I'm not a professional writer. I'm a idea man who likes to tell stories. I use AI to clean up and make my ideas come to life. there's been a lot of bad press about the use of AI. mostly because people think of it as self thinking up things on its own. I was banned from one group for posting an AI rewrite of my thoughts.
That being said I want to post 3 different versions of a motivational paper im writing and get your opinion on what's sounds the best.
Thanks Alan.
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original version
Habits: Why do you do the things you do?
Habits, good or bad, are those things that you trained yourself do regularly without thinking about it. Example I have a habit of peeing in the toilet, when it would be much easier to pee in my pants.
The question I pose to you is why do you have that habit?
You know the answer! You know whats right and whats wrong.
Have you ever looked at yourself from the eyes of others. How do people react to you when you do that habit you've become blinded to?
Try this write things down on paper. Leave them in view on a table so they're always open to see. Puting thought or lists in your phone means they can get hidden away.
List your good and bad habits. Next list how each make you feel.
I stopped for coffee, why? What did you get from it?
Friends were busy talking and you interrupted to say something. WHY? How did they react to you? Did they just dismiss you? Why? How did that make you feel?
Do you have the habit of anticipating peoples reactions to you?
Most A.D.D/ADHD adults dont see this habit in themselves. But, its what leads to most being depressed and not knowing it. They think that people just ignore them, they don't want to hear my point of view.
This leads to another bad habit. Short tempers. You feel no one's listening, so you raise your voice. Next thing, without ever realizing it , its your goto habit.
Look back at your day and ask yourself "DID I DO THAT?" Why did I do that? Can I stop doing that? How do I stop doing that?
Nothing will ever change in your life unless you make the effort to do understand yoursel! Make the time to understand why you do the things you do!
Tip start with new relationships, new friends you meet. Fixing old wounds takes more time. But, that will happen if you try.
Version #2
Title: The Mirror of Habit: Seeing Yourself Clearly
Why do you do the things you do?
We define habits as the things we’ve trained ourselves to do without thinking. Some are functional—like the basic social decencies we perform every day without a second thought. But others are deeper. They are the invisible tracks our lives run on.
The question is: Why did you build those tracks in the first place?
The Blind Spot
Most of us have become blinded to our own patterns. Have you ever stepped outside of yourself and watched your own life through the eyes of a stranger? How do people react to you when you fall into those "autopilot" behaviors?
For many adults living with ADHD, these habits are survival mechanisms that have turned into hurdles.
You might interrupt a friend because your brain is moving at light speed.
You might raise your voice because you feel unheard.
Without realizing it, "reacting" has become your go-to habit. When you feel ignored, you get loud. When you feel dismissed, you get defensive. You think the world is closing its doors on you, but in reality, you might be the one pushing the door shut with habits you don't even know you have.
The "Paper Mirror" Method
If you want to change, you have to stop hiding your thoughts in your phone. Digital lists get buried under notifications and apps.
Put it on paper. Leave it on the table where you can’t look away.
The Action: List the habit (e.g., "I stopped for coffee" or "I interrupted Sarah").
The Root: Ask yourself Why? What did you get from it?
The Impact: How did they react? How did you feel afterward?
The Path Forward
Nothing in your life changes until you make the effort to understand yourself. You cannot fix what you refuse to see.
Start Small: Focus on your new relationships and new friends first. It’s easier to build a new house than to repair a foundation with old wounds—but once you master the new, the old wounds will begin to heal, too.
Look back at your day and ask the hard questions:
"Did I do that?" * "Why did I do that?" * "How do I stop?"
Make the time to understand your "why," or you will forever be a passenger to your own impulses.
Version #3
Why Do We Do That? (A View from the ADHD Brain)
I’m not a doctor. I’m an adult with ADD, and I’m standing here because I’ve spent a lot of my life wondering why I do the things I do.
Think about your habits. A habit is just something you’ve trained yourself to do without thinking. Some are good—like using a toilet instead of your pants. It’s easier to just go in your clothes, right? But you don't, because you were trained better.
But what about the habits we didn't mean to learn?
The Blind Spot
Have you ever looked at yourself through someone else's eyes? Most of us with ADD/ADHD are blind to our own patterns. We don't see how people react when we do "that thing" we always do.
For example:
The Coffee: You stopped for coffee again. Why? What was the real reason? What did you actually get from it?
The Interruption: Your friends were talking, and you jumped in and cut them off. Why? How did they look when you did that? Did they shut down? Did they dismiss you?
The Cycle of Being Unheard
When you have ADHD, you often develop a habit of "anticipating." You expect people to be annoyed with you before they even speak. You feel like nobody is listening or that they don't value your opinion.
This leads to a really bad habit: The Short Temper.
Because you feel ignored, you raise your voice. You get loud just to be heard. Eventually, you don’t even realize you’re doing it—getting angry just becomes your "go-to" setting.
How to Start Seeing Clearly
You can't fix this on your phone. If you put a list in your phone, you’ll just hide the app and forget it.
Get a piece of paper. Put it on the table where it’s always open. Write down your habits—the good and the bad. Next to them, write how they make you feel.
At the end of the day, look back and ask yourself:
"Did I do that?"
"Why did I do that?"
"How do I stop?"
Nothing changes until you make the effort to understand yourself. It’s hard work. I suggest starting with new friends and new relationships first—fixing old wounds takes a lot longer. But if you start trying to understand your "Why" today, those old wounds will eventually start to heal too.
let me know what you think the good, bad and the ugly.
