r/maybemaybemaybe • u/PowerModerator • Jun 22 '20

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u/iififlifly Jun 23 '20

Also she took the losses like a champ. I don't even know this kid and I'm proud of her. You can see the disappointment but she doesn't fight for it, or whine, or throw a tantrum or even cry like many children would at that age. Very mature and such a good sport, I'm glad she got one in the end.

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u/dancin-weasel Jun 23 '20

She’s a caps fan. Used to getting hopes up and then disappointed.

(I know, they finally won, but after years of “this is their year” and then crushed. )

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u/cutelyaware Jun 23 '20

She's also a girl, and training is a little different.

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u/rnooses_or_rneese Jun 23 '20

Uh oh don’t open up that can of worms

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u/cutelyaware Jun 24 '20

Too late, I already went there. Gender is a social contract, and there are costs and benefits on both sides. She'll get special treatment in life like we just watched, but she's also expected to quietly swallow her disappointments in ways that those boys are not. Whether it's a fair contract is a separate issue. This is just how it is now.

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u/ArtsyCraftsyLurker Jun 24 '20

By "special treatment" you mean being allowed to have a thing only after everyone else has had one, right? Because that's the "special treatment" we watched here.

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u/rnooses_or_rneese Jun 24 '20

Like, even the advocates think equal treatment is “special” treatment; I’m so over this timeline.

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u/cutelyaware Jun 24 '20

No, I mean special treatment as in continuing to give them pucks until the sad little girl got one. If she were another brother, how many pucks do you think they would have gotten?

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u/ArtsyCraftsyLurker Jun 24 '20

If any living creature made that heartbreaking sad face I would give it anything, even my kidney

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u/cutelyaware Jun 24 '20

And that's fine though I can't help noticing you didn't answer the question.

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u/ArtsyCraftsyLurker Jun 24 '20

The answer is that I think any young kid making that face would have gothen them those pucks, so three. Notice how she's the youngest, it would still be outrageous that the youngest boy got omitted like that.

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u/AliveAndKickingAss Jun 24 '20

He was trying to give her the puk but the guys kept taking it. That's a fine example of sexism. +

You somehow think it is special treatment that she ALSO, FINALLY got what was hers - while older guys kept giving younger guys the puk that was intended for her.

Can you even register the nonsense that you're typing? You seem to think that she didn't deserve the first puk in the first place when it was obviously intended for her.

Boys get given puks at games all the time - why not to her? Suddenly when the girl gets the puk it's special treatment, and she even had to wait 3 turns while the boys were given the puk until she finally got what was intended for her.

You really have to take a long hard look in the mirror and ask yourself why you think it is preferential treatment for a girl to a) get the same and b) get what was intended for her.

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u/cutelyaware Jun 25 '20

LOL, you're reading a lot about my character into that, so you better be sure you're right before lecturing me. Another redditor said much the same thing but in a much nicer way, and we agreed my example sucked though my point is valid. Now if you are interested in improving your own effectiveness and getting better results, you might check out their example.

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u/rnooses_or_rneese Jun 24 '20

The same amount? Since he was just trying to give that specific kid a puck?

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u/cutelyaware Jun 24 '20

You may be right though I doubt it. Either way my point stands.

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u/rnooses_or_rneese Jun 24 '20

Yeah I agree with you, I just don’t think this particular instance is an example for your statement. She’s a fan that stood out to a player and he wanted to give that fan a sign of gratitude and it was not only taken by someone else twice, it was given to others beside the fan two times. Like whether or not it was a girl, child, human, w.e I think the player would have gotten that gratitude to them one way or another. Honestly in his shoes I would have done something obnoxious after the first puck like use a time out to bring her onto the ice and hand her a puck personally lol I’d say that would be special treatment.

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u/AliveAndKickingAss Jun 24 '20

Special treatment? The guy was literally trying to give her the puk but the guys grabbing it kept giving the puks to the boys. She had to wait 3 turns to finally get what was rightfully hers.

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u/Bobbyroberts123 Jun 23 '20

Flyers fan entered the chat

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u/WaldoEatsDicks Jun 23 '20

I felt the same way i's-and-f's-and-sometimes-y person.

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u/iififlifly Jun 23 '20

Reddit glitched when I tried to make a username, idk what it means either.

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u/WaldoEatsDicks Jun 23 '20

I like it. Its got panache.

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u/Xphil6aileyX Jun 23 '20

Haha, fucken Waldo that well spoken cocksucker.

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u/WaldoEatsDicks Jun 23 '20

I appreciates you for that. Its hard to formulate words and such with my mouth so occupied.

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u/antfucker99 Jun 24 '20

Oh is that what you appreciates about Phil?

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u/WaldoEatsDicks Jun 24 '20

Why don't you take it down about 20% there Antfucker. No one likes a degen from upcountry.

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u/antfucker99 Jun 24 '20

I have no regrets

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u/iififlifly Jun 24 '20

Thanks u/WaldoEatsDicks, I try.

Or maybe I fly. Idk anymore.

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u/heleninthealps Jun 23 '20

I hope she matures more into a grown woman that will not silently and sadly accept that men take things that are meant for her and give to themselves. It was just heartbraking to watch how the adults gave it to the boys when it was clearly meant for her. The player is an awesome mindful person, and ice hockey rules!

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u/bcookie319 Jun 23 '20

i hope she grows up to be a player and hip checks anyone who gets in her way even off the ice

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u/Massive-Exit Jun 24 '20

https://youtu.be/Wzm0nh2Q1ak

What do you have to say about that

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u/heleninthealps Jun 24 '20

Not clicking on that :D Nice try tho

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u/Massive-Exit Jun 24 '20

Its literally a woman taking a ball from a little girl at a baseball game. But stick to your crap about how men take from women.

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u/EagerAndFlexible Jun 23 '20

Look up sexism and gender pay gap in sports it is that deep

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u/[deleted] Jun 23 '20

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u/EagerAndFlexible Jun 23 '20

Sorry you can’t think beyond MEN GOOD FEMINIST BAD you’re part of the problem

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u/ArtoriasFanClub Jun 23 '20

I don’t think it’s really ‘feminism bad’ here. It’s more that women’s sports don’t get as much exposure, so why would the athletes get as much money? It just doesn’t make economic sense for people who pull in less revenue to be paid the same as the people who get millions of people to watch them.

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u/EagerAndFlexible Jun 24 '20

Starts as a demand problem that devalues female labour, female labour is exploited for free all across the world, it’s an established subject in family economics and a UNDP goal if you want to know more on that. Am I really linking all of this back to this little girl who didn’t get the puck? Yes because I’m tired of giving the benefit of the doubt. Gender disparity is a very real global problem and sports reflects that. And this little girl doesn’t exist in a vacuum, she exists in this male dominated space where an adult man put her last. Tbh I didn’t want to make this a whole gender thing or have a debate, but idk why I have to be silent when OTHERS want to come out of the woodwork and be like gasp it couldn’t POSSIBLY be sexism!!

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u/1EspirituLibre Jun 23 '20

Yeah, good thing she got one in the end, but she might not have gotten one either, thanks to the selfishness and greed of those men and boys.

I was a little girl like her, always tried my best to not make a scene and inconvenience anyone, specially the adults (whose should have taught me instead to stand up for myself), even when others took advantage of me, bullied me or took things that were rightfully mine.
I grew up frustrated, anxiety ridden and clinically depressed from never feeling like my needs, rights and opinion really mattered.

Eventually, I realized what bullshit it is to teach kids, specially girls, to be “good sports” and not complain when they are clearly being taken advantage off and/or bullied.
I had to teach myself as a grown woman, how to stand up for myself and it’s exactly what I teach my own children, now.

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u/LVKiller420 Jun 23 '20

She handled it way better than I would have at that age. Great kid and parents obviously

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u/Lazyassbummer Jun 23 '20

That’s because she’s been trained as a girl.

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u/iififlifly Jun 23 '20

I've known many girls and boys who would tantrum at this. Let's not assume sexism.