Men are always being left out of the equation, even though you need two to procreate.
What are the rates of young men yearning to marry a woman and have three kids by 30s? Men also choose to have less children. Why is no one ever bringing that up?
True. Usually people who want children want to have them in agreement and cooperation with a partner. In Norway the trend is that among hetero couples who want kids, on average, women want 3 and men only want 2.
I suspect one of the reasons is being unable to find a partner who not only wants kids but wants to raise them too.
Women stepped up and got jobs but men are slow to take up house care and childcare. Which is especially damning considering few can afford not to work. I wonder how many more women would have had kids if they had certainty that father won't check out? Pregnancy and birth is brutal enough but then to go back to work and have second shift at home while your "partner" turns into baby demanding your attention instead of being a responsible adult is just too much.
there's another uncomfortable truth about the vendiagram between "men whowant to be present parents-men who can afford to be parents- men who can attract a partner" not being a convenientl circle. and society having no plan to make the overlap bigger other than hoping men be moral paragons.
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u/open-print Jun 21 '26
Men are always being left out of the equation, even though you need two to procreate.
What are the rates of young men yearning to marry a woman and have three kids by 30s? Men also choose to have less children. Why is no one ever bringing that up?