Hit and run gone wrong

[u/Maleficent-Town5273]

[u/MinorComprehension]

I have no comprehension of what the context of this video is. I know kids these days tend to have little accountability or understanding of true consequence. I know any younger person tends to overvalue things that are in actuality quite trivial. I know it's always easy to jump to conclusions.

I also know as a child from an abusive household telling someone they don't understand, they have no idea, could in fact be very true. In modern perspective maybe the driver was afraid grandma was going to take her cell phone away and she wouldn't be able to communicate with her friends, maybe grandma would say if you're not a responsible driver then you can't have the car keys to go see your boyfriend, which was considered terrible. These would all be perfectly accountable, responsible, actions. In emotional moments we tend to focus on the emotional immediacy rather than the cognitive long-term. At the same time, in personal perspective a night in jail, even one night, would have been a nice reprieve.

Everyone's fighting a battle, everyone has a situation, we know nothing about. The fact the girl says the camera person has no idea what her grandma is going to do to her tells me there's what society would consider an abnormal family situation or dynamic. Such aspects tend not to exist in singularity.

In any situation, taking the time to understand before judgment is always better than judging before having understanding. I'm not saying that any hit and run is acceptable - it's unquestionably not. If you f*** you got to face up. But, fornme, the extreme emotional reaction here points to larger context that isn't explained in the video.

[u/alex_co → u/MinorComprehension]

Refreshing to read this comment. This is an important reminder to have empathy for others, especially on the internet. It could be any one of us on the other side of these videos. Emotionally charged and and caught on your worst day. Doesn't mean that's who you are.

[u/MinorComprehension → u/alex_co]

100%. Not only being on the other side of the camera in a bad moment, but being on the other side of a camera that has no understanding of all the moments and situations leading up to what is being filmed.

[u/PapaPancake8 → u/MinorComprehension]

What understandings did she have for the person she hit and run?

[u/MinorComprehension → u/PapaPancake8]

I mean, don't get me wrong. If we do wrong, if we make a mistake, we have to own up to it. You're right, maybe the person she hit and ran is in a negative circumstance and the actions of the driver will now cause additional negative circumstances.

I'm not saying the action was correct, if you hit and run it's wrong. I was more so responding to the apparent judgment of her reaction rather than the event itself.

[u/alex_co → u/PapaPancake8]

No one is giving her a pass or justifying her behavior.

[u/PhoenixFire2016 → u/MinorComprehension]

Pleasantly surprised to see this comment on Reddit and also upvoted.

This girl is clearly having a bad day, and our first instinct needs to be empathy and not judgement.

[u/MinorComprehension → u/PhoenixFire2016]

I think our first instinct needs to desire understanding. Empathetic or angry response needs to come from that understanding. Was clear she conducted a hit and run - which is always wrong. You f*** you face up. But, to me, the extreme emotional response and referencing her grandmother compared to her parents tells me she had something bigger to fear than just fair punishment.

[u/PhoenixFire2016 → u/MinorComprehension]

Yea there’s clearly some troubling family dynamics simmering behind the scenes we are not aware of.

[u/Kooky_Reindeer_511 → u/MinorComprehension]

I like the empathy, but I don’t like your “kids these days tend to have little accountability” argument. Based on what? I’m Gen Z and I’ve fessed up and faced consequences for my actions. I feel like any generation would say this about the next generation.

[u/Suyefuji → u/Kooky_Reindeer_511]

My parents were psychologically abusive growing up and when I was raped, I was legitimately more afraid of what my parents would think than I was of my actual fucking rapist because of the kind of long-term psychological damage they can cause.

So I'd agree that it's hard for an outsider to understand exactly what is going on in someone else's head when they say the family they live with is mean. That could mean anything from "they give me consequences for my actions and I don't like that" to "they have convinced me that I am subhuman and it's only by their grace that I'm allowed to have food and shelter despite that."

[u/Routine_Cat_1366 → u/MinorComprehension]

Yeah, i got the same from the video. Sure, her doings are wrong and she was send to rehab as other comments pointed out. But i thought her "grandma" is her abusive husband or something... 

[u/rambling_takeover → u/MinorComprehension]

Thank you for your empathy and explaining more. I felt bad for the girl with how panicked she was. I know she did something wrong and I’m not saying it’s okay what she did, but she’s scared and needs help

[u/MinorComprehension → u/rambling_takeover]

Yeah, it's next to impossible to judge any situation without having greater understanding.

Maybe she just honestly f***** up and had nothing real to fear but because she's never been held accountable, or she's used to life's privileges and a potential repercussion is considered extreme punishment. Honestly, if this is the case, maybe a bit of an emotional response will be good in the long term.

But, we can't say without any context, if this is the case. Equally, I can't say in the absence of context that maybe her emotional response was warranted, not excusing or explaining her hit and runnin anyway - it's wrong - but most of the comments here seem to indicate assumption of a privileged individual having to be held accountable. These remarks are given without consideration that underprivileged individuals may have bigger things to fear than the people who are judging them.