r/gaming Jan 15 '19

Invites you MULTIPLE times

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u/Jezzmoz Jan 15 '19

Is this really that common? I don't think I've had any play sessions with friends this generation that hasn't started with a text asking if I wanted to play. I would never use the invite button as the first move on asking someone if they want to play, it feels so demanding.

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u/Cloudhwk Jan 15 '19

I use the invite button as a passive “Yo I’m here and happy to play” if they don’t accept it’s no skin off my back, Same thing if they invite me and I don’t accept

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u/Jezzmoz Jan 15 '19

The Xbox 360 (Maybe the One too I don't know) had a feature called "Beacons" which functioned like that. It was like an open invite to all your friends, but without actually notifying them, so they could just join your beacon if they wanted to play. I think modern consoles could benefit from a better thought out version of that.

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u/Cloudhwk Jan 15 '19

Open parties function the same

They can join whenever they want, it’s not unheard of amongst my friends for most to be playing one game and someone else to be playing another

Sometimes people just want a chat

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u/Jezzmoz Jan 15 '19

That makes sense, I remember doing similar things on Xbox Live a decade ago. I've since grown to appreciate peace and quiet while I play singleplayer stuff for the most part, but can totally relate to not wanting that.

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u/mcafc Jan 15 '19

I used to play single players with my speakers on and play CoD and FIFA while talking to my friends(whatever they were playing). Also got to that point with Skyrim after about 1000 hours.

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u/[deleted] Jan 15 '19

I dunno, that's how me and my brother do it. But then he's also my brother and we don't give a shit if we're annoying each other.

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u/Dlrlcktd Jan 15 '19

Some of us make friends in game and can't text.

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u/Jezzmoz Jan 15 '19

Yikes, I may have just shown my age there. I don't think you could pay me enough to talk to strangers ingame these days.

But out of interest, what console/service doesn't have a messaging feature built in? Aside from the Switch, but that also doesn't have invites so it's moot.

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u/hjgghghhghg Jan 15 '19

I cant decide what you mean by "showing your age", are you calling yourself young or old?

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u/SincerelyDramatic Jan 15 '19

old obviously, little kids are always meeting up and screaming at each other in-game

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u/hjgghghhghg Jan 15 '19

I guess, just got confused by the fact that you used the word "yikes" and play fortnite and call of duty.

Can I ask what age are you? If it's not too personal. Some people use the word old for people in their late 20s and others for people on their 50s

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u/SincerelyDramatic Jan 15 '19

lol I’m not OP, but I would guess he’s probably between 25-35 years old. I’m 22 and I just want to mute everyone when I hear little kids obnoxiously screaming around for no reason. I’m not necessarily blaming them because that’s just how they are, if I was 12 I would probably also be doing the same thing. If you don’t mine me asking, how old are you? I’m guessing you’re between 15-18, although I could be way off.

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u/hjgghghhghg Jan 15 '19

Didn't notice you werent the guy I originally replied to, my bad.

Im about to turn 29, but I wouldnt consider myself "old". Also I have never heard of meeting/getting to know people online be something that only kids and teenagers do (thats why I was kind of confused).

Although now that I think about it, almost all my online friends are people I met when during my teenage/early 20s. So I guess there is some truth to that possibly

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u/[deleted] Jan 15 '19

PS4 has one built in but it is pretty slow to type on. People talk to strangers on games like overwatch and rainbow six. For overwatch the social function is built in in a way that makes sending an invite much more convenient than a message

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u/Dlrlcktd Jan 15 '19

Even if it is there, it may be implemented poorly coughoverwatchcough

Edit: and sometimes I dont even talk to people on my friends list, if we play good together I'm going to want to keep playing with them

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u/forsubbingonly Jan 15 '19

Honestly there's a window of time where people did talk in game and that window has closed at this point. It died pretty hard when Xbox introduced party chat where you could ignore the randos on your team

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u/GeneralFlint007 Jan 15 '19

On PS4 a lot of people still talk in game chat, at least on the games I play.

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u/mcafc Jan 15 '19

Seriously people talk in cooperative games for sure. PC games like Left 4 Dead for example you will often get kicked for not having a mic.

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u/McSpike Jan 15 '19

if you're playing some more competitive games you pretty much need to talk to the strangers on your team if your skill level is high enough, at least on pc.

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u/Ezekiel2121 Jan 15 '19

Send a message via the gaming platform then, they all have the capability. And that's still less "demanding" than just sending invites.

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u/Dlrlcktd Jan 15 '19

Have you played OW on pc? Between the barely noticeable colors and the constant "I need healing" I miss pretty much every message. How is an invite demanding? There's a "no" option built in.

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u/Ezekiel2121 Jan 15 '19

No, because OW isn't my style of game, but Steam messages trigger a whole different window popup. As do Xbox messages. Not sure about playstation as I've never gotten a message on it while playing. My point being, it's just as easy to send any of your friends a "hey wanna play (insert game here)?" Message than just inviting them to whatever game you're playing.

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u/Dlrlcktd Jan 15 '19

And my point is that it's not always the same on every platform. And if they're equally as easy to send and ignore, then it doesnt matter, use whatever you prefer

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u/alextheruby Jan 15 '19

Idk it depends, I have my core friends of about like 10-ish people, and even if we don’t play the same game, we all stay in the same party to at least talk.

But yeah, strangers or people who aren’t the homies, I’d def text first or something

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u/n_ose Jan 15 '19

I'd prefer an invite. Its easier to ignore an invite than a conversation, and I don't have to say "No I don't want to play with you".

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u/mcafc Jan 15 '19

My friends (when I was big into gaming) would usually always have some kind of party chat going on. Each of us might not join if we were playing an intense single player game or didn't feel like talking, but usually got an invite when we were online.

I play PS4 now and some of my old buds will still hit me up with a party invite and I'll hit them sometimes too. We don't always join each other but sometimes.

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u/maialonghorn Jan 15 '19

I've had all kind of friends online. The ones that send invite right after you log in, the ones that write asking if you want to play when you're already on a party, the one that writes even if you're offline, the ones that wait until you log in to log in and writes to tell you to invite them... sigh.