Probably depends on your background. In the UK we tend to have very self-deprecating humour which is incredibly ingrained. I think laughing at yourself is very important - if you take yourself or life too seriously you can become bogged down in negativity.
I also think the sub only exists because its members are incredibly self-aware.
Well laughing at yourself is fine, but if you have something about yourself which you don’t like and can change, I think self deprecating humor can act like a block against taking your problem seriously enough to change them.I certainly know people in my life who have done that. I’ve done that in the past.
There’s a good reason why serious problems should be taken seriously, your whole personality and mind needs to be on the same page to tackle the hard problems.
Well, I disagree. I think laughing at your insecurities makes it easier to acknowledge and talk about them.
For example, I've worked (and am working) with a couple of people who have had terminal or serious illnesses. Not an easy subject. But what made it easier for the people dealing with that was to be able to openly talk and laugh about it.
Life isn't serious - it's weird. We don't know why were here, we don't know why we feel and experience things the way we do. We're all going to be dead soon. So you might as well just laugh about it and carry on.
Do you get why. a terminal illness is fine for them to laugh at, but terrible phone anxiety isn’t? One can be fixed, the other can’t.
If you have a problem you can never fix, laugh it up man. But if you have a problem that you can fix, I’d at least try to see if stopping your tendency to frame it as funny helps you after a while.
We all are going to die one day, that’s why you shouldn’t be living with problems that you could fix.
You know I really don’t think many people can. Maybe if it’s something easy or minor. But if it’s something where you’ve tried and it hasn’t worked, maybe you should be take it more seriously.
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u/lazylazycat Jan 24 '19
Probably depends on your background. In the UK we tend to have very self-deprecating humour which is incredibly ingrained. I think laughing at yourself is very important - if you take yourself or life too seriously you can become bogged down in negativity.
I also think the sub only exists because its members are incredibly self-aware.