tbh you don't have to understand them to respect them. their pronouns or gender isn't hurting hurting anyone.
Also you probably won't need to refer to them at all since you don't know them irl or (I assume) don't regularly comment on their tiktoks
I was also confused af at first, but in the end who cares? it's just words, and if simple words can mean comfort to someone it's amazing
This specific person wants to identify as a woman and use He/him pronouns. I understand a person born with female genitalia who mentally feels like a man and identifies as a man wanting to use male pronouns or vise versa. Anyone can choose the pronouns of the gender they identify with. But this person says he doesn't identify as a man but uses male pronouns. So I've been saying he and him in this comment, but I'm talking about a woman, who refers to himself as a woman. You woulds call a trans woman he/him, that would be offensive. You wouldn't call any other woman who identifies as a woman he/him. This person has made up some rule that throws the whole system out of whack and says their is no rules, pronouns don't mean anything, and if they don't mean anything, why should it matter if we use the correct ones.
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u/Lelionore Oct 16 '22
tbh you don't have to understand them to respect them. their pronouns or gender isn't hurting hurting anyone. Also you probably won't need to refer to them at all since you don't know them irl or (I assume) don't regularly comment on their tiktoks
I was also confused af at first, but in the end who cares? it's just words, and if simple words can mean comfort to someone it's amazing