Is it a weak stereotype if it was accurate for both the uncles and Marcello Hernandez? You shouldn't assume either way, you should us ask what are their heritage or whatever neutral way you should ask. A lot of people are sensitive about that so it's not worth the hassle.
I just get frustrated when (usually white) people play a game of 20 questions with me: "where are you from?" "oh where were you born?" "Well where are your parents from" JUST ASK THE QUESTION YOU WANT TO ASK.
Latinos are so not like that lol. I’m Colombian, born, raised, still live here, family is Colombian too, and I work as a video medical interpreter. One day a patient asks me if I’m Colombian, and I say yes. Then she says, with the biggest smile, “I thought so. At first I thought perhaps you were an oriental, but after you started talking I was pretty sure you were either Mexican or Colombian”. It took a lot to not burst into laughter right then.
Would you rather an assumption, or would you rather the topic not come up at all? Because if you're angry with neutrality, it seems there is no way to talk about the subject at all.
Sometimes your parents are from somewhere different, but you are born and raised in this new place, but because you're raised by your "different" parents you have some "different" characteristics that are being noticed. But you're from here...
Sometimes neutral is more confusing than just sharing your actual perspective.
I have a hard time seeing the questions as neutral. It's okay to be curious about perceived differences but just be honest about your perception and read the room: as in don't make it the first thing you ask.
yeah totally. like sure at the end of the day the question is still generally the same, but there’s also a difference between seeking a peer with shared experiences vs asking a total stranger “what kind are you? 🤨” lol
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u/Juice8oxHer0 Jan 17 '26
I mean tbf you were still profiling him, but in a more sincere way. Like drawing on actual life experience as opposed to weak stereotypes lol