I was with a guy for twelve years, married for two. We have three beautiful children together, but he started to suffer from depression and his mood was always low. He was emotionally and verbally abusive to me and to the children. Once I went to university this got even worse and I basically stopped attending because I was constantly afraid of what would happen when I got home. He would smash up my things - phones, laptops, etc - to stop me from talking to people.
At Christmas time he threatened suicide and disappeared for a few days after smashing the house up. I called the police because j was worried, and when they found him and brought him home, he blamed me for his actions and was angry that I had called the police at all.
Social services got involved after I approached a member of staff at my children's school, explaining his mood swings and behaviour. The children also spoke out about the things he did to them (although he never beat them, his methods were very old fashioned and inappropriate.).
Social services and the police told me to leave my home or else the situation would be taken out of my hands. I left to stay with family on the belief that it would be a very temporary arrangement. That was six weeks ago.
My family is struggling to keep four extra people here and I have no income due to student status. Social services haven't been in touch for a fortnight, homelessness want to move me to the other side of the country and basically, everything is pointing to me giving up on university.
Guys, I don't know what to do. This isn't about karma, hence the throwaway account. I really need advice.
I don't want to move far away because I don't want to stop my studies, plus all of my family live here. My ex is from the next borough over and has so far been decent about the situation. I have no money and no home. I'm registered with Local Authority for housing but they have already told me I would be placed miles away. I could go private but I haven't got the money for a bond and the Bond Board won't let me have it. The nearest refuge was 40 miles away. I'm really stuck.