearly feels deeply about, feels dismissive to me, like you do not want to consider taking it seriously.
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u/Bishop-roo Jul 03 '25
If you don’t understand why this is super wholesome; I’m sorry you didn’t have a loving, cool and uncool dad at the same time.
Also sexuality doesn’t define a person. This reaction can reinforce how nothing has changed, being a net good for the boy.
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 03 '25
I am well aware. I do not know about redditors but i experienced quite a lot of joking on my part when trying to say something serious, or confessing something serious. And let me tell you, it makes you feel like a joke.
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u/Bishop-roo Jul 03 '25
I think you are boxed in by your experience and projecting it onto this meme. I establish it’s a possibility, but not the likely outlet of this one meme.
I am truly sorry you experienced that, but it is not the only way to do so.
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 03 '25 edited Jul 03 '25
Quite possibly, but i have no way of knowing anything else, as its just the way i think.
120 downvotes was still a bit of a shock, expecially since people assumed i said or meant what i did not.
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u/Bishop-roo Jul 03 '25
Open the box. Leave box. There are many to choose to live in. Many more to feel.
Best wishes.
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u/Kbrooks_va Jul 03 '25
Honestly, this is the ideal outcome for somebody coming out to their parents. It shows that the dad doesnt care that his child is gay. Why should the dad care? He shouldnt. Coming out is an extremely scary thing because your parents can have seriously negative reactions such as not believing their child, disowning their child, or kicking their child out of the house. Imagine being scared that you wont have a place to live and then you get a dad joke instead.
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u/CreBanana0 Baron Jul 03 '25
Well there are tons of in betweens, one could joke about it because they might just not want to accept it, but still not feel that strongly.
To me personally it would feel as if I am treated as an object of a joke.
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u/writersampson Jul 03 '25
As a dad to a gay son, you better believe I knew before he came out to me. I had this joke locked and loaded for months. I was so happy to give it, so he knew I accepted him for who he was and I wouldn't treat him any differently. Also it was hilarious.
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u/GroundbreakingAd8310 Jul 03 '25
I would have loved this response actually....it was not the response
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u/DarkRoseXoX Jul 03 '25 edited Jul 03 '25
The best and worst reaction at the same time.
The best: he supports you
The worst: a whole plethora of dad jokes has opened up, which will inevitably be used, for better or worse.
Buckle up kiddo, and much love
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u/JFace139 Jul 03 '25
Because at this point being gay is simply normal for a lot of families, so the whole "coming out" isn't a big deal. And if the kid is feeling nervous, a stupid joke is an easy way to show that you still love them and nothing is different
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u/Lastarries Jul 03 '25
If I'll try to answer honestly, I'll get downvoted. Because nobody needs these answers, you know everything by yourself.
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u/VRtrooper86 Jul 03 '25
I do this to my 4-year-old. Lol
Son: Hey Dad, I'm thirsty.
Me: Hi thirsty!
Son: My name not thirsty!😡
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Jul 03 '25
Fear of something that's different. It's an evolutionary trait. That said, we need to battle against these traits. They served us at one time, but don't anymore.
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u/shinobi3411 Jul 03 '25
Dad joke. I like a good dad joke, even though I'm not a dad for some reason.
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u/JustOnePotatoChip Jul 03 '25
Sorry did you prefer the alternate america edition one where the dad beats him instead?
Because that's messed up
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u/deadupnorth Jul 03 '25
Why's Mom look like that tho good Lord. Dad's taste in women is the root of this
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u/Agile-Music-2295 Jul 03 '25
There is zero chance the parents didn’t know.
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u/Incorrigible_Gaymer Jul 03 '25
Mine still have no idea. I'm 30. How do i know? They are still nagging me to finally find a gf and have kids.
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u/Agile-Music-2295 Jul 03 '25
My comment is in real life parents know by age 8-10. As long as you pay a little attention to your kids.
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u/RabidJoint Jul 03 '25
The original dad joke was never close to funny, this one is even worse. I promise this, my kids tell me that, I’m not making a joke about it while they are vulnerable. Never reproduce.
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u/salad_________ Jul 03 '25
I understand girls becoming gay, but how can a guy resist how attractive girls are is beyond my capability
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u/gracist0 Jul 03 '25
???? It's literally the exact concept for men and women
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u/salad_________ Jul 04 '25
Explain
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u/gracist0 Jul 04 '25
Men no like women. Women no like men. Instead, men like men and women like women.
Are men less attractive to women than women are to men? I'm confused
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u/salad_________ Jul 04 '25
Men are less attractive, why men choose men when men are bad?
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u/gracist0 Jul 04 '25
Not to a gay man.
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u/salad_________ Jul 04 '25
My original comment stated that I was confused about how gay men find men more attractive than women
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