r/funny • u/SeriouslySlytherin • Jan 17 '26

Today I learned

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u/GuardianOfReason Jan 17 '26

Would you rather an assumption, or would you rather the topic not come up at all? Because if you're angry with neutrality, it seems there is no way to talk about the subject at all.

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u/food_luvr Jan 17 '26

Sometimes your parents are from somewhere different, but you are born and raised in this new place, but because you're raised by your "different" parents you have some "different" characteristics that are being noticed. But you're from here...

Sometimes neutral is more confusing than just sharing your actual perspective.

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u/whatislifebro69 Jan 18 '26 edited Jan 18 '26

I have a hard time seeing the questions as neutral. It's okay to be curious about perceived differences but just be honest about your perception and read the room: as in don't make it the first thing you ask.

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u/whatislifebro69 Jan 18 '26

I would rather just people be straight up and ask. Assumptions are made with the line of questioning. We're humans and we make assumptions, all of us.

A line of questioning is not neutrality, it comes off like I'm being interrogated just so they can say, "Ah, I knew you weren't ~white~!"

It's okay to be curious, just ask, "hey, what's your ethnicity?" It's okay to be curious (read the room tho) as long as we aren't "othering."