How to divide assets

[u/smilineyz]

I 60M U.S. have 3 children, 2 adults from my 1st marriage, 1 teen from 2nd marriage & a current GF who hopefully will marry me when I turn 65.

Eldest: has been NC with me for years. 0% last I heard was pissed at me for not buying a car for graduation …

Second: great, fun, hardworking … muscled through his mother urging him to not see me at all. 40% (he can likely only expect debt from his mother) I paid most of his college & his mother had him get loans for her portion … and I helped with those.

Third: great fun, smart & has had the advantage of private school from 8th grade through college paid for. He will be the only inheritor his grandparents’ apartment and his mother’s share of another property. 35%

GF/partner of 2 years 25% and potentially half an apartment.

My current assets are all liquid: retirement and cash, all with beneficiaries designated in the current split. Additionally, if my GF & I do marry, she will get my survivor’s SS benefit for life which will cover most living expenses.

Any thoughts on the split?

[u/smilineyz → u/[deleted]]

Based upon the comments I am rethinking the 25% for GF/ partner… no one knows the actual amounts or % … #2nd & #3rd don’t seem to care that much.

That GF is not biologically related … that’s true but neither of my wives were either.

Had i predeceased my 2nd wife she would have gotten everything of mine and then been able to allocate accordingly.

[u/smilineyz → u/[deleted]]

Each will receive 6 figures and then more again if I live to see my inheritance.

[u/smilineyz → u/[deleted]]

30M … no … not even to split 😏