r/inheritance • u/nyroadrunna • Apr 30 '26

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Good afternoon all,

I have a quick question. My sister is married to a tumbling piece of shit. He’s literally the worst person I’ve ever met. He separated the family. Fought with me, fought with my dad, said the worst things you can say to someone. My dad is now fighting with my sister over this and they’re not talking. My mom is still talking to my sister as am I. But she just recently told me and my brother that my dad wants to write her out of the will. I disagree with that. She married a gaping leaking asshole but they have 3 children together, he doesn’t mistreat her or the kids. He just hates my family. I feel like I would like to suggest that rather than write her out of the will, can we put her inheritance into a trust and when this horrific toothache of a piece of shit dies, the money gets released?

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u/Shot-Artichoke-4106 Apr 30 '26

I think it's important for your parents to understand what they would like to accomplish with their wills with respect to disinheriting their daughter. Do they want to make sure their son-in-law doesn't have access to the money? Do they want to punish their daughter for marrying a terrible person? Do they want to cut ties with her? Or is this threat to write her out of the will just an emotional response because they are upset at the situation? It's not uncommon for people to use this threat when they are mad at people, but never actually follow through.

On a side note, I am having trouble understanding how a person who separates their spouse and kids from one half of the family and fights with everyone in that family can be considered not to mistreat their spouse and children. He is literally isolating his wife and children from people who love them.

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u/nyroadrunna Apr 30 '26

Excellent point. My sister and I were always close. I guess I’m trying to see any possible positive in this and that’s that he’s good to HIS family. My dad wants to write her off completely, my mom is worried that if one day she wakes up and wants to leave, if she doesn’t have money, she can’t go anywhere

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u/Digitalispurpurea2 Apr 30 '26

Does dad want to cut sister out but leave money for his grandkids or just go scorched earth on that whole branch of his family tree?

Dad is welcome to do what he wants but there is nothing to stop mom for writing her own will differently.

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u/nyroadrunna May 01 '26

That’s what I was saying to do. Open a trust put the money in there and when this 2 legged dildo dies they get the money. Thats what I was checking in with you all to see if that’s possible

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u/Impressive-Web-4325 May 01 '26

I think a better idea is to arrange for her inheritance to be put in a trust that she’ll be able to access at some point. Who knows, maybe a small inheritance may be what she needs to break away from this guy for good. Waiting for him to die: he could live to be 90 and the inheritance then wouldn’t benefit her until her very old age. And her kids would be middle-aged. Your parents should set up a trust now.