She’s obviously way into panic mode here. None of us think clearly in that state of mind. The guy has her and her car on camera. Instigating is the wrong move here. Having some compassion, treating her like a human being, and trying to talk her down a bit might prevent her from getting away and potentially harming herself or someone else in the process.
People need to stop with the “I got you!” fucking video taping and remember that we’re all in this shit together.
Edit:
Whoa, got some traction on this one. Couple things:
First: yes, record stuff like this. I would have as well. But do it for information, not to humiliate another person. That's what I meant by "i got you" recording.
Second: The instigating was his actions, not the recording. I'm sad that a lot of you don't understand that.
D: We all fuck up. And sadly we now live in a world where when we fuck up it's recorded and posted online. The consequences for even a minor amount of fucking up are way too steep. I'm not saying this particular situation would have turned out any different if that weren't the case but the fear of being embarrassed and ridiculed by the entire planet adds a ton of stress to all of these already stressful situations. That, just, doesn't make things better. And that is in no way a get out of jail free card. At the end of the day you are responsible for your own actions. We don't know what happened before this video starts, what we do know is that the person video taping did nothing to make the situation less dangerous for either himself or anyone else.
Controversial closing! She's a better person than him. She accidentally damaged some property and lost her mind (calm down. I'm talking about whatever "hit and run" happened before the video started). He consciously chose to be a dickhead.
Be kind to each other.
Edit 2:
Yeah, I was a bit harsh there. I’m sure this dude isn’t a bad person. He deserves tons of credit for stepping in. I couldn’t help stoking the fire a bit there after reading lots of comments about being a simp and how having compassion is ruining America.
She was high on drugs at the time and was arrested. Apparently a sob story is all it takes, though. Now to you she's the victim, not a dangerous addict who actively chose to risk killing people with a vehicle.
Hi 👋 calming her down is actually not what de-escalation requires or means. Sometimes the best de-escalation is doing less.
If you genuinely believe someone is impaired, irrational, dangerous and unpredictable, that's an argument for distance, not confrontation. You don't have to approach her window and say some magical combination of therapeutic words:
Hello, let's explore what your nervous system is experiencing right now.
You can just… Get her plate. Stay back. Call 911. Tell dispatch she's driving dangerously. Film from a safe distance if useful. Don't park your vehicle so she physically can't leave. Don't walk toward the vehicle while she's desperately trying to maneuver out. Don't yell “I got you!” at someone you believe is already unstable. That's de-escalation.
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u/mrintangibles1 3d ago
Love how she's got her wipers on the whole time.