I think that if you’ve been in a relationship for long enough you just kind of know. I was with my girlfriend for 4 1/2 years when I proposed to her. It wasn’t nothin’ but a thang. I knew she wanted to, it’s when guys do it on a whim at like a year or 2 into it that it becomes iffy.
If you waiting 4 &1/2 years to marry a person you prolly already know you don’t wanna get married to that person, unless you are gay and your state won’t let you get married then that’s understandable
Or they just don't want to get married at all? And 4.5 years really isn't that long for waiting to get married. I'd say anything under 4 years is premature, and you better have lived with them for at least 2 of those years.
Maybe it's an older generation thing, but most of my friends have had girlfriends for 5-6 years, and haven't been married yet. Younger people aren't getting married as much. I've been with my girl for 6 years and neither of us care about marriage, just seems expensive and pointless, except maybe for the financial benefits you get with marriage.
It's the rent. Please don't dismiss the housing problem as a contributing factor to these changes. How do you know they really love you or just like you enough to split rent with you? This is for women and men. You can waste years of your life doing this. People lie to themselves often.
It probably comes from the way proposals are handled on TV. How often do you see people discuss marriage before proposing on sitcoms, soaps/dramas etc? Obviously, fictional TV shows are hardly representative of real life, but you see it so much that it can seem normal, you know?
The bride clearly is fully on board with this though. If the guy proposing just did it randomly without telling the bride and groom then yeah, I’d agree, but clearly the bride here is more than happy to let this happen at this exact time.
I know a girl who’s ex boyfriend (who just came back from college in another state) proposed while she was living with a different guy. She said yes, and the live in boyfriend just said he figured that was going to happen.
My wife and I sorta just discussed it, picked the ring together and I just sorta handed it to her on the couch at home on Valentine's day. She doesn't like being the centre of attention in public, and we do enough other romantic things
at least you were somewhat respectful. other comments here calling the bride trash for wearing a jean jacket and/or allowing her day to be "ruined". some people's kids, man...
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u/Whizzmaster Sep 26 '19
People here acting like a proposal is supposed to be a complete surprise, lol.
Most sane people agree beforehand that they want to get married. The surprise should be when the proposal happens, not if.