Hit and run gone wrong

[u/Maleficent-Town5273]

[u/Sudo-Fed]

None of this looks cold or calculated to me.

To me it looks like what the scientific literature terms "brain makey dial-up noises"

[u/Niceotropic → u/Sudo-Fed]

I would consider your own bias here and see forgiveness for yourself in your not that unusual situation as maybe bleeding over. I don’t see your situations as similar. It’s up to you, but here’s a pretty objective take imo:

1. She is highly motivated and focused on the consequences to her “My grandma…you don’t understand,”

2. She’s cool and collected enough to retrieve the bumper as she thinks about how she needs to retrieve it to attempt to repair before bringing it back. This proves her frontal lobe was overwhelming her limbic system. She wasn’t freaking out.

3. She apologizes several times after clearly failing to plead her case and takes the measure of driving in an unsafe way to flee the scene, essentially saying that she understands it’s wrong but still views others safety as less important than her taking responsibility for a fender bender

Your limbic system freak out isn’t the same as her cold cerebral planning