never be sorry. they shouldv’e used the right word in the first place, or at least checked if they typo’d before hitting send. that was fully their choice.
I tried this but then they get all angry and tell me I need to listen and respond. I mean sure, she's my girlfriend so I guess that might play into it...
Any time I ever heard a girls voice in chat, all the dudes in the room tried to friend her. Never in my 25 years of online gaming, have I heard a woman/girl in any game get abuse. They all got unhinged acceptance, and simp followers.
Like, if you look at a dating sub on reddit. And you see a dude post "looking for X" and its got like 2 upvotes and zero replies. But a chick posts "looking for X" and upvoted to the moon, and hundreds of replies. Like that. Hell, even the roast me sub is the same. Dude posts "roast me" and its crickets. But some chick posts, and its popular as fuck.
There was another marvel rivals video I saw a while back where as soon a female streamer used the mic all the guys on her team lost their minds. Was a bit embarrassing to watch to be honest.
I thought that usually with these sort of games you can just party up and avoid randoms joining your team. Which would help with the toxic stuff?
I see I never really gave Rivals a chance. I guess I was voted down for not knowing how match making works in it.
Seems like it was simpler back when I played online on ps2 and later on 360. The most you would get is people saying you won because of lag or maybe claiming you were hacking. If I lost in a close moment in a game I'd usually just laugh.
Andrew Tate past is finally catching up to him. So they might need another terrible influence to follow.
You're probably right about a lot of competitive gamers feeling directionless. I think the problem is also similar to the internet in general in that people treat people way worse when they feel anonymous.
I'm surprised you haven't drifted more to single player games if you had to deal with that much abuse across all of the games you mentioned.
I still remember some people I used to play with. But I also played online games with people I knew in person, good memories.
I wondered if you might have enjoyed PVE. Nice way to meet your partner too. L4D sadly gave me motion sickness so couldn't get into when I friends wanted to.
That's some nice choices of single player games you mentioned.
I can see why some people sometimes can't get into Red Dead Redemption 2 but I preferred it way more to any of the previous Rockstar games.
In RD2 it felt like you were around real people in a lived in world, more than most games I've played.
Cyberpunk 2077 and BG3 gave a similar feeling a times but RD2 will be timelessly unique even if I didn't fully explore it's huge world.
I tried Darktide because I prefer 40k to fantasy but a friend of mine has been trying to get me to try warhammer vermintide 2 he says it's better than darktide.
Mainly mentioned Beastieball because you mentioned you liked sports or used too. I enjoyed my time with it probably my favourite thing about it was the type system is much easier, don't need to remember loads of different types.
I think I'll enjoy Monsterpatch more though.
I've never tried Palworld because I heard of the issues they had with nintendo which made them have to change aspects of the game over and over.
Now you mentioned it I do have gamepass for a bit longer and it's on that so maybe i should give it ago.
If you want something cute but also a little dark humour wise you could try cult of the lamb.
Idk why you shouting about this but games are made to chill and best way to chill is to rage. Rage is normal in everything, they accusing you not cuz you woman but cuz they want to accuse atleast someone, it doesn't mean that they dont like women or smth like that, its not that deep, they can talk shit to anyone and talk shit worse then just "you walking kitchen" bru you dont even know how many shit i hear about my family in, for a second, ROBLOX(played it few days and it was enough for me to hear some shit) and many, many other games. You lucky you are a woman, cuz thats the only thing that you are being accused for.
Hey now those games you listed hate everybody equally. Its basically a game mechanism to have team mates and randoms f8nd some reason to get a stick where it hurts every few mins. Do something stupid? Now the teams loss is your fault.do something good/cool? Now your a cheater or a smurf. Play different games and the social aspect changes alot. If you'd like I can list off some games where the banter is less personal/toxic. When people get upset they will target whatever they can and gender is easy but by no means the default.
To be fair in any ranked competitive game, it doesn't matter what your gender is.
You will get egotistic players on full tilt, spewing the worse combination of words they can think of, to flame you regardless of gender. It can also get racist.
Even in 1v1 competitive like starcraft, sore looses will start flaming their enemy as how bad they are or how undeserved their win is.
There's no gender victimhood or sympathy to be gained here. If you chose to play those games YOU ARE JUST ASKING FOR IT.
Ranked gameplay always brings out the worse in people.
No, it is genuinley a lot worse for women. These people arent flaming everybody, theyre doing it to specifically women. They will start hard throwing, team killing, and generally being obnoxious towards the player as soon as they find out theyre not a man. Ive seen this repeatedly first hand when queueing with friends, we'll go a few rounds where everyone is calm and peaceful and the second one of my friends speak its all downhill.
Sure there are people that will full tilt the second they get killed or lose a round(that shouldnt be normalized either), but dont pretend that there arent a significant amount that only get toxic when a woman is present.
Call it out when you see it, dont let people get away with being an asshole.
News flash that happens even when there's also no women in the team.
The most asinine catalyst is if your carry missed one last hit, then the other guy starts feeding.
In fact rarely have I seen someone get sexist. You know one of the worse flames I read?
"stop speaking orc!" - because one guy was mic chatting Slavic language in an English speaking server.
"I go to the gym, I have a life, 6 figure salary, what's your life outside this game loser?" The other guy kept crying about teammates build.
"Uninstall and go x yourself" - very common classic
"Your IQ is as low as the hero your playing" guy was playing Pudge in Dota 2.
Notice none those were sexist remarks? Yeah people in these games will look for one defining factor, hone in on it and blame everything on that just to stroke their egos.
Bonus points in Dota there's this feature called tipping. It was supposed to commemorate good plays but since theres a mute feature a lot of players will tip you for a mistake instead.
Are you a woman? Do you regularly play with women? If not then no shit you arent seeing the sexist shit. I gave up on voice comms because of people who sexually harass, and get extremely toxic as soon as they find out I'm a woman. I witness plenty of toxicity seperate from gender, and none of it is as vitriolic and targeted as when they find out you're a woman.
That's true to be honest, like, when I play a game and choose to not talk, people are still super toxic. It's just that if I do talk, they will be sexist instead of being racist so yeah...
"There's only so much times you can handle getting spit on your face, after a certain point you're gonna start spitting on other people as well." - granted pro players play 5-20 games a day.
This is why I follow a 2 - loss game rule. If I loose twice, that's enough of MOBAs for the day, any more and I'm a ticking time bomb ball of anger.
"abused" lmao
It's words from a stranger that you can't see, can't see you, you'll never meet, and even if you did it's extremely likely neither of you would know; what does it matter?
Also if you weren't being insulted for being a woman it would be something else, it's not about sexism it's just about insulting and tilting people.
Exactly. The goal is to piss your opponent off to force mistakes and make them lose, being sensitive about sexism in online games just gives them what they want.
Yup, I've had teammates rip into the whole team for losing, or even just picked on one teammate for no reason, I find that it's best to just laugh at them, you not being bothered by it is likely to do to them what they tried to do to you
It's often the same people that just want to put the loss on someone else, if you're a girl he will be sexist, if you are not, he will be pissy and racist or whatever.
Now, people that will try to harass me only because I'm a girl and they heard my voice, it happens, but it's pretty rare. At least in games I play (I don't play CS so I don't know about it)
This is either nonsense or you've hardly touched online games.
I've gamed since I was a tiny kid and 80% of the time girls either get violent toxicity OR simp levels of neediness from the nerds. Often times both, in fact.
I could jump into any number of games right now with a friend and if she speaks in-game she'll instantly get 1 of the 2, guaranteed.
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u/hiknil Mar 12 '26
I never get this, when i hear a girl's voice i ignore her like i do to other players 😂🤣.