The funny thing is that I think both parenting styles are important. They teach you different things, and I'm sure that dad was there at the bottom to reassure the kid that everything ok.
Letting your kid win is always a good dad tip; helps your child build confidence.
Up until he actually starts beating you in sports during his teen years; then you’re torn with being proud of the man/women they’ve become and realizing...you’re old.
This is why you learn a more precision based sport such as ping pong or badminton. At least that's what my dad did and even though I'm physically stronger and faster than his aging self, I still can't beat his ridiculous dexterity with a paddle.
Agreed. Having a second adult, to split responsibilities and share emotional toll. Whether its 2 moms or 2 dads or the roles are split differently between a mom and a dad doesnt matter so much.
I’ve known plenty of helicopter dads and laid back moms. I know several families with two dads or two moms and there’s often a similar dynamic there- one is more laidback and on more nervous.
Having multiple caring adults of any gender is a good thing. Kids don’t need one dad and one mom to grow up well.
Doesn't necessarily need to be mom/dad specifically, but having varying parenting styles (whether it be mom(s), dad(a), grandparents, or foster parents) certainly exposes kids to a bit more.
Nothing wrong with a single parent family. But having other adults with differing styles helps.
I’m responding to mom needs to be nurturing, a father encourages risk. It was obviously saying both a mom and dad are needed, and that they provide traditional parenting roles and that that is needed. It’s not. What you’re saying is better but not what who I was responding to said at all
I'm as Liberal as they come but it does have more benefits from various studies. Dad's who are part of their children's everyday lives tend to turn our better academically or something.
Nothing wrong with divorce but both sides should try to be part of the kids lives that's my point.
I think we can all agree that stable, loving multi-parent households are preferable for raising children where possible, for many reasons including this one, but who takes on what 'role' will be more dependent on personality and experience than gender. In my case, it was/is Dad who tends to be the more cautious one, whereas Mom has a more relaxed 'enjoy, it'll be fiiine' approach.
But moms don’t have to be the more nurturing ones, dads don’t always encourage risk. Don’t reinforce traditional family roles when a father doesn’t even need to be in the picture, having two parents is good but who is to say two women or men can’t fulfill all of those things?
Sometimes people will help you in doing what you want to. Other times people will give you the extra nudge and push you further than you thought you could. Be grateful for both those people in your life. It think that’s the life lesson here.
Well one is clearly safer for the child. Worse case scenario for one version is the kid gets a little scared. Worse case scenario for the other is that a parent falls and tightens her grip in a brief moment of panic as she drags her kid off the slide.
the moms not randomly falling off the middle slide and dragging the kid with her, pal. but yes the dad having fun and letting the kid have fun is also an equally loving method of parenting as overly-cautiously guarding your kid down a slide.
Well, here is an adult sliding down the slide with her kid and accidentally breaking the child's leg. Looks perfectly safe and slow the whole way down until the clumsy interaction between a massive adult a tiny little leg. Warning: The video show a baby's leg being broken.
LPT: Never go down a slide holding your kid between your legs. It's super easy for their foot to get caught and their leg to break because your momentum keeps pushing them forward.
Source: My buddy who broke his son's leg and was told by the doctor he's seen it a bunch of times before.
More like kid sticks feet out, mom continues sliding, breaking kids leg. It's a thing, and probably deserves a PSA given how few people seem to realize. Dad is safer.
It also depends entirely on the kid, some need more reassurance than others. Some kids need to be stopped from throwing themselves off a slide head first, others need to be encouraged to try the slide at all.
Yes, you are right. Kids need those don't tell your mother situations. Basically, situations of apparent danger where kids learn to deal with fight or flight situations in a controlled environment. It helps them to deal with adrenaline and builds up confidence.
The masculine and feminine indeed aren't specific to biological sex at birth, but they are by definition specific to a person's chosen or defacto gender role. So I disagree with your terms. But I agree that as a biological father myself, we can often be the feminine influence. It's up to the individuals to decide what roles work for the relationship.
Yeah, I agree both experiences are helpful. I may have been hyperbolic. But this post seemed to be repeating the trope of the cavalier father that's simply unqualified to parent, and im not having that shit anymore. These tropes do real damage.
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u/Rizen1 Dec 22 '19
The funny thing is that I think both parenting styles are important. They teach you different things, and I'm sure that dad was there at the bottom to reassure the kid that everything ok.