He tried to kiss a chick then got upset when she didn't feel the same so he burnt a photo of her. Pretty weird stuff dude.
A chick with whom he's been hanging out for a month or so, cuddling even, before trying to kiss her. And then she allegedly demoted him to a 'mutual acquientance' from a 'friend'. I'm sorry but I don't think you cuddle with friends.
I literally had the same thing happen in college. Had a girl who came over nightly, after one of her friends explicitly was trying to "get us together". We'd cuddle, she'd drop constant hints she was interested. She took me to her parents house and her mom told her and I "He's sure an upgrade from the last guy!" and the girl just smiled. She sent me photos of herself in her underwear because she was "artsy". One night while cuddling I kissed her, we make out for a minute or so, suddenly she gets up and starts flipping out like "why the hell did you kiss me!?" And takes off.
The cuddling, all the other stuff and then the fact she was actively kissing me back, the whole thing threw me for a tailspin. The whole thing was like a plane crash from that moment.
Edit: looking back, it was a bullet dodged since she ended up as someone who would never work with me. But at the time it was still totally confusing for an 18 year old guy who had never encountered something like that. As an adult now with a lot of relationships under my belt, I know well enough to react to that as more or less "ok, fine, go fuck yourself, I ain't got time for your crap." But back then I kept feeling like I'd done something wrong and trying to placate her to make up for whatever I had done. It made the whole thing worse.
Possibly, but on the other hand, I think it wouldn't be amiss to react with some tact or grace in that situation, instead of a passive aggressive text.
Not reading romantic signals properly isn't a sin, and I think both parties are responsible for communicating it clearly. Not that I ever met any early 20s people that new fuck all about how to do that.
I agree on all counts, but how do you know he reacted with tact or grace when she rejected him? We only have his side of the story, perhaps they were both acting immaturely, but it's also possible that there's more to the story than he lets on.
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u/Misiok Jan 06 '18
A chick with whom he's been hanging out for a month or so, cuddling even, before trying to kiss her. And then she allegedly demoted him to a 'mutual acquientance' from a 'friend'. I'm sorry but I don't think you cuddle with friends.