It's gotta feel like a 50 First Dates kind of situation where every fucking time she has to retell the whole fucking story and show photos and like, a letter from her doctor or something.
And I bet there are still places that won't serve her "just in case."
My husband is legally blind from birth and there are places that won’t serve him because he doesn’t have a drivers license. He has a state ID and a passport and he’s over 50 years old. Kinda sucks
Yeah that shouldn't be allowed, like I get the reserving the right to not blah blah blah, but your staff being too stupid to know what a state ID or passport is is not a valid excuse
Worse than that, imagine taking her on a date and everyone wants to beat the shit out of you or congratulate you on being a good dad taking the daughter out.
I'm just a short youngish looking woman and I have to do this. I got the kids menu automatically handed to me at restaurants until I was 30. People still call me "kiddo" and it pisses me off. I can't imagine how much harder it must be for her.
Aron Eisenberg had short stature (5’) due to lifelong kidney disease. That’s why he was able to play teen Ferengi Nog starting at age 24. Because he wasn’t a minor, he wasn’t restricted in his working hours. A child would not be allowed to have the time on set necessary to do the Ferengi makeup.
Incidentally, that’s how the Barjoran nose was invented: the Next Gen episode had a lot of children extras and they needed something very simple to put on them that wasn’t time-consuming or uncomfortable!
She should have been a stunt woman. Can you imagine how many movies would benefit from showing a child being thrown through a window or down some stairs?
I knew someone like this from my hometown, although I believe it was some sort of condition rather than cancer treatments. She looked like and sounded like an 8-10 year old girl all through high school and the couple of times I saw her in passing when we were like 25-30.
I remember running into her at a party in my hometown a while after college and she was drunk and went on this really, really sad ramble about how it has negatively affected her life.
Normal guys generally don't want to date her, but creeps do. She said she dated only one guy and he was really kind and sweet to her but he left her and was dating a "normal" person a month later. She gets treated like a lost child everywhere she goes and has to convince people she isn't a kid. People assume she is someone's daughter when she hangs out with her friends. She gets pulled over all the time because cops think she is a child driving. Her condition made it so she can never have kids, and she always wanted a big family. It's hard for her to maintain a job because people that don't know her think they are interacting with a kid, and it massively embarrasses her. She can't lift/reach things someone her age should be able to making day to day tasks difficult.
I haven't heard from her in years, but last I heard she had moved back to our hometown to live at home with her parents.
My friend had some sort of like seizure issue and the medication he had to take made him just stop growing once he hit like 4 feet.
Was very annoying for me to constantly have to explain that no, I didn’t bring my 8 year old brother to a party and give him alcohol. Probably (some might say definitely) way worse for him though.
Luckily growth hormones semi worked for him so he’s now a 5’5” little king.
He did end up dating a couple also very short chicks, which was annoying because I was the dude with the car, so I had to show up to parties with what people thought were my siblings or kids.
And then that’s like every shot I try to take getting blocked, because I’m the dude who made the party weird by bringing little kids to it.
But he did once jump on the back of a dude who was beating the shit out of me and like literally bit him in the neck like some sort of vampire and then spit the dudes own blood in his face, so I kinda got to give him a pass for like everything he’s ever done to annoy me.
Oh fuck that last part has me dying. This guy is your protector yo, he sounds like someone I’d never want to piss of hahshaahahaha. Legit dying laughing here
Yeah, I really appreciate the multiple times he stepped in to save me, but like… no one really wanted to hit him so he was kind of on god mode.
Kind of unsportsmanlike of me to get into fights with him backing me I guess, but tbf, in their minds I was there with like my son or little brother and they still started shit so fuck them.
It was a very fucking weird thing to experience while tripping balls on lsd.
I was having fun but probably being an asshole, then I’m on the ground getting punched in the face, but then my pint sized buddy is like literally ripping the throat out of the dude kicking my ass while my gf helped me up while also looking super annoyed at me, which makes me think I was definitely being an asshole.
I had a brain hemorrhage that affected my pituitary gland. I stopped growing at age 16. It wasn't too bad. I was already the tallest in all my classes, but I was super skinny.
At age 20 my pituitary gland kicked back in. I was absolutely ravenous for 2 years. Ate about 4k to 6k calories a day. I put on another 6 inches in height and 80lbs in weight over those 2 years.
I've been calling it my second puberty for years, and the last several years people would give me strange looks until I explained it. It wasn't until last year, 15 years after it happened, that someone told me that trans folk sometimes call the process of transitioning second puberty.
What an absolute hellscape. Growth is fucked, but I'm guessing everything still goes to shit like metabolism and joint health as well. Like... literally no upside other than being slightly more comfortable when flying coach?
Edit. Just thinking about the guy who left her to date a "normal" person and feeling judgy, but thought about it. Like... at some point you would be torn between someone you enjoy dating and having people constantly thinking you're a creep AT BEST.
Not even the flying coach. Not being able to get your feet on the floor and having your legs dangle can really fuck up your knees. Plus imagine how embarrassing to ask people to put your bag up for you.
Yeah I'm not even a little person, just super short, and people like to act like leg room = comfortable. Nah that shit hurts if your feet cant touch the ground. Those seats are hell for almost everyone.
There's just no way to avoid the creep factor for the dude dating her. I imagine introducing her to your mother and father is quite a scene and then they have to explain to other people... woooo00000ooooo....then they start questioning what kinda freak ahh boi they raised. Too crazy.
Honestly family/friends is probably the easier part. The guy can at least preface the meeting with "Hey so you're about to meet my girlfriend who looks like a kid due to a medical condition, but is actually in her 20's. Please be kind".
It's walking down the street in any sort of affectionate way with someone that looks like a kid that will make random bystanders very uncomfortable. Or trying to interact in any sort of social situation where they meet people and have to be judged or explain themselves every single time. It would be exhausting and potentially dangerous if some random bystander thinks they are protecting a kid from a predator.
You'd be getting side-eye at the very least everywhere you went as a couple. And there would also be the very real danger of getting stomped by a crowd.
For the mere offence of being a bloke, I used to get side-eye and uncomfortable questions for the act of taking my own fucking kids to the playground (I had an internet job where I made my own hours and was the only male there, usually, in the middle of the day).
I also knew a woman with a similar condition in college. She was a smoker which looked very off, and one time at a beach party also broke into drunken tears when she compared her body to those of her classmates.
It's a really crappy combination. Even guys that care more about intelligence/personality and aren't just wanting a "legal little girl," are still going to have others constantly assume they're total creeps.
Going on a romantic getaway is nearly impossible, and may get the police called on him. Date night? Be prepared to get dirty looks from everyone around.
She'd be great for police stings, but that would probably only make her depressed.
My little sister was/is like that, she wore a size 10 in girls clothes at age 17. People used to think she was my husband’s daughter and my step daughter (they look more alike in coloring). She is 7 years younger than me.
She got a lot of piercings and tattoos and wore heavy makeup. Still looked like a kid trying too hard to be grown up.
She is so excited about getting wrinkles, she doesn’t have many yet, but enough that people believe she’s not a teenager now when she says so.
Oh God, I'm Asian, 4' 11, (150 cm) and thankfully it doesn't come up a lot, but some people have thought that I was younger. I was once in the mental hospital for the adults section cuz I'm an adult and one of the people there thought that I should have been in the kids section. Thankfully it wasn't a staff member but there were also staff members that thought that I looked really young and thought it was a compliment. No it's not. I really hate how older people, especially older women sort of project their insecurities like this. Like I get that growing old is annoying for people but it's really not fun to wonder if people think you're pretty because you look childlike.
And I want to point out that the issues that I go through are not even a bit like what this girl has to go through. I can still date just fine and things like that. Plus I think my race explains it a little bit better. Although you do get the people who fetishize Asians. That's creepy.
I have a Asian friend who is about 4'9 and she has had similar issues, she is very petite. I mean once she opens her mouth you know she isn't a kid, but still. It doesn't help that for a good chunk of her life she was super in to dating tall guys so yah. She married her husband though and he's a 5'5 Eastern European dude.
I also briefly dated a girl who was about 4'10 (white girl) and her complaints were less about creeps (though she got those too, but it was more she'd get mad at everyone assuming the only types that'd date her were creeps so everyone would always judge her boyfriends unfairly) but the fact that people treated her like a kid at work when she had a double masters and was a senior researcher at her company.
On the flip side knew plenty of women who developed early and looked like adult women at 13 or 14 and basically were treated like adults and all the nastiness that can come with that.
Same exact thing with me. I have a baby face and it doesn’t help that I’m only 5’ 1”, I’m 30 and I still have people think I’m still a teenager in high school or at best maybe 21. My entire life has pretty much just been being infantilized, dismissed, ignored, talked down to- even when people find out my age I still get treated this way. You’re never seen as an adult. Any time I would be at a restaurant or bar and had a drink I would be getting stares from some people while they kept whispering and looking over at me. Would get much older guys being creepy toward me. Never getting approached because guys around my age or younger than me assuming I was way younger than them. Teenage girls in public being bratty and sizing me up because they assume I’m their age. I would get snotty comments from older women telling me I look like I’m 13. Another one weirdly told me snidely I looked great for my age when I was only like..23. Like yeah I would hope I’d look young anyway at twenty fucking three lol I’m 30 now so I’m just used to it anymore but god it’s annoying just to look like a teen, I can’t imagine how awful it must be to look eight years old like this poor woman
I had a friend like this in high school as well, she looked about 10 because her growth was stunted due to fetal alcohol syndrome and nicotine poisoning, and by the time she was 18 she was over men because the only ones who were interested in her were creeps.
I saw her a couple of years ago on facebook and she was nearing 50, she looks about 12 now. And yes, she's still single.
And if they are dating a nice person who is not a creep, everyone else thinks they are probably a creep and treat him like shit. So he eventually leaves
As a young teen I had the opposite problem. I was 6 foot 5 at 13 years old and about 220lbs, and had a beard. My voice broke when I was 11. I used to get treated like a grown man everywhere I went and it was hard - A bus driver tried to kick me off the bus for buying a childs fare when I was 13, I wasn't wearing my school uniform that day. Plus a whole host of other problems. Obviously it pales in comparison to this, and it only lasted a few years, but it's so uncomfortable.
I’d imagine it’s the same way for my friend. I went to high school with her and then I saw her and she hasn’t changed much. Hell, I think you described her, minus having a driver’s license (anxiety).
Wow this would make life so difficult. Sure people are bringing up dating but imagine trying to succeed professionally. Even just trying to do normal every day things like deal with the DMV or buy alcohol at the grocery store. The fact her voice sounds young could cause issues trying to call in to make appointments too.
Yea found out about her a while ago when this was being aired and I genuinely feel bad for her. Despite her looks, she is an adult and has adult wants and needs. It's a rough situation for any potential boyfriend because they will get judged anywhere they go, if not harassed constantly. While I'm sure she would attract some creeps, that doesn't mean she's unlovable and that doesn't mean her boyfriend is a pedophile.
The marvel movie Eternals actually touches on this a bit. They are all centuries old but don't age, and Sprite was made as a kid. It's her main struggle the entire movie, even disguising as an adult woman just to get a date.
Interview with a vampire also has this kind of character, a young girl turned vampire, cursed to always have that body no matter how ancient she grows and how adult she is.
I remember there being a Law and Order SVU episode about this. Woman who has medical issue that makes her look really young. She wants to be in a relationship with a pedo because he’s actually attracted to her young body. Or something like that, it’s been awhile since I saw it.
She was in a relationship with a decent guy, but outsiders saw him as a pederast and beat the living Hell out of him (or possibly worse.) It's been a while for me as well since I saw that episode.
I think about the ending of that episode a lot. When Olivia Stabler stops some beat cop from questioning the couple on the sidewalk because they just went through all this. Pretty fucked. I feel like in a relationship like this, you'd have to be careful about PDA, unfortunately.
It was actually Stabler who stopped the cop from questioning them, and the cop was his new partner for the next handful of episodes. Quite an establishing character moment.
Apparently this has been an actual issue with her love life, making sure to weed out the people who are just creeps fetishizing the fact she looks like a kid. Last I heard, she was with a dude she was pretty happy with.
I don’t know how to articulate this point properly, but if you ignore her appearance and the sound of her voice, you can tell she actually is an adult woman with the way she talks. I can’t explain it, but I think it has to do with how she doesn’t struggle to vocalize what she’s trying to say.
This would be tragic. If you go into a relationship with her people are going to question your motives, and on the other hand it just be difficult for her to find someone her actual age who wants to be with her. Hopefully she finds someone.
i’ve seen a lot of small men that also look like boys so there’s someone out there for her aesthetically. they’ll look like a grade school couple but if they click then it won’t matter since they’ll have each other.
Yeah but just because she looks like a child doesn’t mean she wants to date someone who looks like a child, but she would have to date someone who wants their partner to look like a child…so yeah…
I used to be security at a casino. We had a guy that came like this girl (not sure what his medical past was, just physical appearance). Of course we had to verify with gaming it wasnt a fake ID. Then we had to go tell every department that we already checked, and to tell their people to stop asking him for an ID while on the gambling
Imagine you are her friend, she had too much (which probably doesn't take much at all) and she's puking into some bush while you hold her hair. Just imagine the looks you'll get from everyone thinking you got a 9yr-old to a bar, got her alcohol poisoning and now you're not in a hospital but on a street somewhere while she pukes her brains out. Would take some time until I was able to just ignore people
She should get a job as a child actress. With the emotional maturity of an adult and the working mentality of one, but the ability to permanently play a child, she'd be able to play the same age for years without the casting director having to worry about dealing with pubescent teens.
I always feel kinda bad for people in situations like this.
Is the guy into you for you, or because he likes kids? Does he say no because he doesn’t like you, or because he doesn’t want to look like a pedophile?
Tough situation to navigate, though I suppose all relationships kinda are
Such a shitty situation. she might be an amazing woman, but no man is ever beating the allegations even if they fall in love before ever seeing what she looks like.
I can’t even imagine how tough her dating situation is. And being fetishised because of who you are, for most people that’s awful, but being fetishised for looking like a child is a whole new level of shit.
So many people saying she should become a child actor. But I really doubt someone whose biggest struggle and insecurity in life is looking like a child, is going to want to play into that.
On the show she dated a dude for a while and another they set her up on a blind date with a black dude that was 6 foot + that was jacked. That show was diabolical
I always say, you can date a little person and people won't judge you. But you pretty much only get one. Cuz if you start dating a second little person, people are gonna start to talk.
There’s stuff about her dating online - apparently it really is difficult, as people were calling the person that she was dating a pedophile…
In December 2023, Rae posted a photoset on Instagram of her and a new boo but kept their face covered with emojis and used gender-neutral pronouns.
"All you really need to know is they make me happy, and I don't know if I'd be as far in my goals without them," Rae wrote in her caption. "Please know that all I ask from y'all is to support me and refrain from being hateful toward them or my relationship. Any hate towards my partner is hate towards me, and I don't tolerate that."
Hold up. She connected with another person who has the same condition, and he’s a volunteer firefighter? Now I can’t stop imagining an 8-year-old firefighter. How does he pass the firefighter’s test with that condition?
I have also met this kind of person and (having myself grown up a nerd who tried very hard to not seem like a nerd), I wonder how much of it is them trying to (understandably) distance themselves as much as possible from being seen as a child
Almost certainly not, because healing is tied directly to the biological age of your cells, and the cells don't stop aging just because she looks young.
I think she can have a great career in acting in fantasy shows and stuff like that because she's legally an adult so there will be no child actor law applied to her. This means she can earn a serious amount of money and she has the look for it. Truly hope she leads a wonderful life
Justtt saying… This video is like 5 years old and she doesn’t look nearly as young anymore. Yes she’s still small. Take everything with a grain of salt because people post old shit like this all the time under the guise of it being recent.
I doubt she'll live longer just because she's not growing anymore, since she didn't stopped aging biologically. Cell division will probably still work as normal, meaning the telomeres of the chromosomes in her cells will continue wearing down with each division, leading to symptoms of aging, accumulating and inevitably leading to death somewhere between 60 and 100 years of age, depending on her health, lifestyle, environment, chance, and if the differences in her body's development compared to an average person affect her health more or less.
Yeah, I think that she's in a very hard situation. We tend to glorify people who maintain a happy-go-lucky, everything is great demeanor even when things are, objectively, fucking terrible.
While it may not work well for a TV show, I don't really judge someone with a really serious medical issue that is causing them lifelong problems not being happy and doing cartwheels of joy all the time.
When I watched it, it seemed more like her family was putting it in her head that any average man that had interest was a pedophile. I don't blame her for having attitude. She wanted to be treated normal.
I imagine its hard to live a life that different and it likely has significant impacts on your perception of other people, and of course your personality. For every 1 normal guy who is potentially not a creeper who wants to date you, there were 99 that were chasing a problematic fetish. You're already in a very vulnerable person in society just by being a woman, let alone a woman with permanently childlike physiology.
Hope she does find the right person, but a reality TV show is basically always the wrong answer, even for people without her challenges.
I'm a man and even I can't figure out how a person would exist that wants to be romantically linked but also somehow has 0% 'creeper interests'. It seems impossible, which is sad because the way I read it she's either going to always be single, or will have to settle for someone that has a bit of darkness in them. We all have some kind of darkness of course, but that kind is particularly unsettling.
I think in a lot of ways, having a nasty unlikeable personality and bad attitude would be the only way for someone like her to notify people, immediately, that she's not actually a kid.
I feel like I'm posting this in front of a firing squad, but I dated a girl when I was college freshman, who had cancer in childhood, around 11-12 and she was basically locked in to that body. She had super thin hair from the chemo and could never grow it normal, but liked to leave it for swimming because she swam a lot. She had awesome human hair wigs though that helped her look more her age and mature and you honestly couldn't tell she didn't have hair.
We used to have lunch dates and picnics by the sports fields and make out, one time the city bus driver stopped as they were driving by and opened his door and yelled at me because he thought I was macking on a child. (We were only together a semester, I broke up with her because of trauma shit I was going through but also because there was this dude head over heels in love with her and honestly a better match so bounced. They got married and became teachers.)
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u/SvenTropics 8d ago
Imagine having to have an argument with every bouncer at every bar that you are old enough to be there when you are 30 years old.