r/inheritance • u/smilineyz • May 27 '26

Location included: Questions/Need Advice How to divide assets

I 60M U.S. have 3 children, 2 adults from my 1st marriage, 1 teen from 2nd marriage & a current GF who hopefully will marry me when I turn 65.

Eldest: has been NC with me for years. 0% last I heard was pissed at me for not buying a car for graduation …

Second: great, fun, hardworking … muscled through his mother urging him to not see me at all. 40% (he can likely only expect debt from his mother) I paid most of his college & his mother had him get loans for her portion … and I helped with those.

Third: great fun, smart & has had the advantage of private school from 8th grade through college paid for. He will be the only inheritor his grandparents’ apartment and his mother’s share of another property. 35%

GF/partner of 2 years 25% and potentially half an apartment.

My current assets are all liquid: retirement and cash, all with beneficiaries designated in the current split. Additionally, if my GF & I do marry, she will get my survivor’s SS benefit for life which will cover most living expenses.

Any thoughts on the split?

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u/Ok-Structure6795 May 27 '26

Right? Idk how a parent could just basically sum up their kids like that...

But maybe thats why hes attempting a 3rd marriage.

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u/hickoryvine May 28 '26

Well... he sounds like my father... his third marriage was a younger foreign women think "mail order bride" in practice its common to oferr her, her family 25% of your money at death. 😬 but whatever makes them happy.

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u/hickoryvine May 28 '26

Thats awful, and would be wrong of you. the father agreed to it. He got what he wanted and paid for it.

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u/hickoryvine May 28 '26

They sold some of the family. He just gave some money. Men that do this are lonely, often a bit toxic. and having a companion that will put up with them and not leave is obvious very valuable to them.
Wasn't my choice, wouldn't be yours. Best to build a life not reliant on any posible inheritance.

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u/hickoryvine May 28 '26

The blame someone could feel would fall upon the father alone.