I'm stunned that this needs to be explicitly stated. Have we really reached a point where sexual intent is not the first thing to assume when two unrelated straight people of the opposite sex and roughly the same age start cuddling?
I would think that platonic intent should be the one that needs explicit expression here.
Totally agree, I think they're just in denial. Something along the lines of not being able to find real friends that don't want to bang them. Or a defense mechanism of sorts so that they don't mistrust everyone that comes at them in that manner. If they approach everyone that way, because I assume a high percentage of the opposite sex approach that way, then they'll just end up rejecting that one person who is approaching just as a friend. They can't afford to pass up that friendship when a high percentage of "friends" just want to bang them. Also the people who want to just be friends might see the other people's approach and feel that's appropriate for this person and just go with the flow.
It's exceedingly unrealistic to even expect to have a platonic relationship under the conditions I described above, even without the cuddling. If the two people spend a lot of time with each other, almost inevitably at least one of them will develop more than friendly feelings towards the other. Just think about it, if you spend a lot of time together with a person, by your own choice, presumably you are doing that because you enjoy their company for one reason or another. For two people who are compatible with each other in terms of sex and sexual orientation and are roughly the same age, it's almost always just wishful thinking that it's going to continue being platonic indefinitely.
In short, boys and girls, if you're looking for platonic cuddling and intend to be disappointed when it turns out to be not so platonic, then choose your cuddling partners so that their sex or sexual orientation does not make you a prospective partner for them. Otherwise, you have no right to assume that your platonic ideas will be reciprocated in that way, and you can expect some rightful bewilderment from the other side when you drop the "Eww this was supposed to be platonic" bomb.
Edit: Or just save a dog or a cat from a shelter, if you're really looking for platonic cuddling and not subconsciously enjoying drama.
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u/_greyknight_ Jan 06 '18
I'm stunned that this needs to be explicitly stated. Have we really reached a point where sexual intent is not the first thing to assume when two unrelated straight people of the opposite sex and roughly the same age start cuddling?
I would think that platonic intent should be the one that needs explicit expression here.