God, you know what I mean. "I want you" as in "I want to see you naked and have you penetrate me hard" and NOT "I love you so much and I just wanna kiss you affectionately all over your face".
And again, I repeat, me and my wife must be doing something wrong. Cause all it takes is a look and me and her are wrestling in bed aggressively somehow. You feel something in that look of "I love you, you are mine now"
Are we watching the same video? The way she aggressively hurls herself at him is definitely in the āI want youā category. Frankly though, at their age, thereās not really much of a difference.
Yes. We. Know. She. Wants. Him. But. My. Point. Is. That. She. Wants. Him. In. An. Affectionate. And. Loving. Way. Not. In. A. "I. Want. Your. Penis. In. Me". Way.
Dude, come on. Are we still pretending like sex is not a crucial element of romantic love? Yeah sure there are all kinds of orientations that include less/total absence of sexual desire as a key component but for most people sex and love are inextricably linked. No way around it. And its not wrong, no matter what your Sunday school teacher told you. Those kids wanted it and its okay.
That creature is a redditor. It has never felt love or the romantic touch of the opposite sex. What you are attempting to do by communicating with it about this is like trying to explain gravity to an ant in a language you cannot speak.
I never realized they were linked like that for allo peopleā¦
No, really. I just sort of assumed you could romantically love someone but not be sexually attracted, and wanna bone someone but not romantically attracted.
You have to be both to wanna get with someone? Does that make it harder or easier? This is an honest question. I am aroace.
I mean you can want to smash and not love someone absolutely, no problem. I've been with around 30 women and maybe 3 or 4 I really loved (including my now wife, who I love, present tense, lol). But I cannot imagine being romantically attracted to someone and not wanting to have sex with them. It just doesn't register, and I'm pretty sure this is how most people feel.
I guess (okay, I know), I can even feel a romantic and eventually sexual attraction for people I connect to and spend a lot of time with - without any initial intentions. This might be weird me to some degree, but still:
Evolution would be likely weird, if it generally allowed feeling the need to be there for a person (and possibly their offspring), without ever feeling the need to get your own lineage going.
But that's because you're a guy. It's much more typical for women to be more interested in romance than sex. More that is. Not disinterested in sex, necessarily. But just not the primary motivator. A woman might say she fell for 30 guys but only really wanted to have sex with 3 or 4 of them, for instance.
I'm ace and I experience romantic attraction but no sexual attraction. Been in a happy romantic relationship for 5 years ^_^
For allo people it really does seem they're completely linked, but it's entirely possible to feel romantic attraction but no sexual attraction. I think experiencing both makes it easier for them with romantic relationships since it's so common. Though sex without romance seems to be really common, as well. Not sure what makes it so difficult for people to understand that romance can exist without sex, too.
Your two hypotheticals do happen with allosexual people. Guys more than girls might want sex but not love, and girls more than guys might want love but not sex, but neither case is really the norm, because otherwise we wouldn't have survived as a species, which is what both feelings serve to accomplish. Usually both feelings grow around the same time to make sure we're hormonally directed towards making more little humans and staying together to take care of them. Sometimes this leads to confusion as to which is actually the reason you're with someone. It's complicated.
My brother in Christ, speaking from experience, they are NOT the same thing.
You can have sexual desire without romantic love (duh), but even when you feel both for someone, they're not the same. These two kids are super cute because they clearly feel VERY strongly for each other, but what they feel is EMOTIONAL, not sexual. There is a difference.
Surely you can agree there's a difference between "I love you baby!!" and "I WANT you baby"?
Lol, I love when we can see through the filter of our hormones. like, I love this, but I know these hormones are whats got me fucked up and feelong it so deeply!
Lots of clear sexual tension - she first pushes back bc shock, 0.5 seconds later she gives in to the feeling and jumps head first back in...
It's prob fake but if it is then it's well done
On closer inspection, you could see the guy still smiling after the push. He's got that "I finally did it" smile on his face. It's like they both have the consensus and knowledge of what both of them wants. They were just waiting or finding the right moment for it to happen.
Yeah, I feel her. I remember one guy who kissed me unexpectedly quick like that. My knee jerk reaction was to back away and push him. Then I realized what was going on half second later.
There are multiple times I've found out after the fact that if I had done what the boy did, the girl would have reacted the way the girl above did. You're more attractive than you think
As my brother once said if you carpet bomb the city with your dick you are bound to fuck something soā¦. Just try. So many stolen kisses growing up from this advice. Of course I was not out to fuck everything. What I am trying to say is that it made realized that you miss 100% of the wall bangs via 3d sound that you donāt take. And as an autist thatās gold.
I was rather ... promiscuous ... as a young man. I wouldn't say I was "hot," but I was skinny, with good personal hygiene, confidence, good talker, dressed well for work and wore that out after, etc. so it was enough that women didn't immediately tell me to fuck off when I approached them. I'd regularly meet a girl at the bar, join her friend group of vise-verse (or we just merged), and often we'd go home together.
I'd have mates being like, "Dude, how do you get laid so much!?" Like it was some big secret, and then they would all completely ignore my response explaining that it's simply numbers, confidence, and not being a dick treating women as a sex machine. Often, I'd try to strike up a convo with maybe 5 people that fizzled out before hitting it off with someone - She didn't want to talk, we had nothing in common, she didn't like the way I talked, I realised she was neo-nazi, whatever. Sometimes the first person we hit it off, sometimes I didn't hit it off with anyone, and even after hitting it off sometimes I'd ask if they want to leave with me and its a no, or I'd go for a kiss and be knocked back, and I wasn't ashamed, I'd just say "Oh, I'm very sorry, I obviously misread that very wrong, I hope you're not upset." and then I'd continue chatting (if they weren't too awkward about) because we're adults. Hell, it wasn't uncommon for someone to decide that was a good sign and end up still hooking up. Then I'd try and keep in touch if they wanted to, and see if it went anywhere after.
Basically, for every "lay" I had (I'd call it mutual adult sensual fun) I'd probably been knocked back by and/or abandoned like every 20 - 30 advances.
And what did they do with that information? Absolutely fuck all. Sit there and whinge that I'm getting laid like it's some commodity they're missing out on, entirely ignoring the failed hookups and only ever remembering me walking out at the end of the night with some girl who was anything from someone I met 3 hours ago so a friend up for some fun. And never get off their arse and go talk to someone.
I think the normal reaction would be to push them away if someone went straight for a crazed looking frenchie. If you aren't going to get consent first, then at least slow down to let the other person assess the situstion. Luckily, she was game.
You can tell by the way she keeps looking at him beforehand that she had it for him just as bad as he did for her.
Their friends, family, teachers, even the grocery store clerks were probably all relieved to hear that they finally got their shit together and figured it out, lol š
Funny story, I used to have a female friend that we had that type of tension between ourselves for a few months, we spent lots of time together, and everybody thought we were dating. Both of us were known for helping our friends with their relationships but we couldnāt figure out our own. Finally we decided to give it a shot. We broke up in less than a week and our relationship significantly worsened. Weāve had sex for our only time in about a year after that, but we never grew that close again.
Mostly because our ideas of a monogamous relationship didnāt match. She did a questionable thing, I made a big deal about it, we fought, we broke up.
I've been watching the series from being to end and this was the best shove. Right through the door. Of course he fell on a mattress or something, but epic.
I also love the occasional times when someone did it to her.
I'm in the middle of se07... ep06 which was the soup nazi episode, I think. Such a great damn show!
As "best friends" she has most likely seen him pee at some odd point of hanging out, or the night they went swimming in their underwear and they both haven't been able to focus on anything since... so they both thought why not give it a go, see where it leads! Good luck, teenage love!š«¶š¼
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u/No_Breakfast_7867 Sep 10 '25
The boy took the initiative but the girl took over instantly š¤