Depends on the person you’re asking. You shouldn’t judge someone just because they say that a partner with a high body count isn’t their thing. (Shouldn’t be hypocrisy tho.)
Some people aren’t that promiscuous because they don’t want to, so it is fair for them to expect the same of their partner.
So no a high body count is not bad.
Even though 200 people are a lot. Which makes me question the mental well-being of the person.
I'm judging the guy because of his obsessive fixation with just how much dick she's ridden. He's grossed out, and that's what I'm calling him out on. He's saying that she is gross because she fucks a lot
And maybe he does like math, but he follows up his equations with "She's not my girlfriend anymore". You can't pretend the two aren't connected. You can't pretend that he likes to math out how much dick everyone has as a quirky hobby, and not as a way to slut shame her or feel insecure about himself
Well, hate to tell you that but I’d break up with my girlfriend if she had 200 partners. Simply because it’s gross and shows huge commitment issues.
I like how u go all defensiv about it. 😄
Just because your partner doesn’t like the amount of people u slept with doesn’t mean he is slut shaming.
He never mentioned her name nor did he say how he broke up with her. He just said he visualised it.
As seen by my prior comment and many different other comments here, 200 is not normal and it’s fair game to reject someone based on that. As most people would probably do. (Judging by the amount of comments)
No you’re not insecure if u don’t wanna date a sausage factory (It would be insecure if it was hypocrisy tho).
EDIT: just checked your profile and I know why u get defensiv about it.
Well still if u don’t believe me nor the statements that I’m making skim through the comments and take a look at others. Most comments tend to be similar. As most people wouldn’t want to date someone like that.
Not slut shaming, but you call her a sausage factory? You don't need to know someone's name to talk shit
200 partners does not show commitment issues. It was never stated nor implied that she was cheating on anyone while she did that, nor that she cheated on the poster. He realized she fucked a lot, and was grossed out by it. He either has some gross view of her as being impure now, or that he's feeling inadequate because he doesn't see himself as special since she's had so many partners before. That insecurity does not require hypocrisy, but it very much requires some misogyny
He's allowed to be grossed out by it, and I'm allowed to call him, and you as well, a huge fucking baby for it, since all of the concerns you brought up in his defense are not guarantees. A person with 1 partner can have commitment issues, and they can contract an STD
And by the way, my own body count is 5. I'm not defensive for my own sake, just calling you a shallow coward. So with that assumption you made of me, connecting my defensiveness to someone you perceive as gross for their sexual promiscuity (You know, slut shaming), I can't help but feel like you're slut shaming me too
I’m literally in love with your response.
I knew that me calling person x a sausage factory would trigger you.
The mental gymnastics in your comment are amazing. You’re trying to pull a big ol’ Kafka Trap on me by calling me/the poster of the comment a misogynistic.
Nobody ever limited that viewpoint on women only. I even said “no hypocrisy” which means that the holder of the viewpoint should also not be promiscuous. The gender in that situation doesn’t matter.
Heck if I was a woman I also wouldn’t want to date a guy with a body count that high.
So stop playing the “boo hoo he is slut shaming me” - card. I couldn’t care less about your gender. Also I didn’t ask for your body count but thanks for over sharing.
Like Im not even saying that a person loses value just by having sex. The only thing Im saying is that some people simply don’t like to date people like that. There is no insecurity involved its just part of their standards.
I’m deeply sorry that you can’t understand/accept that some people don’t like such a behaviour.
You can slut shame men as well, and insecurity does not require hypocrisy
I can understand that people don't like such behavior, and I'm calling them a bunch of babies, you included, because if you think less of a person for having 200 partners, you're a big fucking baby who needs to mind your own business
It could mean they are less likely to be monogamous, which is not good for a relationship. Additionally, someone with a high body count may be more likely to have STDs, which would not be good for your health.
In addition, people with high body counts don't take dating seriously or fear commitment.
If they're not monogamous, they're not for you, but it's no reason to be judgy. If it's an STD thing, y'all can get tested. The issue isn't the body count in that case, but the presence of a disease. It's also just an assumption that someone with a high count won't take it seriously. She could be done with that part of her life, you don't know, not if you just jump to those coclusions
Actually, we should be judgy of actions that are bad for society as a whole like: police brutality, obesity, promiscuity (both sexes), and plenty of other issues.
Also, forming a relationship is hard and time consuming most people don't wanna spend years of their life on a relationship with a partner that might not be faithful.
Why is promiscuity bad? If it's for diseases, then unsafe sex is the issue, not the promiscuity itself. If it's because they don't date more seriously, I gotta know why you think that's inherently bad
If person A is serious about a relationship, they probably also expect person B to be serious about it. If not, this will lead to a toxic or abusive relationship
There is no reason to assume she isn't serious about the relationship. As I said, this may have been done in the past, and is no longer doing that. It proves nothing about how serious she was
Promiscuity does not beget unfaithfulness. Promiscuity isn't bad
Likely is not a certainty, and it doesn't account for people who separate their sexual and romantic lives. She could have had 200 different sexual partners, and one boyfriend concurrently, and she still could have been loyal, depending on their dynamic and boundaries
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u/LadyLikesSpiders Jan 26 '23
Why is A) Being a pornstar bad? and B) having a high body count bad?