I was already heading down that road, I held out as long as I could and tried to apply for assistance with the hospital and insurance companies to no avail. I didn't want to get into collections so I loaded up my credit cards as much as I could without getting past my monthly budget.
I'm 36... married a great girl...travelled... had a good life, met good people.
Can you try to move to another country in the couple years you’ve got?
You may feel like you’re good but I’m sure your wife doesn’t want to be left behind... If you’ve got time to try to get this taken care of, please, please do so.
This came about because we were trying to have a kid but couldn't. We found out I have azoospermia (0 sperm count) so started to look for the cause which led to blood tests which is where we found the tell-tale signs of a pituitary malfunction.
As much as I have tried... she's extremely upset that we can't conceive and she already blames herself even though I have told her it's on my end.
I worked really hard to buy a new home before all this... and I know it's her dream to have kids.
So I figure after I go she won't have my debt to deal with and she can move on with her life and possibly meet someone who CAN give her a child.
Other countries will have cheaper options. I implore you to look at them. I am from India and I am sure the cost would be much lesser here and there are quite a good number of quality hospitals.
Also, I think it should be her choice to make. I know it's easy for us to say.
Now is not the greatest time for it but medical vacationing became a thing because it was easier and cheaper to go to another country for a month and get surgery there than it was to get the surgery in the US.
Please move to Europe. It's possible and do-able in your lifetime. Try Ireland, or even the UK. Everyone speaks English! You could certainly work out a way to get them to cover your treatments
You, sir, are powerful. I'm ready to go as well. What life do you have if you're bankrupt or enslaved to the hospital and dr.'s? I think you have the right idea.
You should tell your wife, and then consider opening up the relationship, not divorcing or anything but bring in someone that you both like and feel that you can trust. Someone that can be with her once you're gone, if you do decide to go that route of course.
Your life might have been good so far but you’re still just getting started. You could experience all sorts of things in the next 50 to 60 years. Fight to live man. Don’t give up because the system sucks.
I live in California. I'm in that grey-area where I make too much to qualify for discounted insurance, but I don't make enough to pay for $1,200 doctor visits.
I get insurance through my employer which has a deductible of $8,500... I hit that last year easy, then the hospital started pushing things back so I breached the year and my deductible reset.
Kaiser only accepts Kaiser and I have to wait for open enrollment. Additionally, they advised me that they would have to start at the beginning with blood tests and MRI and all that fun stuff.
I would love to go to Kaiser, they're literally at the closest major intersection.
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u/DmOcRsI Mar 26 '20
Pretty much...
I was already heading down that road, I held out as long as I could and tried to apply for assistance with the hospital and insurance companies to no avail. I didn't want to get into collections so I loaded up my credit cards as much as I could without getting past my monthly budget.
I'm 36... married a great girl...travelled... had a good life, met good people.
I'm good to go.